Anonymous
07/31/2021 19:41
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:I met a guy about three weeks ago. He’s been flirting a lot and asking all the right things through text.
We Call/FaceTime one another throughout the week.
I had mentioned actually meeting and he’s respond was he doesn’t know when we could actually meet in person because of work.
Am I crazy to think he’s hiding something? Or is this normal to text without formally meeting in person?
Weird. Something is off, big time.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 17:28
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:You need to cut him off now. No seeing what he does if you back off on the texting. His reasons and the truth behind them don't matter - what matters is that you two want very different things. Here, let me help you - "Hey, guy-who's-too-busy, it's been fun, but I don't see us as compatible, so I'm moving on."
No, OP won't do that, because texting that kind of an "update" is ridiculous.
It's like telling Kim Kardashian that you're unfollowing her
Anonymous
07/31/2021 17:02
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
You need to cut him off now. No seeing what he does if you back off on the texting. His reasons and the truth behind them don't matter - what matters is that you two want very different things. Here, let me help you - "Hey, guy-who's-too-busy, it's been fun, but I don't see us as compatible, so I'm moving on."
Anonymous
07/31/2021 16:57
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:he has a girlfriend or wife
And in the odd chance he doesn’t, he’s not that into her and gave her the brush off.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 16:56
Subject: Re:Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here
Well I didn’t meet him online - we were out in a public space when we exchanged #s
We started off sending texts here and there & couple of missed/returned calls
Next thing I know, it’s three weeks and I’m like wait - when’s he going to actually ask me out?
I tried to hold off to wait for him to bring it up to not seem eager/desperate - so I hinted I was interested in seeing him.
Then this last week, I’m like wait let me just come out and be fully transparent about my intentions of wanting to see him.
His respond was “yeah I don’t know when, maybe a couple of weeks I have a lot of work going on but I do want to see you”
So for me, I never had a guy delay asking me out after exchanging #s. It’s truly the first thing a guy asks me “are you available next weekend”.
But I thought I was “taking my time” with this guy lol
Don't respond to him as much. Put your energy into dating other guys. If he was that into you he'd have found a way to meet you by now, or if he was truly interested in you he would let you know he was slammed with work but would like to see you on x date ant x place/event. His response was noncommittal and frankly rude. Personally, I'd be done, but feel free to match his energy here and don't put much effort into things. He's now on the back burner,
This!
Anonymous
07/31/2021 16:19
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
he has a girlfriend or wife
Anonymous
07/31/2021 15:47
Subject: Re:Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:Op here
Well I didn’t meet him online - we were out in a public space when we exchanged #s
We started off sending texts here and there & couple of missed/returned calls
Next thing I know, it’s three weeks and I’m like wait - when’s he going to actually ask me out?
I tried to hold off to wait for him to bring it up to not seem eager/desperate - so I hinted I was interested in seeing him.
Then this last week, I’m like wait let me just come out and be fully transparent about my intentions of wanting to see him.
His respond was “yeah I don’t know when, maybe a couple of weeks I have a lot of work going on but I do want to see you”
So for me, I never had a guy delay asking me out after exchanging #s. It’s truly the first thing a guy asks me “are you available next weekend”.
But I thought I was “taking my time” with this guy lol
Don't respond to him as much. Put your energy into dating other guys. If he was that into you he'd have found a way to meet you by now, or if he was truly interested in you he would let you know he was slammed with work but would like to see you on x date ant x place/event. His response was noncommittal and frankly rude. Personally, I'd be done, but feel free to match his energy here and don't put much effort into things. He's now on the back burner,
Anonymous
07/31/2021 15:39
Subject: Re:Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Op here
Well I didn’t meet him online - we were out in a public space when we exchanged #s
We started off sending texts here and there & couple of missed/returned calls
Next thing I know, it’s three weeks and I’m like wait - when’s he going to actually ask me out?
I tried to hold off to wait for him to bring it up to not seem eager/desperate - so I hinted I was interested in seeing him.
Then this last week, I’m like wait let me just come out and be fully transparent about my intentions of wanting to see him.
His respond was “yeah I don’t know when, maybe a couple of weeks I have a lot of work going on but I do want to see you”
So for me, I never had a guy delay asking me out after exchanging #s. It’s truly the first thing a guy asks me “are you available next weekend”.
But I thought I was “taking my time” with this guy lol
Well I didn’t meet him online - we were out in a public space when we exchanged #s
We started off sending texts here and there & couple of missed/returned calls
Next thing I know, it’s three weeks and I’m like wait - when’s he going to actually ask me out?
I tried to hold off to wait for him to bring it up to not seem eager/desperate - so I hinted I was interested in seeing him.
Then this last week, I’m like wait let me just come out and be fully transparent about my intentions of wanting to see him.
His respond was “yeah I don’t know when, maybe a couple of weeks I have a lot of work going on but I do want to see you”
So for me, I never had a guy delay asking me out after exchanging #s. It’s truly the first thing a guy asks me “are you available next weekend”.
But I thought I was “taking my time” with this guy lol
Anonymous
07/31/2021 15:04
Subject: Re:Texting without actually suggesting to meet
How did you end up in this texting/facetime zone before you even had a date?
That’s like skipping one very important step. Great for his ego stroking, 0 investment required.What a waste of your time.
Block and delete.
That’s like skipping one very important step. Great for his ego stroking, 0 investment required.What a waste of your time.
Block and delete.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 14:01
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Online dating is such a bad idea for a million reasons.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 13:58
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut. It’s telling you something isn’t right.
I've heard good looking women, of which there is always a shortage, receive fake texts/ responses. Years ago, I was baffled by the same thing.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 13:55
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Anonymous wrote:I hate guys that do this. If they don’t ask to meet up in the first week move on.
+1000 You’ll save yourself SO MUCH time and mental energy following this rule.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 12:48
Subject: Re:Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Copy!
Understood
Understood
Anonymous
07/31/2021 12:31
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Sounds married. If you do see him, look for a tan/ring line on his finger.
Anonymous
07/31/2021 12:19
Subject: Texting without actually suggesting to meet
Move on, OP. He’s getting something out of how things are now and has zero interest in taking it further. Don’t waste any more time. NEXT!