Yep. My kid was HS class of 2020. COVID was all encompassing and we were holding our collective breaths to see if college would go in person, and then if it would stay in person (it did and was fine). So we didn’t have a “normal” senior spring and summer and it was very hard to move him in and walk away— separation plus COVID anxiety.

Now, he’s been home since May and is making up for lost time on the being an annoying teen front. He’s arguing about everything and constantly pushing back and DH and I are perpetually annoyed. I’m sad I feel this way, but he’s been home long enough. It’s time for him to go back.

DS wasn’t allowed to travel last spring once his SLAC formed a bubble. So he was there January to May with no break and we were asked not to visit. I know the transitions this year were unusually rough because no spring break, fall break, was for for an extended winter break beginning at Thanksgiving, etc.

I’m hoping that, as a family, we get better at the coming and going. This isn’t how I want our adult relationship to be. This get better, right?

My DS is also soiling the nest before he goes to college next month. There are times I think he's too immature to handle college and he needs another year at home to grow up. While at the same time there's no way we'll survive another year with him at home. And it's not even "bad" stuff, it's just his too-frequently snotty, self-centered attitude and behavior.

But at the same time I'm dreading drop-off day next month, I can't even imagine leaving him behind as DH and I walk away to drive hours back home.

Oh! I hope my DD has that experience and comes back and apologizes. That would be AWESOME.

I remember the day of my graduation my mom had to hold back slapping me in the face. I was so disrespectful and self centered. I wish I could apologize for my attitude. I think this is why community service is so important in those late teen years. I think teen entitlement also fuels depression because when the kids meet other people in college with different values, they suddenly realize that their behavior is unacceptable at home and in the "real world".

Anonymous wrote:I'm with you, OP. But then today mine was suddenly nice, and all of a sudden I'm thinking I'll miss her. WTF I can suddenly see my own mood swings on the horizon!

+1000000000

I'm with you, OP. But then today mine was suddenly nice, and all of a sudden I'm thinking I'll miss her. WTF I can suddenly see my own mood swings on the horizon!

Anonymous wrote:I feel really, really, really sorry for your daughter. You are a piece of work OP.

Says the person so th out a teen.. or a brain. Comments like this are so nasty snd useless. But I always picture the person behind them. They do this as they have no life experience and they get a rose out of us. But honestly no one with a clue or a kid would post that so you can easily ignore.. probably like this poster is ignored on her life in general which is why, whiteout kids, she’s on these boards in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:I feel really, really, really sorry for your daughter. You are a piece of work OP.

She may be a piece of work. But not because of anything she wrote in her OP.

argh "if you love someone let them go" sorry about the early morning typos rampant in my post.

its a very tough stage, the summer before college. I remember it well. You are nervous about going off on your own, but it's also the only thing you want. Tends to make you a bit kookoo. One question though, why does she sneak off to see her BF? You don't let them spend time together? Kids are this age, need a little bit of freedom, and should have it before you drop them on the dorm doorstop.

My moody DD is going off to college this summer too, and while she is not a terror, she has moments where I feel like she is hiding things from me and hates me. I try to give her some more freedom when that happens... as they say "if you someone someone let them go". She is a house/pet sitter so she is literally not living in my house most of this summer, though i see her all the time. Course I treated her like the adult she should be this week and she missed her doctors appointment costing me $100 LOL well guess who is paying for that and is not too happy about it? You want to be treated like an adult, time to act like one and take responsibility for your life.

Preach OP! I totally relate.

Anonymous wrote:I feel really, really, really sorry for your daughter. You are a piece of work OP.

Says the person without teens…

I feel really, really, really sorry for your daughter. You are a piece of work OP.