Anonymous wrote:Find a bar where young lawyers hang out - lots of nice nerdy guys that have been gunning forever and would love to meet somebody that's not too complicated - but you will need to be somewhat smart/good conversationalist to pull this off or very good looking.

Op is mid 30s, most young law associates are looking for someone around their own age or a little younger.

You’re already mid thirties and haven’t figured this out yet?

There are plenty of men that like traditional women out there. They tend to not marry women in their mid 30s that "love sex" and spent the last 15 years having it with random artsy guys and who now want to settle.down. Most people who think this way are paired up by early to mid 20s and married before 30.

Sorry. Try a divorced guy maybe?

Date older. Someone in their late 40s or early 50s will be happy to find someone who is younger, good looking, and willing to give them attention. They will want you to be financially stable and have a profession, they may not want kids - if they wanted them, they probably would look for someone younger.

Not trying to be mean, I have several friends in their mid 30s, and for those that were picky about looks, money, etc, they had to go older to get attention from the men they wanted. They all just used dating apps, so it’s not like there are special bars they find these guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom here. I have counseled my over achieving high earner of a son never to marry someone like you. His wife needs to pull her weight.

+1,000

And my dad taught my sisters and I to make our own $$.

I married well (husband makes $$$), but I am a STEM major/graduate degree that has always made my own bank.

I do not want my sons to end up with gold diggers that are only into them for the wallet.

But, smart, decent men can smell that kind a mile away. Probably why these pps have had no luck

+3 yup! I’m ambitious educated great jobs and attracted and married a rich guy. And I’m an excellent home maker and mom.

Yeah me too. I carry my weight and expect my daughters to do the same. It's an insurance policy against divorce and infidelity. I'm highly educated, bring in as much as my husband and take care of my body and looks. My family is a bit wealthier, but not too different than his. Ironically, statistically, we are the demographic least likely to divorce. I don't want any man freeloading off my family, so my daughters will not do this anyone either.

Good luck to you the OP! I'm sure there is some desperate guy out there.

Find a bar where young lawyers hang out - lots of nice nerdy guys that have been gunning forever and would love to meet somebody that's not too complicated - but you will need to be somewhat smart/good conversationalist to pull this off or very good looking.

Anonymous wrote:I have a bunch of single male friends in your age range who are well-off (I'm similar, but happily married). None of them are looking for a low-ambition wife who is just pretty and brings nothing to the table. You say you like sex and having children. Well, just about every woman loves children and most women love sex (at least during the dating phase).

My theory is that these guys would feel the other guys in our group would look down on him if he's just getting a "trophy" wife.

Ha! OP is no trophy.

They’re on the apps, just like all other single men. Look for the nerds.

Ok the question is WHERE do you meet these type of guys

Not what the standards are that you should already meet

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Anonymous wrote:Mom here. I have counseled my over achieving high earner of a son never to marry someone like you. His wife needs to pull her weight.

+1,000

And my dad taught my sisters and I to make our own $$.

I married well (husband makes $$$), but I am a STEM major/graduate degree that has always made my own bank.

I do not want my sons to end up with gold diggers that are only into them for the wallet.

But, smart, decent men can smell that kind a mile away. Probably why these pps have had no luck

+3 yup! I’m ambitious educated great jobs and attracted and married a rich guy. And I’m an excellent home maker and mom.

Maybe you can have an obsessive hobby or interest and snag someone who is also into that? How about a mini triathlon training program, cross fit, jujitsu, or something similar? Look for nerds who like to exercise. All the men I went to college with who got rich picked up at least one of these. Maybe a cycling group? Pick something male dominated and time consuming. You can be the girl that really gets them.

You reek of desperation, no rich guy will want to marry you. And while age and just college education are big issues against you, it’s the lame desperation and the feeling of being a loser that will ensure this doesn’t happen for you.

Be thin, sexy, and confident

Anonymous wrote:Date nerds. Don’t be picky about looks. Tech guys, engineers, and the like.

I agree this is who OP needs but where does she meet them? They are probably introverts. Dating websites.

OP, I met my DH in undergrad. He wasn’t rich then, and probably isn’t right now by DCUM standards. But I have been a SAHM for 15 years and we have a comfortable life and nice home.

Anonymous wrote:Mom here. I have counseled my over achieving high earner of a son never to marry someone like you. His wife needs to pull her weight.

+1,000

And my dad taught my sisters and I to make our own $$.

I married well (husband makes $$$), but I am a STEM major/graduate degree that has always made my own bank.

I do not want my sons to end up with gold diggers that are only into them for the wallet.

But, smart, decent men can smell that kind a mile away. Probably why these pps have had no luck