Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. It is setting a bad precedence for very high maintenance beauty.
I don't want my 14 yr old to think it is totally normal (and necessary to be pretty) to drop hundreds at the salon every few weeks. When she can finance that type of maintenance she can have at it.
OP's question: "Would you let your 14 yo get highlights for the start of school?"
NOT OP's question: "Would you pay hundreds at the salon every few weeks for your 14-year-old's highlights?"
Anonymous wrote:you cannot do highlights at home unless you want to look like trailer trash. It just isn't possible
Anonymous wrote:Yes I already did let her. 13 going into 9th.
Anonymous wrote:No way. It is setting a bad precedence for very high maintenance beauty.
I don't want my 14 yr old to think it is totally normal (and necessary to be pretty) to drop hundreds at the salon every few weeks. When she can finance that type of maintenance she can have at it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. It is setting a bad precedence for very high maintenance beauty.
I don't want my 14 yr old to think it is totally normal (and necessary to be pretty) to drop hundreds at the salon every few weeks. When she can finance that type of maintenance she can have at it.
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Anonymous wrote:Is it crazy to do this at such a young age? She’s not feeling good about her appearance and could use a confidence boost.
Anonymous wrote:No way. It is setting a bad precedence for very high maintenance beauty.
I don't want my 14 yr old to think it is totally normal (and necessary to be pretty) to drop hundreds at the salon every few weeks. When she can finance that type of maintenance she can have at it.
Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I would not pay for salon color at this age. She could save up her money or I’d buy home highlights and help her. I do think kids should be welcomed to experiment with their appearance at this age, but I don’t think it send a good message to bankroll a $100+ experiment.
I know too many people who got used to parents paying for pricy beauty treatments when they were young, and then it just becomes normalized for them that you spend a few hundred at the salon or you always get your nails done professionally, or all your skincare is from Sephora and $$$. And then it’s hard for them to make the transition to bring more financially independent later, because they are used to what their parents can afford. And making beauty care and personal upkeep an expensive line item at 12 sets your kid up for an unhealthy attitude about how to prioritize funds later on. So anything high end, whether it’s clothes or hair or makeup, they either pay for themselves or I will buy for a special occasion only (like I’ll pay for a designer dress to wear to a family wedding, or give fancy makeup as a holiday gift if she really wants it). But if it’s just a whim or “I want to change my hair” or “all the girls wear AG jeans”, she needs to save up snd buy it herself. She has to learn what this stuff costs and ask herself if it’s really how she wants to spend hard earned money.