Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 14:31     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.



+1 so many triggered wives posting and projecting. Op seems smart. Keep staying away you'll find your own special guy.


Massive eye roll. It’s the whole I must keep myself from breaking up a marriage and the wife thinking you “hate” her that’s over the top. OP, has the husband given you any indication that he feels the same?
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 14:24     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.



+1 so many triggered wives posting and projecting. Op seems smart. Keep staying away you'll find your own special guy.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 14:18     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”


I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...


IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.


And jealousy of the wife too. Women like this get a twisted self-esteem fix by thinking they are better for a man than his wife or can get him to sleep with her. Daddy issues or just severe low self esteem. Need male validation.


+1,000
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:58     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:52     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”


I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...


IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.


And jealousy of the wife too. Women like this get a twisted self-esteem fix by thinking they are better for a man than his wife or can get him to sleep with her. Daddy issues or just severe low self esteem. Need male validation.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:51     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”


I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...


IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:50     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well quit obsessing about the wife. That’s super creepy. I doubt she cares how you feel about her. Get over yourself. You’re imagining she’s jealous or he also is pining over you.

I don't read that at all. It might even answer someone's question as to why an acquaintance seems standoffish.


It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”


YEP. Self-importance. Messed up individual. The wife is NOTHING like her
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:43     Subject: Re:I'm sorry you think I hate you
Nope. We'd never be friends because you are a desperate loser that preys on other people's spouses.

Loser sitting around pining away instead of taking charge of their life is not the type of woman I mesh with. Loser
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:42     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
How did you met him? And how do you know the wife well enough to know you’d be “besties” and get also know she thinks you hate her. Weird dynamic
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:07     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
So much drama.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 13:01     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.



Why are you so triggered that you needed to post the same thing 3 times? re you worried there's someone.out there who is into your husband but who won't keep her distance?


I didn’t! Clearly others agree! And while I’m sure there are some women that like my husband - he’s cute and has a great body and is a high earner for those who care - I am confident that he wouldn’t have the time of day for one of my fellow mid 40s ladies. Now a hot young thing, yes, of course, I can see.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 12:59     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
OMG! I fell in love with someone unavailable and it was super awkward. Smart move OP.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 12:53     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.



Why are you so triggered that you needed to post the same thing 3 times? re you worried there's someone.out there who is into your husband but who won't keep her distance?
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 12:50     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2021 12:48     Subject: I'm sorry you think I hate you
FFS Grow the F up.