Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:48
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Does anyone know when the EDP divisions are announced ? Even if its to early for a schedule. The divisions may be helpful. Just to see who will be playing who.
The problem with EDP is half the participating teams change from year to year. Some clubs use EDP as a supplemental league while others use it as a primary league. The division are very different from year to year even accounting for promotion and relegation at older ages.
This is partially why the schedules often run late.
What you can get a idea of by looking at last years schedule for your likely division is determining Saturday vs Sunday games, the start and end dates of the season as well as possible bye weeks. Pay attention to 3 day weekends as they are always off to accommodate for tournaments.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:45
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Pick a team DBag.. Schools dont overlap classes, neither should sports. learn the rules. When you sign up there are a set of expectations no suggestions.
how about no. DD doesn't want to pick a sport yet and she's good enough to her coaches aren't forcing the issue.
With not being taught about weighing the requirements before deciding on commitments. Being told its ok to to pick and choose day to day. Wouldn't be surprised if she runs thru multiple boys and is knocked up by 15.
What requirement is expected of a 11 year old?
Good god you're gross with the bolded above.
People seem to have twisted the OP's basic issue into a YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED TO THE TEAM!! debate. Missing a game or two is never the end of the world. Also, it does not show a lack of commitment. It is a extra curricular activity. My kid has missed practice if there was a big test the next day. The world didn't end.
It is little kids playing a game, regardless of the level it is not as serious as you'd like to think it is. Sadly, many of you will learn this lesson way to late.
Its the same as missing granny's birthday the world won't end either, Or if your kid failed a test. the world won't end. I do think too many families over commit in all areas.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:38
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Does anyone know when the EDP divisions are announced ? Even if its to early for a schedule. The divisions may be helpful. Just to see who will be playing who.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:37
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Pick a team DBag.. Schools dont overlap classes, neither should sports. learn the rules. When you sign up there are a set of expectations no suggestions.
how about no. DD doesn't want to pick a sport yet and she's good enough to her coaches aren't forcing the issue.
With not being taught about weighing the requirements before deciding on commitments. Being told its ok to to pick and choose day to day. Wouldn't be surprised if she runs thru multiple boys and is knocked up by 15.
What requirement is expected of a 11 year old?
Good god you're gross with the bolded above.
People seem to have twisted the OP's basic issue into a YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED TO THE TEAM!! debate. Missing a game or two is never the end of the world. Also, it does not show a lack of commitment. It is a extra curricular activity. My kid has missed practice if there was a big test the next day. The world didn't end.
It is little kids playing a game, regardless of the level it is not as serious as you'd like to think it is. Sadly, many of you will learn this lesson way to late.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:29
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
Oh no! Not two whole weekend league games and a 3rd bracket of some sh!t weather tournament! Dear God I would hope the coach would have had a talk with them over this very serious issue. LOL
Yes, take the commitment seriously but don't fall for the guilt crap. In the end, the kids will not really remember many of the games but they will remember whether it was fun overall or not. And that goes for their overall childhood too. If pleasing a bunch of parents and a coach is more important than providing a balanced family life with quality memories then have at it.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:27
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Pick a team DBag.. Schools dont overlap classes, neither should sports. learn the rules. When you sign up there are a set of expectations no suggestions.
how about no. DD doesn't want to pick a sport yet and she's good enough to her coaches aren't forcing the issue.
With not being taught about weighing the requirements before deciding on commitments. Being told its ok to to pick and choose day to day. Wouldn't be surprised if she runs thru multiple boys and is knocked up by 15.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:18
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:LAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Pick a team DBag.. Schools dont overlap classes, neither should sports. learn the rules. When you sign up there are a set of expectations no suggestions.
how about no. DD doesn't want to pick a sport yet and she's good enough to her coaches aren't forcing the issue.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:17
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
LAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Pick a team DBag.. Schools dont overlap classes, neither should sports. learn the rules. When you sign up there are a set of expectations no suggestions.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 15:01
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
things happen, especially when you get into time periods where different sports seasons overlap. Once the majority of parents on a team realize that the world won't end if a has a basketball tournament or a swim meet or a lax game everything is fine
Anonymous
07/16/2021 14:56
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Missing a game is not the end of the world. Missing a game is not "skipping out on commitments in life" either. It is a youth soccer game, one of hundreds at the end of ones youth playing career. Perhaps demanding such absolute commitment at such a young age is being a bit selfish of the team. Wouldn't it be nice if parents were supportive of other parents by respecting the occasional absence for grandmas birthday instead of making them feel guilty with statements like "we sure will miss her/him this weekend in this pivotal NCSL game."
Simple PLAY REC !!! if Rec is too low a level have your kid play up a yr in REC!!! Dont commit to travel if your gonna screw over the other who actually commit
LOl! Who is getting screwed over? The sub that might get more playing time or the starter that gets to play more for the sub who isn't there?
irecovely
You all really think a little bit highly of your team or your player to think they team will be irrevocably harmed by missing a league game. Of course, if you can schedule around a game do so, but if something needs to be planned in July then then my advice is to just book it and not worry about a as of now scheduled game. I also said to share it with the coach, perhaps the game can be deconflicted.
But it is some crazy exaggeration to act like missing one game for a family event, vacation etc. means a player should do rec. Just shove it with that attitude. A lot of people were not able to travel or get together with family over hte last year and if someone needs to miss a friggin soccer game I see no problem with it.
Selfish people never get it. Hope your family is never on my team.
You don't really see how you might be selfish? A game? One. Single. Game.
