Anonymous
07/28/2021 15:22
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
DH doesn't register cars, put together furniture, do any pool maintenance, manage any contractors/vendors, or change any filters.
He does all lawn care.
Come to think of it, though, he doesn't do anything 'traditionally female.'
He does all lawn care.
Come to think of it, though, he doesn't do anything 'traditionally female.'
Anonymous
07/28/2021 15:20
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH does all the laundry and dishes
+1
+2
Anonymous
07/28/2021 15:19
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
DH cooks, I (DW) do the taxes and financial management.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 15:18
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:DH does all the laundry and dishes
+1
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:58
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
You and only you think "traditionally associated with women". There are famous male and female chefs, custodians, laundromat employees, etc.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:56
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
DH does all the laundry and dishes
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:55
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
I wouldn’t say we are flipped, but we do blend more tasks than traditional roles would have.
DH does most of the cleaning and at least half the laundry. I still do most of the cooking, but he does dishes most nights (or supervises the kids doing dishes). We split childcare stuff pretty equally. Yard work is split. I do most of the scheduling for summer camps and doctors appointments and sports sign-ups and stuff like that, but we share the driving. He does most routine home maintenance, but if there is a bigger project like painting a room we will trade off or do it together.
DH does most of the cleaning and at least half the laundry. I still do most of the cooking, but he does dishes most nights (or supervises the kids doing dishes). We split childcare stuff pretty equally. Yard work is split. I do most of the scheduling for summer camps and doctors appointments and sports sign-ups and stuff like that, but we share the driving. He does most routine home maintenance, but if there is a bigger project like painting a room we will trade off or do it together.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:55
Subject: Re:Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:Husband does 100% of the cooking. I hate cooking, he loves it, so this was an active decision.
I (woman) tend to do all the coordination with workers in the house - like if we need an HVAC person or a plumber or whatever. It all started because I was free the day we did the home inspection, and I learned a lot, and so then I got the HVAC guy to fix the thing that was wrong from the home inspection, and then when there was another HVAC issue, I already had the contact, etc, etc, so I just kinda fell into that role. Works fine.
Husband does more of the interaction with the nanny. They just super clicked right from jump, plus he's just naturally more "chatty" during the day while working (while I prefer a pretty non-social work day), plus he handles all the paperwork, payroll, etc. And for a while, he was doing the latter half of the morning with the baby and was the one in charge right at 5, so he was doing "pickup" and "drop-off" every day.
Oh, I also do all the painting. Touchups, room painting, etc.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:54
Subject: Re:Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Husband does 100% of the cooking. I hate cooking, he loves it, so this was an active decision.
I (woman) tend to do all the coordination with workers in the house - like if we need an HVAC person or a plumber or whatever. It all started because I was free the day we did the home inspection, and I learned a lot, and so then I got the HVAC guy to fix the thing that was wrong from the home inspection, and then when there was another HVAC issue, I already had the contact, etc, etc, so I just kinda fell into that role. Works fine.
Husband does more of the interaction with the nanny. They just super clicked right from jump, plus he's just naturally more "chatty" during the day while working (while I prefer a pretty non-social work day), plus he handles all the paperwork, payroll, etc. And for a while, he was doing the latter half of the morning with the baby and was the one in charge right at 5, so he was doing "pickup" and "drop-off" every day.
I (woman) tend to do all the coordination with workers in the house - like if we need an HVAC person or a plumber or whatever. It all started because I was free the day we did the home inspection, and I learned a lot, and so then I got the HVAC guy to fix the thing that was wrong from the home inspection, and then when there was another HVAC issue, I already had the contact, etc, etc, so I just kinda fell into that role. Works fine.
Husband does more of the interaction with the nanny. They just super clicked right from jump, plus he's just naturally more "chatty" during the day while working (while I prefer a pretty non-social work day), plus he handles all the paperwork, payroll, etc. And for a while, he was doing the latter half of the morning with the baby and was the one in charge right at 5, so he was doing "pickup" and "drop-off" every day.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:52
Subject: Re:Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Yes. I do all the traditionally male chores as well as the female ones (I'm a sucker, and I'm married to a low energy alcoholic).
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:46
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Of course. It's not 1950.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:46
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:This is just for fun
Does anyone else flip the "traditional" gender roles when it comes to any specific chores in your house? For example, my DH hates to mow the lawn so I mostly do that and he does almost all of the cooking.
Ours are flipped. I do the car maintenance, yard work, household repairs. He does the cooking and some interior cleaning. He does the grocery shopping. He mends his own clothes and does his own laundry. He's an Arab immigrant and yes, I fall victim to thinking of stereotypes myself, and how he doesn't fit them. And find it odd that things have worked out this way. But it works for us.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:44
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:We have very few "assigned" tasks. It's mostly just a giant pile of sh*t that has to be moved from one side of the room to the other every day and we both keep shoveling until its done. And then one day we die.
This made me laugh out loud. I feel you sister.
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:43
Subject: Re:Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:We are a 2 mom family with one DD. We don’t have gender norms in our house.
Really? Neither one of you does the cooking, childcare, cleaning, decorating and other chores traditionally associated with women?
That’s amazing! Please share your secret!
Anonymous
07/28/2021 14:42
Subject: Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?
Anonymous wrote:We have very few "assigned" tasks. It's mostly just a giant pile of sh*t that has to be moved from one side of the room to the other every day and we both keep shoveling until its done. And then one day we die.
But do you split the existential dread equally?
