Anonymous
08/03/2021 11:02
Subject: Re:is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
It's not helpful at all. I say this as someone who thinks this is a relatively mild punishment, but it's just plain not helpful. When I was a child, I had to do the same, while holding up a phonebook above my head, being smacked every time my arms started lowering, and then left there for an hour. Just made me more resentful.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 08:50
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
I don’t like it.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 07:24
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Not very effective.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 07:22
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. Humiliating and punitive.
Punishment is supposed to be punitive. You want to disincentivize him from future misbehavior. Doing it as you do for a minute per year of age, which is the general rule of thumb, will not cause lasting harm, but may have the positive outcome of modifying his behavior.
While we didn’t make out kids touch their nose to the wall, we would put a chair in the corner, and the child had to sit there facing the corner. Touching the nose to the wall might be a little stricter, but I don’t thick it’s unreasonable or damaging.
You might consider sending the sibling out of the room for the duration.
There's a difference between discipline and punishment.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 07:22
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:It’s humiliation. Not okay.
This.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 07:14
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Humiliating and punitive.
Punishment is supposed to be punitive. You want to disincentivize him from future misbehavior. Doing it as you do for a minute per year of age, which is the general rule of thumb, will not cause lasting harm, but may have the positive outcome of modifying his behavior.
While we didn’t make out kids touch their nose to the wall, we would put a chair in the corner, and the child had to sit there facing the corner. Touching the nose to the wall might be a little stricter, but I don’t thick it’s unreasonable or damaging.
You might consider sending the sibling out of the room for the duration.
Anonymous
08/03/2021 00:19
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he only turns nose to wall after engaging with his sister.
It's fine for a few minutes.
I don't discipline like this, but I don't think it's a huge deal. Our nanny said she actually used something like that for her kids--except she would put math problem sheets on the wall, and her kids had to work through them while standing up as part of their punishment.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 23:57
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
It sounds like he only turns nose to wall after engaging with his sister.
It's fine for a few minutes.
It's fine for a few minutes.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 23:50
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
I’m as liberal and modern as they come. It is not something that I would use, but it’s not that big of a deal. It’s not abuse or humiliation- get a grip people.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 23:22
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
That’s crazy.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 22:36
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:If you are concerned, you could make the turning nose-to-wall the consequence of not being able to sit quietly in a normal time out.
In other words, if he is sitting in time out and tries to play with his sister, only then does he have to turn around.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 22:35
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
If you are concerned, you could make the turning nose-to-wall the consequence of not being able to sit quietly in a normal time out.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 22:29
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Yes. Humiliating and punitive.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 22:28
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
My abusive parents used to make me do that. It’s weak parenting based on controlling behavior, not teaching skills. You can do better.
Anonymous
08/02/2021 22:27
Subject: is nose-to-wall timeout too harsh?
Anonymous wrote:Would be considered inappropriate or excessive discipline in a child care setting and the daycare would be cited for it.
Ok, but OP isn't running a daycare.
Op... Is he getting the point? What happens with his sister when she interferes?