And I'll tell you something, my kid has missed a lot of things because of soccer. Never missed games, practices, lots of extra training. It goes by quicker than you realize and while an enjoyable experience overall if I had it to do over again I would have pulled back a notch. A soccer tournament isn't a family vacation. Youth soccer at any level is still nothing more than a extra curricular activity. I learned that I don't need to apologize to you or anyone on the team if my family wants a weekend away. The team will survive without my or your kid for a game.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 14:41
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Missing a game is not the end of the world. Missing a game is not "skipping out on commitments in life" either. It is a youth soccer game, one of hundreds at the end of ones youth playing career. Perhaps demanding such absolute commitment at such a young age is being a bit selfish of the team. Wouldn't it be nice if parents were supportive of other parents by respecting the occasional absence for grandmas birthday instead of making them feel guilty with statements like "we sure will miss her/him this weekend in this pivotal NCSL game."
Simple PLAY REC !!! if Rec is too low a level have your kid play up a yr in REC!!! Dont commit to travel if your gonna screw over the other who actually commit
LOl! Who is getting screwed over? The sub that might get more playing time or the starter that gets to play more for the sub who isn't there?
irecovely
You all really think a little bit highly of your team or your player to think they team will be irrevocably harmed by missing a league game. Of course, if you can schedule around a game do so, but if something needs to be planned in July then then my advice is to just book it and not worry about a as of now scheduled game. I also said to share it with the coach, perhaps the game can be deconflicted.
But it is some crazy exaggeration to act like missing one game for a family event, vacation etc. means a player should do rec. Just shove it with that attitude. A lot of people were not able to travel or get together with family over hte last year and if someone needs to miss a friggin soccer game I see no problem with it.
Selfish people never get it. Hope your family is never on my team.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 14:21
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Missing a game is not the end of the world. Missing a game is not "skipping out on commitments in life" either. It is a youth soccer game, one of hundreds at the end of ones youth playing career. Perhaps demanding such absolute commitment at such a young age is being a bit selfish of the team. Wouldn't it be nice if parents were supportive of other parents by respecting the occasional absence for grandmas birthday instead of making them feel guilty with statements like "we sure will miss her/him this weekend in this pivotal NCSL game."
Simple PLAY REC !!! if Rec is too low a level have your kid play up a yr in REC!!! Dont commit to travel if your gonna screw over the other who actually commit
LOl! Who is getting screwed over? The sub that might get more playing time or the starter that gets to play more for the sub who isn't there?
irecovely
You all really think a little bit highly of your team or your player to think they team will be irrevocably harmed by missing a league game. Of course, if you can schedule around a game do so, but if something needs to be planned in July then then my advice is to just book it and not worry about a as of now scheduled game. I also said to share it with the coach, perhaps the game can be deconflicted.
But it is some crazy exaggeration to act like missing one game for a family event, vacation etc. means a player should do rec. Just shove it with that attitude. A lot of people were not able to travel or get together with family over hte last year and if someone needs to miss a friggin soccer game I see no problem with it.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 13:39
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Missing a game is not the end of the world. Missing a game is not "skipping out on commitments in life" either. It is a youth soccer game, one of hundreds at the end of ones youth playing career. Perhaps demanding such absolute commitment at such a young age is being a bit selfish of the team. Wouldn't it be nice if parents were supportive of other parents by respecting the occasional absence for grandmas birthday instead of making them feel guilty with statements like "we sure will miss her/him this weekend in this pivotal NCSL game."
Simple PLAY REC !!! if Rec is too low a level have your kid play up a yr in REC!!! Dont commit to travel if your gonna screw over the other who actually commit
Anonymous
07/16/2021 12:11
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Exactly...some things are unavoidable and can't be planned around, but we committed to a team and I don't think it's right to plan something when you know there will be a game. Now, if you are U little and/or not on a serious team that's one thing, but if you are committed to a better team that wants to compete you should commit. We have a family that always made vacation plans in the spring and the fall like two weeks before schedules come out. The husband was against planning trips like that, but the wife "wanted to live her life". Last season they missed a tournament and 2 weekend league games to go to the beach for the weekend twice. The weekend they missed two games we had a bye the next weekend that they could have planned the trip for. We play with a lower number of players to give them more playing time, but that sucks when a kid or two don't show. The coach had a conversation with the one family after the season and they left the team after spring.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 11:53
Subject: Re:EDP Fall Schedule
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Soccer schedules are always released right before the first game...and if it's a tournament sometimes days before. Sigh. Planning ahead for anything is useless.
It isn't useless to make plans, just accept that you may miss a soccer game. Heaven forbid. But it is also kinda naive to think you'll have any soccer free weekends in the fall through Thanksgiving.
Make your plans and live with it. Give yourself permission to do so. You are the one paying after all.
Yes. you are paying but, are you hurting the team when you miss?
100% you are. You are paying but so are the other families. So when you dont show up its affects everyone investment in the team. Theres a difference between an injury/illness or family emergency and a planned weekend trip/event. Dont be selfish your teaching your kids that its ok to skip out on commitments in life.
Missing a game is not the end of the world. Missing a game is not "skipping out on commitments in life" either. It is a youth soccer game, one of hundreds at the end of ones youth playing career. Perhaps demanding such absolute commitment at such a young age is being a bit selfish of the team. Wouldn't it be nice if parents were supportive of other parents by respecting the occasional absence for grandmas birthday instead of making them feel guilty with statements like "we sure will miss her/him this weekend in this pivotal NCSL game."