Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 21:24     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:I had initially a very happy, fairytale-like marriage (12 years). Then he cheated and dumped me for a business partner, when our son was in high school. I "mommy-tracked" in my career so my eH could travel. I was that submissive housewife with small jobs on a side for 16 years. Then he told me he no longer needed a "cook in the kitchen" and doesn't plan his retirement with me.
After such a let-down, I am working on rebuilding my career a life, and taking care of people who really matter- my child and my parents.

I got some assets in divorce; my exH was a high net worth individual. I miss a little bit the financial freedom. I would remarry only for a high joint net worth. I do think that men in general are not reliable. Nodoby is 100% reliable, even those who appear to have integrity initially. Therefore, marriage only would make sense from financial standpoint eg to raise my and my family net worth to the next level. I dont need marriage for companionship.


Second to last sentence is sad, and the last sentence, a loe
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 21:20     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:44 and 42. Man. Zero benefits to marriage other than to raise kids and share finances. I am done with kids and am financially successful.

Marriage is where romance and sex go to die. I am having an amazing time being so single. Why break back into prison?


Love the “ marriage is where romance and sex go to die”.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 21:19     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All men should be required to read this board for at least two hours before considering marriage.


Pretty sure almost every woman responding works. I do not get your point. I was a near equal partner financially in my marriage …I also sacrificed my own career progression following his career. I did not get 50/50 in my divorce. I agreed to less or he would have burned through money to spite me. I have the lowest income posted in this thread and we kept our own retirements. I do not need a man…I have worked my entire life. I do not understand the point of your post. I did not get anything extra being married.


NP here - if anything, I would think all women should be required to read this before deciding to marry!


Was thinking the same! Should be required reading for EVERYONE, not just men.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 21:17     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:I’m equally unimpressed by women and this forum isn’t doing anything to change my mind. Every time I peruse this site it reinforces my decision to never marry again. Thank you ladies. Please keep it up.



It so true, I mean, they ALWAYS are the victim
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 20:29     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this thread?


Because there are a lot of liars on this board.



Right- gold diggers or liars.

Weirdo. Sorry the reality isn’t suiting your misogynistic narrative
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 20:14     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this thread?


Because there are a lot of liars on this board.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 20:08     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is so depressing.


This thread demonstrates there are so so many bitter women on this site…. “ Men” generalized, criticized over and over.


You are the only bitter one. We made our own money and will have a lot of fun with it. Don't need to rely on a man, and don't want to take care of an old man.


+1. Women posting do not seem bitter at all. In fact, they sound happy. Happy with their life after a divorced. I think PP is threatened by the idea of a happily divorced woman who does not need a man to support or define her (financially or otherwise).
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 20:07     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All men should be required to read this board for at least two hours before considering marriage.


Pretty sure almost every woman responding works. I do not get your point. I was a near equal partner financially in my marriage …I also sacrificed my own career progression following his career. I did not get 50/50 in my divorce. I agreed to less or he would have burned through money to spite me. I have the lowest income posted in this thread and we kept our own retirements. I do not need a man…I have worked my entire life. I do not understand the point of your post. I did not get anything extra being married.


NP here - if anything, I would think all women should be required to read this before deciding to marry!
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 20:04     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is so depressing.


This thread demonstrates there are so so many bitter women on this site…. “ Men” generalized, criticized over and over.


You are the only bitter one. We made our own money and will have a lot of fun with it. Don't need to rely on a man, and don't want to take care of an old man.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:55     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?



F, 45. Income 400k, NW 12.7m (trust fund involved).


Is it your employment income or from the trust fund ?



Employment income.


Why is the trust fund not making any money ?


It is. I reinvest. It’s growing substantially while I support myself and my family. I don’t save for their college, otherwise don’t do much differently.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:53     Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?



F, 45. Income 400k, NW 12.7m (trust fund involved).


Is it your employment income or from the trust fund ?



Employment income.


Why is the trust fund not making any money ?
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:53     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are you? How old when you divorced? Why will you never remarry?


I said I’d never remarry and then 9 years later, I remarried.


How old were you when you divorced and when you remarried?


I was 35 when I divorced.


That makes sense. 35 is pretty young. I divorced at 42 and it has only been two years and still feel I will absolutely never remarry. If I was 35 upon divorce, I could see myself changing my mind.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:50     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:All men should be required to read this board for at least two hours before considering marriage.


Pretty sure almost every woman responding works. I do not get your point. I was a near equal partner financially in my marriage …I also sacrificed my own career progression following his career. I did not get 50/50 in my divorce. I agreed to less or he would have burned through money to spite me. I have the lowest income posted in this thread and we kept our own retirements. I do not need a man…I have worked my entire life. I do not understand the point of your post. I did not get anything extra being married.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:46     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
I'm not divorced (considered it but we made other arrangements). If my husband dies first, I'm never getting married again.

I'd much rather enjoy the companionship of someone and then go home to my own place where I don't have to compromise or carry more than my share of the mental and emotional labor for the household ever again.

I earn enough to be fine single.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2021 19:34     Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this thread?



Because being rich affords women the luxury of not having to marry a man.