Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 22:51     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:Don’t be naive. He knew about the diagnosis before he reached out and waited for the right moment to tell you. Can’t expect anything else from a cheater. He wants to bang you a few more times before he goes. Are you in?

And before anyone attacks me, I’ve had cancer in the past.


OP here and I know you’re right. I’m partly angry about this but overall devastated that he’s going to be dead in 1-3 years and feel awful for his kids who are in 9th grade.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 22:08     Subject: Re:Why is life this way
Look I don’t expect anyone here to understand or sympathize with this. It’s not a fly by night thing. We were together for years and would have been together for life if I hadn’t ended it. I just won’t allow it to happen anymore. It’s more of a Katherine Hepburn/Spencer Tracy situation.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 22:05     Subject: Why is life this way
Maybe he wants to ghost you. Faking death is a bit much but maybe you are a bit much.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 22:03     Subject: Re:Why is life this way
Op, you can be like Cher supporting Val Kalmar. I read the story and thought that was really sweet! A true groovy kind of love!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:54     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.


Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?


She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.


Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.


You accuse HIM of burying the lead...but leave out the tiny detail that the "love of your life," who contacted you after your divorce is (oopS!) married.

Your former husband definitely is better off.


At least she is divorced but the guy is pretty yucky for even contacting her WHILE he is married.


OP here and I would also point out that when he contacted me he didn’t know I was divorced either.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:34     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.


Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?


She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.


Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.


You accuse HIM of burying the lead...but leave out the tiny detail that the "love of your life," who contacted you after your divorce is (oopS!) married.

Your former husband definitely is better off.


At least she is divorced but the guy is pretty yucky for even contacting her WHILE he is married.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:19     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.


Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?


She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.


Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.


You accuse HIM of burying the lead...but leave out the tiny detail that the "love of your life," who contacted you after your divorce is (oopS!) married.

Your former husband definitely is better off.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:18     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So no one told you life was gonna be this way?


Your job's a joke, you're broke.


You’re love life’s D… O… A…


It's like you're always stuck in second gear…
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:15     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So no one told you life was gonna be this way?


Your job's a joke, you're broke.


You’re love life’s D… O… A…
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:13     Subject: Why is life this way
Don’t be naive. He knew about the diagnosis before he reached out and waited for the right moment to tell you. Can’t expect anything else from a cheater. He wants to bang you a few more times before he goes. Are you in?

And before anyone attacks me, I’ve had cancer in the past.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 21:11     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:So no one told you life was gonna be this way?


Your job's a joke, you're broke.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 20:28     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So no one told you life was gonna be this way?


Is that what you way to everyone who’s grieving?


Oh please ! OP isn't grieving, she's a navel gazing AP involving us in her self-indulgent pity party.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 20:25     Subject: Why is life this way
Anonymous wrote:So no one told you life was gonna be this way?


Is that what you way to everyone who’s grieving?