Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:20     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Also, is the wedding itself the only opportunity to see family? If you are flying cross country I assume you would be there for a few days? A brunch the morning after, a low key get together the night before? It could still be a great time for your kids to travel and see family even if they don't go to this one event...
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:20     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
If I was having a “no-kids” wedding, I would be their king about little kids who need babysitting. I would expect teenage cousins to come. I would definitely call the bride’s mother and ask the question. It’s fine to clarify. If they can’t come, I would stay home but send an nice gift.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:20     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I think it’s quite obvious your kids aren’t invited. But your whole guilt trip of “occasions are for the whole familyyyyy, blah blah blah” makes clear you want an exception made for you. Just send your regrets and a nice gift.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:18     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Ask the niece’s parent. If you can’t tell from the invitation addressal, it is not clear that that “no kids”means under 18. The bride and groom may be thinking about the toddlers who can be unruly and not the teenagers. But if it’s still a no, I wouldn’t travel for it and I would send regrets.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:15     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I would ask and decline if they’re not invited. It doesn’t hurt to confirm. The brewery excuse is nonsense, kids are allowed at breweries.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:15     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.


This does not sound like a “weird situation.” This sounds like a situation where you threw a hissy fit and caused a problem for the bride and groom and they accommodated you. If your children had been invited, they would have been ON THE INVITATION OMG.

THE NAMES OF THE INVITED PEOPLE ARE ON THE INVITATION

“We are fine either way, just wanted to clarify” haha you are terrible. So rude. So self-centered.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:11     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I don’t understand the question, OP, were your children’s names on the invitation? If not, they’re not invited whether there is a “kid policy” or not.

The idea that someone would receive an invitation for two people and just bring their children is insane. The names are on the envelope! Or not! The end.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:10     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I would clarify with the niece’s parent in a “just making sure I understand this limitation” way.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:04     Subject: Re:How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Brewery wedding? Low class.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 07:03     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Whose names were on the invitation?
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 05:57     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
PP here, I also suggest looking at the invitation but I worry that younger people may not follow usual conventions with addressing invitations (and many don’t have an inside envelope that used to more clearly identify for whom the invitation was intended).
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 05:54     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.


This is what I would also suggest might be the case and we experienced something similar. I would just ask, not to guilt them, but just so it’s clear so you can make the right plans (which may mean declining).
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 05:28     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I also wonder if they go if OP's kids will get roped into babysitting.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 05:26     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
I always look at the wedding invite. The outside either says “smith family” or lists the names of those invited.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2021 05:20     Subject: How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?
We’re you kids listed on the invite? Please answer this very important question.