Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

They will get there.

Why does it have to be at 20 instead of 22?

You sound pretty rigid.

That's ironic, considering it's the college that has the no-exceptions rule to living in their dorm$$

It would be interesting to see the result of a challenge to these practices on grounds that they are an unlawful tying arrangement and/or violate the antitrust laws. The idea that a private service provider should be able to tell its customers where to live is preposterous.

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to imagine a parent getting all twisted up because her kid might not be able to get a cat or drink beer in his or her room senior year. Is this really a decision point, OP? Seriously?

OP here. It's a very significant factor for the student's decision making, yes. It's not about having a beer with your dog. It's about independence and autonomy. You know, making important choices for yourself as the adult that you are.

I should have known that SLAC grads from Tiny Rural Town, NewEngland would be overrepresented in the DCUM responses. If I went to school in Waterville, ME I'd likely stay on campus for 4 yrs, too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:23 year olds are typically not in college.
Not sure what schools have curfews. I went to a SLAC that had on-campus housing for all 4 years. It was fabulous. No curfew. Juniors and seniors had really nice rooms. Or they had suites with friends. No worry about rent.

You’re making an issue out of nothing.

OP here. My kid will be 22 years and 11 months old assuming he graduates in 4 years. He's not at all atypical for males in the class of '22.

Yeah, because you redshirted him!

Went to a SLAC which requires this other then living in Greek and theme houses. Loved it. Upper class housing was pretty much apartment/suite style.

Most college seniors in schools like this are 21 on the verge of turning 22. Sorry if you red shirted your kid.

Requiring on campus living builds community. It’s a good thing. Getting to live in a nice apartment is something kids can look forward to once they graduate, hopefully we’ll before their twenty third birthday.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Np you have a lifetime to do this, why the rush?

You are envisioning dorm housing as much more restrictive than it is. I know of none that have curfews -- for college students, really? They come and go at all hours. Nobody checks whether you are bringing in alcohol or visitors.

In many, it does promote community and there is a strong tie even as an alumni, to where you lived. Think Harvard's Houses or Yale's Colleges. I really enjoyed this part of college life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

They will get there.

Why does it have to be at 20 instead of 22?

You sound pretty rigid.

Anonymous wrote:23 year olds are typically not in college.
Not sure what schools have curfews. I went to a SLAC that had on-campus housing for all 4 years. It was fabulous. No curfew. Juniors and seniors had really nice rooms. Or they had suites with friends. No worry about rent.

You’re making an issue out of nothing.

OP here. My kid will be 22 years and 11 months old assuming he graduates in 4 years. He's not at all atypical for males in the class of '22.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

PS-Most campuses have apartments, with kitchens etc for juniors and seniors. They do not live in freshmen doubles.

My kid wanted a school like this. She did not want a ghost town at 4 pm on Friday (where kids all went their own ways). This set up GREATLY enhances school spirit, attendance at campus events, etc.

It is also safer for kids who have been drinking to walk from building to building (or take the free campus shuttle), rather than drive. It also greatly enhances a school's ablity to keep pandemics under control, when their students are somewhat segregated from the outer world.

What is your rush for them to blend into the larger population of adults, where they will have to spend most of their lives?

I think your model of college differs from that of many others. Neither of us are right, but perhaps discuss with your child in case they don't share your world view of what is desirable.

One more for off campus living. I lived in a university owned apartment for sophomore year then a private off campus house junior and senior year. Just awesome, even greater sense of freedom and responsibility and a good training ground for post college living. Plus having gatherings at the house was so great compared to suites and dorm rooms. Bonfires in the backyard, grilling out with friends, getting misty over here!