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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

PP former PUA here. Online match making prevalence makes it easier to meet people in the produce department. These days, people are so poor at in-person conversation/flirting that if you are good at it, you really get noticed. There's just less competition.

I especially notice that among people in their 20s.

What is a PUA?

Pick up artist. It’s a whole thing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

PP former PUA here. Online match making prevalence makes it easier to meet people in the produce department. These days, people are so poor at in-person conversation/flirting that if you are good at it, you really get noticed. There's just less competition.

I especially notice that among people in their 20s.

What is a PUA?

PUA = Pick Up Artists. Guys who creep on women “professionally”

Anonymous wrote:What is a PUA?

"Pick Up Artist" I think

Anonymous wrote:Are you smoking hot? Yes, women want you to approach.
No? Then stay away, creep!

This is exactly correct.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

PP former PUA here. Online match making prevalence makes it easier to meet people in the produce department. These days, people are so poor at in-person conversation/flirting that if you are good at it, you really get noticed. There's just less competition.

I especially notice that among people in their 20s.

What is a PUA?

Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.

Exactly. And even if it's the former but all you do is compliment me on my physical appearance? Bye.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

A light conversation might lead to a date. But don’t start with that.

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with someone striking up a conversation in an appropriate setting. But if I’m clearly busy, or you’re just giving me a compliment or asking for my number, it’s obnoxious.

Example: having a conversation while we’re at the dog park is fine. Chasing me down while I’m out walking my dog is not.

Basically, I want to know you’re interested because of who I am, not what I look like.

+1

Striking up a conversation about something relevant -- dogs at the dog park, food at a restaurant, books at a bookstore, etc., is fine. And then see how it goes, paying attention to body language and the like that tells you she's busy or distracted or not interested. Jumping to compliments on her looks or asking her out is not. I don't want a stranger coming up to tell me I've got beautiful eyes. Don't follow them, don't pressure them, gracefully take no for an answer.

Anonymous wrote:Completely fine but don’t come on too strong and take a hint. Never ask twice for a number or date. If she says no the first time leave her alone.

I think the best way to approach is with casual conversation about your surroundings, not a comment on her physical appearance.

This just don't be creepy and if you get the vibe she wants to be left alone leave her alone

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

PP former PUA here. Online match making prevalence makes it easier to meet people in the produce department. These days, people are so poor at in-person conversation/flirting that if you are good at it, you really get noticed. There's just less competition.

I especially notice that among people in their 20s.

OP, I’m interested to know what makes you interested in approaching a particular woman? What are the things that cause you to want to approach someone?

Anonymous wrote:So you're basing everything on solely on looks?

Cool. Good luck.

I’m fine with a guy approaching me because he finds me attractive. My hope would be that he would be that, if he was looking to date, not just hook up, that the conversation we had would determine if he wanted to ask me out. In my opinion, the original draw may be appearance but the chemistry is in conversation.

Just not when I’m walking with my husband.

Anonymous wrote:Work? No, absolutely not!

Grocery store? Say hi make light conversation sure. Ask for number on a date.., no.

Bar? Sure but I might blow you off don’t take it personally I’m probably there for agreeing who just caught her h cheating or who just caught her teen smoking pot. My point being when women blow you off it has less to do with you than other things.

Lol, I've had success meeting men in the produce department many a time. I'm not even kidding.

But this was over 10 years ago. I suspect things are much different with the prevalence of online match making.

Former PUA here. The key is body language, and most men are pretty poor at reading signals. Look for an IOI (indicator of interest) from a woman, which could be as simple as a second glance. Also look how they are standing/sitting, including use of arms (crossed arms = not up for it); then take cues from your conversation if you do approach. Are they asking questions of you too? Laughing at your jokes? If not, time to get the message and move on.