Also, it suggests to me that maybe your current nanny was not so lucky on the job market and that may be part of why she wants to stay with you.

Your current nanny may think the commute is not so bad, but remember that we are in summer traffic mode. The traffic always gets worse when the school year starts up again.

This happened to me as few years ago and it was a really really sh$tty thing to do. They had a newborn and hired me a couple of months before they needed me to start--had me come over for date nights etc. Then a couple of days after Christmas, after I'd stopped job hunting for two months, they decided they wanted someone "with different energy". I have no idea what that means, and in the long term it worked in my favor, but it was really hard at the time and put me in a bad position trying to scramble to put work together right away when I thought I had something lined up.

I'd be careful OP that your nanny actually does want to work for you and isn't just having anxiety of changing jobs. The commute will wear on her after a while too. I'd explore that deeper--make sure you're both not having separation anxiety.

May result in unemployment and could result in a lawsuit though the latter is unlikely.

I'd also clarify with your current nanny whether the commute will change once more people are back at work and or if that ever happens. Because traffic is still not up to 100%, it's definitely increased based on like my most recent driving experiences compared to 6 months to a year ago but it's nowhere near what it used to be. And while a lot of places are going to hybrid my current employer who's planning to open in September has now delayed opening. That's something else to keep in mind as well because the commute may be fine right now but in 6 months or a year it could be really crappy again.

Anonymous wrote:There is no benefit to either party to have this job fail. The nanny is already having second thoughts because the immediate problem (securing employment) was met so her secondary one (childcare/commute time) popped out. This was unfair to you since her problem will become yours, resulting in her being late, having to leave early, calling in sick or taking time off to deal with these issues. More likely, she will realize that the extra money is not worth the stress and lack of time with her children and she will leave as soon as she finds a position more like her last one. Apologize and find someone else.

Is this for the other rescinding offer to a nanny question?

Anonymous wrote:Chances are old nanny will leave in a few months time when she finds something she prefers.

Yep.

Chances are old nanny will leave in a few months time when she finds something she prefers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.

Nonsense. She wasn’t even supposed to start for three weeks. No monetary compensation is necessary.

It’s disappointing when a job falls thru but not “terrible”. In this market, the nanny probably has lined up another job already.

May you reap what you sow. When companies do this to people everyone says it's shitty, but they do it, and you're basically begging the universe for it to happen to you.

You’re going to have a very hard life if something like this sets you off into karmic-revenge fantasies, PP.

It sucks, it’s disappointing, you move on. No one is really at fault here. OP can’t have two nannies and her children are bonded with the first nanny.

There is no benefit to either party to have this job fail. The nanny is already having second thoughts because the immediate problem (securing employment) was met so her secondary one (childcare/commute time) popped out. This was unfair to you since her problem will become yours, resulting in her being late, having to leave early, calling in sick or taking time off to deal with these issues. More likely, she will realize that the extra money is not worth the stress and lack of time with her children and she will leave as soon as she finds a position more like her last one. Apologize and find someone else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.

Nonsense. She wasn’t even supposed to start for three weeks. No monetary compensation is necessary.

It’s disappointing when a job falls thru but not “terrible”. In this market, the nanny probably has lined up another job already.

May you reap what you sow. When companies do this to people everyone says it's shitty, but they do it, and you're basically begging the universe for it to happen to you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.

Nonsense. She wasn’t even supposed to start for three weeks. No monetary compensation is necessary.

It’s disappointing when a job falls thru but not “terrible”. In this market, the nanny probably has lined up another job already.

That’s a pretty dickish way to treat someone you hired to take care of your child. In the summer, it’s not as easy to find a new job and if she’s in demand she could have turned down other jobs. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I dumped someone I promised to hire without giving some financial compensation.

especially a nanny, where the hiring process is often lengthy and start/end dates carefully planned in advance.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.

Nonsense. She wasn’t even supposed to start for three weeks. No monetary compensation is necessary.

It’s disappointing when a job falls thru but not “terrible”. In this market, the nanny probably has lined up another job already.

That’s a pretty dickish way to treat someone you hired to take care of your child. In the summer, it’s not as easy to find a new job and if she’s in demand she could have turned down other jobs. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I dumped someone I promised to hire without giving some financial compensation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.

Nonsense. She wasn’t even supposed to start for three weeks. No monetary compensation is necessary.

It’s disappointing when a job falls thru but not “terrible”. In this market, the nanny probably has lined up another job already.

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

Tell her immediately and give her a month's pay for the incredible inconvenience.
She may well have turned down another job. This is a terrible thing to do to someone.