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Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

Doesn't matter. You're a piece of trash for continuing to go after him. You've got no one to blame but yourself. Find out why you have such little self respect.

New poster here. How dare you make assumptions about someone like that? Stop bullying OP when you know nothing about her.

OP, I'm sorry, but I agree with the others that you dodged a bullet and you'll be happier in the long term when you find someone who is honest and trustworthy. Be strong. Good luck.

+1 seriously, pp. the only piece of trash is you.

DP.

Given that OP pretty much admitted that this man has been texting her "I love you" once a year, the PP's assumptions are probably spot on.

Who gets together with someone who has been randomly texting you "I love you" for years? You know he has been trying to cheat on his significant other/spouse with OP for years. He finally got a chance, but then got caught.

Anonymous wrote:Since when do we excuse people involved in an affair.. OP knew what she was doing and knew he was married or whatever. Why is he a jerk and OP gets a pat on the head an a "aww it's OK. You dodged a bullet.". I guess I missed the memo where the OW is not also a guilty party in this.

This board is filled with OW and women cheaters. Only if you have a penis is it wrong.

Since when do we excuse people involved in an affair.. OP knew what she was doing and knew he was married or whatever. Why is he a jerk and OP gets a pat on the head an a "aww it's OK. You dodged a bullet.". I guess I missed the memo where the OW is not also a guilty party in this.

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Anonymous wrote:his wife found out

Yup, this.

Sorry, op.

+1. Reading between the lines -- his wife found out.

Op- you say you haven’t contacted him- but you have. You say that you have ignited him in the past- but acknowledged that his dipping out of your life feels like whiplash.

Stop treating him like you did previously. You were not emotionally involved before.

You also- posted a thread about this situation and are willing to take an ‘I love you’ text to mitigate his very poor behavior.

You are much more vulnerable right now then you think.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of bad news? Did he have a wife who found out about your messages?

The bad news is his wife found out about their shady correspondence.

He found out his wife or a child is very sick and now he feels guilty for planning to leave them to be with you. You should not take it personally but also, don't wait around because he will always feel that guilt.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a break up: he’s going through something and wants to be in touch when he’s in a better place.

I think you just need to decide what you want out of this. He seems pretty selfish, like he wants to be able to tell you his feelings and bop in and out of your life at will. Not sure if that’s so great for you, but it’s your life.

New poster. Selfish is probably the right word. I kept thinking "emotionally toxic." This man cannot handle conflict/stress. Not a good person to try to partner with in the long run.

Anonymous wrote:his wife found out

Yup, this.

Sorry, op.

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Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

Doesn't matter. You're a piece of trash for continuing to go after him. You've got no one to blame but yourself. Find out why you have such little self respect.

New poster here. How dare you make assumptions about someone like that? Stop bullying OP when you know nothing about her.

OP, I'm sorry, but I agree with the others that you dodged a bullet and you'll be happier in the long term when you find someone who is honest and trustworthy. Be strong. Good luck.

+1 seriously, pp. the only piece of trash is you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP, it sounds like he is taken or otherwise unavailable for the kind of relationship you deserve. Let him go. Don't message him anymore. Don't respond to future messages from him. In fact, you should black him, rid him completely from your life. You deserve more than uncertainty and pieces of someone in a relationship.

Find someone who is available not just single, but emotionally available to be with you.

I didn’t. I didn’t respond to that message and won’t contact him again.

Good. I hope you find someone great.

It’s not a break up: he’s going through something and wants to be in touch when he’s in a better place.

I think you just need to decide what you want out of this. He seems pretty selfish, like he wants to be able to tell you his feelings and bop in and out of your life at will. Not sure if that’s so great for you, but it’s your life.

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Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

Doesn't matter. You're a piece of trash for continuing to go after him. You've got no one to blame but yourself. Find out why you have such little self respect.

Hey PP, sounds like you are pissed b/c this happened to you. Stop taking your anger out on OP.

his wife found out

Anonymous wrote:What kind of bad news? Did he have a wife who found out about your messages?

She is probably the same Op of the “former AP” has cancer. Op you are obsessed with this guy. Let it go. He said he regrets contacting you, but you decided to focus on “he always loved you”, who cares he is still with his wife!