Anonymous wrote:I usually post a few weekend pics of my preschool aged kids, and milestone pics like first days. I keep my friend list pretty low around 80 so I don’t think it’s for “attention”. I love looking back through the posts to be amazed at the cool things I’ve already forgotten about and that seer that we’ve actually accomplished a lot. I also hope my kids go through it someday and have great memories. Parenting goes by fast! The grandparents/family live away and abroad so it means a lot to them. I certainly would not be offended for anyone to unfollow me! I love seeing other parents posts because parenting can be isolating and also I get great ideas. I avoid embarrassing or “bad day” pics due to kid consent issues and I just accept that everything we see on Facebook is rose colored and not necessarily real life.

Oh yes it is so much easier to find stuff if you have posted it to Instagram! I often regret not posting important things that happened a few years ago because it’s hard to dig through tens of thousands of worthless to find them.

I don’t know but I certainly don’t mind. My friends are typically pretty funny so if there is a post about their kids it’s either because it’s cute, a brag about them (and I am so here for bragging about their kids, I love to hear it), or something funny.

Sometimes people are just boring so I skim past their stuff.

I think a full Facebook post for every family outing is a bit much, but I love the first day of school, holiday, etc. photos of my friend's kids. I think the people who post constantly are doing it for attention, but if it bothers you, OP, scroll on by.

I usually post a few weekend pics of my preschool aged kids, and milestone pics like first days. I keep my friend list pretty low around 80 so I don’t think it’s for “attention”. I love looking back through the posts to be amazed at the cool things I’ve already forgotten about and that seer that we’ve actually accomplished a lot. I also hope my kids go through it someday and have great memories. Parenting goes by fast! The grandparents/family live away and abroad so it means a lot to them. I certainly would not be offended for anyone to unfollow me! I love seeing other parents posts because parenting can be isolating and also I get great ideas. I avoid embarrassing or “bad day” pics due to kid consent issues and I just accept that everything we see on Facebook is rose colored and not necessarily real life.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, honest question…how old are you? Most friends I know no longer use Facebook as this is a platform for “older” generations. It’s a dying platform for the next generation.

Agreed. I think I about half of my friends in their early 30s still have theirs but most of them post infrequently, if at all. Most everyone in my group has an Instagram but they post photos to their pages occasionally and stories more often.

My parents (early/mid 60s) still use Facebook a lot and seem to have a love/hate relationship with the platform but they go on it all the time.

My younger sister and her friends (early 20s) never had one and make fun of anyone who does but they are all on Instagram.

Are middle age or older people, humans? Of course, so why does it matter what 20 year olds do. Lots of middle age people aren’t dying tomorrow so they can keep Facebook going for years

Back in the day people would make home albums or scrapbooks of their kids. The AWFUL bias of 40 (yes I counted) near identical shots of a "baby moved its arm!", effectively existing while not stillborn were common for firstborns. Not to mention baby books, monogramed everything, hyper-researched only non-toxic/organic things. Also common were non-existent photos of youngest children unless it was whole family or both siblings. Oldest "I entered a science fair"-"That's amazing! I'm so proud I'll get the camera". Third child "I won regionals at the science fair!" "Yeah, yeah. Aren't you cute, though, here come the tickle monster!" So much so that one sister even asked how to get parents to pay attention to her little brothers since her parents sat with her and taught her all about their culture and language.

If facebook makes parents document their children more equally, I'm all for it. Phone auto-upload is the norm and if facebook is free and dropbox costs money, you don't need to look. Just mute or get off facebook yourself.

attention.

you really didn't know that OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP, honest question…how old are you? Most friends I know no longer use Facebook as this is a platform for “older” generations. It’s a dying platform for the next generation.

Agreed. I think I about half of my friends in their early 30s still have theirs but most of them post infrequently, if at all. Most everyone in my group has an Instagram but they post photos to their pages occasionally and stories more often.

My parents (early/mid 60s) still use Facebook a lot and seem to have a love/hate relationship with the platform but they go on it all the time.

My younger sister and her friends (early 20s) never had one and make fun of anyone who does but they are all on Instagram.

Anonymous wrote:OP, honest question…how old are you? Most friends I know no longer use Facebook as this is a platform for “older” generations. It’s a dying platform for the next generation.

This is not true. I know lots of young people on Facebook. Also, even if it’s for middle age people, so what. We’re not dead yet so they will be on Facebook for awhile.
I do agree with Op, though and people posting every moment are not living in the moment as there has been studies on this.

OP, honest question…how old are you? Most friends I know no longer use Facebook as this is a platform for “older” generations. It’s a dying platform for the next generation.

I do not know anyone with high EQ who continues to post more than a few times a year on FB. Everyone else seems off or has a marketing reason for doing it like a small business or something.

What you’re describing isn’t every thought OP. It’s the big moments.
What exactly do you want people to post on fb?

I have a friend like this OP and it's bizarre. She posts multiple times a day, tons of selfies, every "deep" thought. I assume it's about attention.

Separately, I know some people who use an app to create yearly photo books from everything they upload to Facebook, so they just inundate with photos, sorta for their own benefit.

Anonymous wrote:I’m depressed but appreciate beautiful moments. I had terrible PPD/PPA. Over documenting and posting (some - just a few) photos early on salvaged my memories of that time. Appreciating the smaller moments got me through. I’m lucky enough to have a good eye and some discernment with frequency of posting; also enough wit to recognize that it needs to be a relevant or relatable moment and not just a cute picture. Also it helped me to connect with other people at a time I felt very isolated.

Sorry, that was supposed to say I was depressed. I’m no longer depressed.

I’m depressed but appreciate beautiful moments. I had terrible PPD/PPA. Over documenting and posting (some - just a few) photos early on salvaged my memories of that time. Appreciating the smaller moments got me through. I’m lucky enough to have a good eye and some discernment with frequency of posting; also enough wit to recognize that it needs to be a relevant or relatable moment and not just a cute picture. Also it helped me to connect with other people at a time I felt very isolated.