Anonymous
08/23/2021 23:00
Subject: Re:3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:....to feed my third. She was a failure to thrive - wasn't latching correctly...and I totally missed it even though breastfed other two for 1+ years. Also, took her brother in as I thought he had Strep - turned out she had RSV so bad they almost put her in the hospital. She was a very chill baby so maybe that explains it??? I think I stressed so much over the other two and she was so easy I just coasted.
My midwife says all her clients with multiple kids worry about the kids that are at home more than the coming baby.
Good to know because this is definitely me. I often ask do I really need to go to this prenatal appointment? Because I'm trying to do a little bit of everything for the others.
MaryamFamily
08/23/2021 18:40
Subject: 3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I forgot what contractions felt like. Once they started, I was like OMG how could I forget THIS? and jokingly whining to DH about how I didn't want to have a baby again.
The whole time I was 9 months+ pregnant and then in labor I was so upset. I kept asking Dh why did I do this to myself?!? What did I get myself into? Did I need that 3rd baby? The first two babies were part of our life plan, the third was just because we wanted her so much. But so much pain, I was 3 years older and knew more about all the things that can go wrong with labor and delivery. I was scared and not excited.
She’s here now though and so perfect and I’m so so happy to have a third. Our family feels so complete and the big kids adore her
Aw that's sweet
Anonymous
08/23/2021 14:34
Subject: 3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:I forgot what contractions felt like. Once they started, I was like OMG how could I forget THIS? and jokingly whining to DH about how I didn't want to have a baby again.
The whole time I was 9 months+ pregnant and then in labor I was so upset. I kept asking Dh why did I do this to myself?!? What did I get myself into? Did I need that 3rd baby? The first two babies were part of our life plan, the third was just because we wanted her so much. But so much pain, I was 3 years older and knew more about all the things that can go wrong with labor and delivery. I was scared and not excited.
She’s here now though and so perfect and I’m so so happy to have a third. Our family feels so complete and the big kids adore her
Anonymous
08/23/2021 14:29
Subject: Re:3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:....to feed my third. She was a failure to thrive - wasn't latching correctly...and I totally missed it even though breastfed other two for 1+ years. Also, took her brother in as I thought he had Strep - turned out she had RSV so bad they almost put her in the hospital. She was a very chill baby so maybe that explains it??? I think I stressed so much over the other two and she was so easy I just coasted.
My midwife says all her clients with multiple kids worry about the kids that are at home more than the coming baby.
Oh that was totally me. I don’t need to worry about the baby before he is here - he will come when he comes. I need to prepare the older ones for the big change, but the baby can’t prepare. Doesn’t mean I skipped prenatal care, exercise, vitamins, or anything else that actually improves birth outcomes.
Anonymous
08/23/2021 14:12
Subject: 3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
I forgot what contractions felt like. Once they started, I was like OMG how could I forget THIS? and jokingly whining to DH about how I didn't want to have a baby again.
Anonymous
08/22/2021 21:55
Subject: 3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Forgot the burp cloths, cried on the delivery table because I forgot how to latch a newborn, and fell asleep during the nurse's explanation of how to care for a baby.
Anonymous
08/22/2021 18:21
Subject: 3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
I’m fairly sure we still don’t have a birth certificate for our third, who is now five years old. We have a “birth registration” document, whatever that is, but his birth certificate is mysteriously missing.
Anonymous
08/22/2021 16:51
Subject: Re:3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:....to feed my third. She was a failure to thrive - wasn't latching correctly...and I totally missed it even though breastfed other two for 1+ years. Also, took her brother in as I thought he had Strep - turned out she had RSV so bad they almost put her in the hospital. She was a very chill baby so maybe that explains it??? I think I stressed so much over the other two and she was so easy I just coasted.
My midwife says all her clients with multiple kids worry about the kids that are at home more than the coming baby.
I'm not a perfect mom but that's messed up. I definitely realized when my third wasn't feeding well and sought medical attention.
Yeah that's not exactly what I was going for when I started this thread, LOL.
Having many kids is a risk factor for skipping out on prenatal care.
Soooooo... to those people who forgot diapers, cut yourself some slack.
Anonymous
08/22/2021 14:22
Subject: Re:3rd time mom knows everything and yet she forgot...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:....to feed my third. She was a failure to thrive - wasn't latching correctly...and I totally missed it even though breastfed other two for 1+ years. Also, took her brother in as I thought he had Strep - turned out she had RSV so bad they almost put her in the hospital. She was a very chill baby so maybe that explains it??? I think I stressed so much over the other two and she was so easy I just coasted.
My midwife says all her clients with multiple kids worry about the kids that are at home more than the coming baby.
I'm not a perfect mom but that's messed up. I definitely realized when my third wasn't feeding well and sought medical attention.
Yeah that's not exactly what I was going for when I started this thread, LOL.