Anonymous
Post 01/01/2022 18:06     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
Anonymous wrote:I would stop. Enjoy the life and the kids you have. Do you really want a teenager and an infant in your house at the same time?


NP. This alone is a silly reason to stop. I was a teenager when my younger siblings were born. So what? There was no problem with that.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2021 15:01     Subject: TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
Anonymous wrote:If you didn't have other children, I'd advise you to pursue IVF (if you can afford it). But I think with 2 other kids already I'd stop actively trying. Maybe don't prevent, if you are really ok with a 3rd, but I think I'd actively stop trying.


+1. If you already have 2 and not pushing for IVF then don't bother. But if you won't be upset by having a 3rd just let nature take its course and see what happens. Don't stress about it too much but also don't be upset if nothing happens.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2021 15:36     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
Yesterday.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2021 15:35     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
IVF is not your only intervention choice. Our fertility doctor started us off with some drugs to supercharge egg production -- probably the same meds they give egg donors. Not nearly as expensive or involved as IVF.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2021 17:36     Subject: TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why haven't you tried IVF?


OP response: because we have other children already, we decided not to go through the stress of IVF. Also, when we met with the RE 3 years ago, he said our odds with IVF were no different than well timed intercourse. Although, in hindsight I'm not sure that 3 years of trying without success was a better choice. We use OPK tests and BBT so our timing each month is good. It's a hard decision to stop though. The "what if" keeps coming up.




then don’t stop. accept that you are done but keep timing your intercourse. nobody is forcing you to stop are decided anything today and you are not going to do IVF anyway.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2021 16:42     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
I would stop. The risk of a special needs medical child and more heart break only goes way, way up from 43.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2021 12:31     Subject: TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
I was no able to have any children, we decided to stop and let nature take it's course. You already have two children, I would enjoy them and save your money.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2021 12:27     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
It sounds like your body is telling you to stop. You can shift into a mentality of "whatever happens, happens" but I don't think I'd actively TTC at this point. Too much risk, husband sounds done, kids are older.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2021 09:30     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
Anonymous wrote:I would stop. Enjoy the life and the kids you have. Do you really want a teenager and an infant in your house at the same time?


I also agree with this. It is a tough decision, but you'll have a teenager in no time.. teenagers are scary
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2021 09:08     Subject: Re:TTC since Jan 2018 in my 40s; when to stop
I would stop. Enjoy the life and the kids you have. Do you really want a teenager and an infant in your house at the same time?