I am flying to CA for a wedding in September. Parents are vaccinated, kids are too young. Our plans haven't changed at all. The risk to kids is still super low. We are just living our lives.

Anonymous wrote:Our wedding was September 22, 2001.

We had it and a few people didn't come, but most did.

I realize it's not the same thing, but everyone was afraid to fly, to do anything. It just felt unsettled.

I'd think about how you will feel in 20 years attending this wedding vs. not when actual risks are very low.

Actual risks are NOT very low. They're high. Sure, your risk of getting covid and dying from it is probably pretty low, but your risk of getting covid and passing it along to your kids is not. Fauci was just on Meet the Press this weekend debunking the myth that this is not a dangerous disease for children. Sure, if you're a 90 year old smoker with high blood pressure and diabetes, your risk is higher than that of a healthy child, but he said the Delta variant is now landing children in the hospital too. Plus we don't know what the long-term/long-haul implications for kids are, even if they don't have serious cases initially.

To ask "how would you feel in 20 years attending this wedding vs. not... it's not like you're missing it out of laziness or apathy... the people having the wedding are putting you in this position. Most people I know that are choosing to go on with their events realize that some people might not feel comfortable attending, and are understanding of people deciding to decline.

We have a close family wedding in Kansas in mid October. Made the decision last week that only I’m going - it’s my family - and dh will stay home with our kids who are all too young to be vaccinated. I think there’s a pretty decent chance that I will cancel my ticket as well but as of now, I’m going. I know that there will be unvaccinated people there and I am not open to risking my kids’ health there. I’m concerned about my 78yo mom going but we have some time to change things if it still feels like a bad idea in October.

On the flip side, we are attending another family wedding next weekend WITH our kids - but they’re requiring everyone to be vaccinated, I know it is outside and I know more of the people coming (mostly family) and my kids are the only children attending. I feel ok about this wedding as it’s also a relatively close drive for us all.

I have three invites for the fall…

1) There’s one I’d need to fly too, and stay at a hotel... Not going due to Covid (I’m vaccinated but my young kids are not).

2) The second is local and the host is requesting proof of vaccination. My husband and I are attending, kids were not invited anyway.

3) The third is not local, but is within driving distance. We decided my husband would go alone (it’s his family) despite our whole family being invited. He’s going to the Saturday night party only, not other weekend festivities.

I too am worried about Covid despite being vaccinated, but a lot of that worry is because I have unvaccinated kids. It’s also the implications for my kids if one of us got it, having to quarantine and miss school, social activities, etc. I’d be much more likely to go on living life as normal if I didn’t have kids.

Have one in October, also rescheduled. Driving. Vaxxed. Cannot wait to go. Will wear masks for the younger ones who aren’t vaxxed yet.

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Anonymous wrote:Our daughter is getting married in September and anyone who attends must be vaccinated. We will not ask for proof but we have made it very clear that it is required. A couple of people are upset but I really don’t care.

I have a family member (cousin) getting married in October and I am vaccinated. But if my family pulled that nonsense I wouldn't go out of principal.

I doubt anyone would care about your spiteful absence.

I would go because this delta spike is just getting started. It’s likely going to be a long winter so get a few things in while you can. The delta spikes are mainly in the south and Midwest right now - not here.

Our wedding was September 22, 2001.

We had it and a few people didn't come, but most did.

I realize it's not the same thing, but everyone was afraid to fly, to do anything. It just felt unsettled.

I'd think about how you will feel in 20 years attending this wedding vs. not when actual risks are very low.

Don't suggest they cancel or postpone. They're having the wedding. Go if you want to.

October 2021 here. Reconsidering bringing the kids too young to be vaccinated.

Anonymous wrote:Personally I have chosen to live my life normally now that I am vaccinated and would attend.

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My entire family will be attending a wedding in September. However, we are all vaccinated. If I had younger unvaccinated children, I would not go.

I am struggling with this too. Our niece (DH’s side) is getting married in late October, rescheduled from 2020. It will all be inside. We are driving. We are also responsible for getting my FIL there and helping him with various things. We are not particularly close with this niece but we will likely be the only family on DH’s side that will be there. Others are not coming for reasons other than COVID. Everyone on DH’s side is vaxed but not sure about others. We will plan on wearing masks. I don’t care much about going but also don’t feel good about bailing.