Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 16:11     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:At this age, they need parent confirmation of plan. Can’t tell you how many times my kid makes a plan with friends and then it turns out friend didn’t know they were going out of town for weekend, having lunch with grandma, running errands, grounded until homework done, etc, etc.


Yeah, this. My kids are slightly younger, but as much as I would love for them to be able to make their own plans, my involvement is still necessary.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 16:08     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:We do both - sometimes kids, sometimes parents but don't eb surprised if a parent says no right now. We'd say no.


Would you say no to anything outdoors?

I was kind of assuming that by insisting on outdoors, and masks, and on each parent driving their kid, I’d be on the covid conservative side.

Are there families with kids in school who wouldn’t allow that?


Because the kids end up not social distancing. A few of my child's friends don't respect boundaries or social distance so its way to close for comfort for an unvaccinated child and those kid are going to school, traveling, dining out and many other activities so the risk is to great for my child.


I understand that. I guess I was worried that if I'm literally calling parents I've never met and saying "my kid wants to have yours over, but we aren't having guests at the house due to covid, and we aren't sharing cars, so can you drive your kid to X outdoor activity?" parents who are less covid cautious would think "that's a pain" and say no. It surprises me that there are parents who would get that invitation and think "I bet they aren't taking precautions".


If you called and said that, I’d feel bad for your kid, but I’d probably think you were a bit much to deal with.


OP here,

and fair enough. I expect that some people will react that way. I'm pretty sure that my kid would be more harmed by losing a close family member than by your not sending your kid to minigolf.

I was just surprised that other parents who do in person school (so not zero risk families) would hear it and think "Yeah, not going anywhere with them, they're probably too relaxed about covid".
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 15:08     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We do both - sometimes kids, sometimes parents but don't eb surprised if a parent says no right now. We'd say no.


Would you say no to anything outdoors?

I was kind of assuming that by insisting on outdoors, and masks, and on each parent driving their kid, I’d be on the covid conservative side.

Are there families with kids in school who wouldn’t allow that?


Because the kids end up not social distancing. A few of my child's friends don't respect boundaries or social distance so its way to close for comfort for an unvaccinated child and those kid are going to school, traveling, dining out and many other activities so the risk is to great for my child.


I understand that. I guess I was worried that if I'm literally calling parents I've never met and saying "my kid wants to have yours over, but we aren't having guests at the house due to covid, and we aren't sharing cars, so can you drive your kid to X outdoor activity?" parents who are less covid cautious would think "that's a pain" and say no. It surprises me that there are parents who would get that invitation and think "I bet they aren't taking precautions".


If you called and said that, I’d feel bad for your kid, but I’d probably think you were a bit much to deal with.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:49     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We do both - sometimes kids, sometimes parents but don't eb surprised if a parent says no right now. We'd say no.


Would you say no to anything outdoors?

I was kind of assuming that by insisting on outdoors, and masks, and on each parent driving their kid, I’d be on the covid conservative side.

Are there families with kids in school who wouldn’t allow that?


Because the kids end up not social distancing. A few of my child's friends don't respect boundaries or social distance so its way to close for comfort for an unvaccinated child and those kid are going to school, traveling, dining out and many other activities so the risk is to great for my child.


I understand that. I guess I was worried that if I'm literally calling parents I've never met and saying "my kid wants to have yours over, but we aren't having guests at the house due to covid, and we aren't sharing cars, so can you drive your kid to X outdoor activity?" parents who are less covid cautious would think "that's a pain" and say no. It surprises me that there are parents who would get that invitation and think "I bet they aren't taking precautions".
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:48     Subject: Re:What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
My ten year old boys love to kick the soccer ball around with their friends. When they get bored they may go to the playground play structure to goof around and talk Pokemon.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:45     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
My kid hangs out with friends after school every Friday. They get out a 1 so they go get lunch together (they walk to a nearby shopping center). He arranges those days himself.

If he wants to go to someone's house or elsewhere that involves driving he comes up with the idea and the moms check in with the others to make sure it's ok.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:43     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
We haven’t been limiting this at all. They do sleepovers, etc.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:16     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We do both - sometimes kids, sometimes parents but don't eb surprised if a parent says no right now. We'd say no.


Would you say no to anything outdoors?

I was kind of assuming that by insisting on outdoors, and masks, and on each parent driving their kid, I’d be on the covid conservative side.

Are there families with kids in school who wouldn’t allow that?


Because the kids end up not social distancing. A few of my child's friends don't respect boundaries or social distance so its way to close for comfort for an unvaccinated child and those kid are going to school, traveling, dining out and many other activities so the risk is to great for my child.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:14     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Kids with phones typically make the play date first and then parents get in touch to firm up the details


+1 this is how it's been with our kids once they are >10.

Adding--even if they don't have their own phones, they do it through the laptops/chromebooks.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 14:13     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:Kids with phones typically make the play date first and then parents get in touch to firm up the details


+1 this is how it's been with our kids once they are >10.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 13:53     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:We have a different perspective. These kids are in close quarters with each other all day long. If the kids are in your child's classroom or some classes together, I'm not sure why you feel like they need to stay outside in their spare time. Of all the kids out there, they are already exposed to classmates.

If the kids aren't in class together, then outside activities are a good idea.


You can't understand why I wouldn't want your unvaccinated kid in my house with my high risk family member, who isn't in the same class?

If you're offended because my kid invites yours to minigolf instead of my house, just say no. No need to lecture.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 13:52     Subject: Re:What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:Where do you live generally.

My kids play bb, go to eat, movies, swimming, fishing, ping pong, tennis


We're in Silver Spring.

Where are outdoor movies and ping pong in the area?

Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 10:00     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
We have a different perspective. These kids are in close quarters with each other all day long. If the kids are in your child's classroom or some classes together, I'm not sure why you feel like they need to stay outside in their spare time. Of all the kids out there, they are already exposed to classmates.

If the kids aren't in class together, then outside activities are a good idea.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 09:40     Subject: What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Anonymous wrote:Biking
Hiking
Rick climbing
Skateboarding
Frisbee golf


Any good suggestions for outdoor rock climbing or frisbee golf in the area?
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2021 09:40     Subject: Re:What is the norm on 11 year olds getting together outside of school during covid?
Where do you live generally.

My kids play bb, go to eat, movies, swimming, fishing, ping pong, tennis