Seeing so many couples break up I can't help but wonder- did I cause the divorce by not being a better friend?

Sexual problems that no one wants to talk about, even with close friends or family.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

He is lying. People never want to tell the bad stuff about themselves. Sometimes they even believe the made up nonsense of a story they have created. Having watched this before, he is probably having an affair and has rewritten their entire marriage.

Or his wife is having an affair, and he feels that is reflection on him, so he keeps his trap shut.


There are a million reasons for divorce, even for nice couples.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

1. If there is abuse, do you expect your husband's friend to tell him??? Which is more likely, for him to tell your husband that "My wife is leaving me because I abuse her" or "My wife and I are splitting up because I'm unhappy."
2. People are complex OP, and you can't tell everything just by what you see publicly.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee, OP. It's almost as if people don't owe you the personal and private details of their marriage and their decisions.

Get a life.

I don't need to know the private details. It seems pretty obvious that their kids would be better off with their parents together and the parents are just being selfish. But clearly you all think getting divorced is NBD so have fun, I guess?

Here you go again making some super none of your business assumptions! You don't even know you're doing it. Must be cool to be your friend, OP. I'm sure the vibe is very two-sided and empathetic.

Anonymous wrote:Gee, OP. It's almost as if people don't owe you the personal and private details of their marriage and their decisions.

Get a life.

I don't need to know the private details. It seems pretty obvious that their kids would be better off with their parents together and the parents are just being selfish. But clearly you all think getting divorced is NBD so have fun, I guess?

My husband and I have been in therapy all year and I have told 0 people. Never will. Even if they ask. Why is that so hard to understand?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

He is lying. People never want to tell the bad stuff about themselves. Sometimes they even believe the made up nonsense of a story they have created. Having watched this before, he is probably having an affair and has rewritten their entire marriage.

Gee, OP. It's almost as if people don't owe you the personal and private details of their marriage and their decisions.

Get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:"Nice couples" GTFO

I've observed that people become insecure about their own relationships when the "nice couples" break up out of nowhere. It does sometimes have a domino effect and soon other "nice couples" decide they should end things, too. Maybe that's what's happening with OP.

Seriously. Our "nice couple" neighbors got divorced during the pandemic and it was a real shock. They didn't say what happened, and we didn't ask, and no one made assumptions and were still friendly and wave at the dad when he stops by. Why does this affect you except for feeling slightly sad or threatened, which by the way, is normal! No need to assume you really know what happened.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

Close friends don't always tell the truth/the whole story.

Or, as somebody said, they aren't having sex (and according to some, that's abuse).

Just because you're not familiar with the reasons doesn't mean it's out of nowhere. That is exceedingly rare.

Anonymous wrote:"Nice couples" GTFO

I've observed that people become insecure about their own relationships when the "nice couples" break up out of nowhere. It does sometimes have a domino effect and soon other "nice couples" decide they should end things, too. Maybe that's what's happening with OP.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

Umm. OP. Seriously. Are you this naive?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know there’s no abuse, adultery, or addiction?

Because its the close friend of my husband and he confirmed it. He's basically just...leaving her.

Nonsense.

MYOB - he confirmed it by not letting you in. So MYOB