Christinamoms
Post 07/11/2021 12:11     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
I try to avoid contacting anyone too early (before 9 or 10) or late (after 8) if I can. It's different if it's work related or I know the person I'm contacting is definitely awake or available. most people seem to play by the same rules so I never put my phone on do not disturb.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 12:10     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.


My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.


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I’m the emergency call. I’ve had to pick them up in the middle of the night to take them to the ER.

My teen stays out late. I need to hear the phone ring in case of emergency.

I would be furious if a friend or coworker or even one of my siblings texted some unimportant nonsense between 10pm and 8am (later on weekends).

My assistant loves to text at 7am. No clue why. Other colleagues have texted what should have been sent as an email at 1am. It’s rude.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:56     Subject: Re:Poll: Texting etiquette
I text 24/7. I love texting. I usually go through big batches of texts I need to send and if I happen to get the energy to do that at 2AM so be it. I always tell people, text me at anytime, I'll probably get up to respond and I am here if you need me.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:43     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.


I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.


DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.


My phone is on silent. If you’re the type who thinks I need to know that I need to see a photo of Janie’s ballet recital at 7 a.m. on a Sunday, I’m fine if we fall out of touch.


No, at 5:30am I'm responding to the text you sent me at 9pm when I was in bed. If your phone is on silent, what's the big deal?

If you have a phone, know how to use it and silence it when you don't want to be bothered. It isn't the responsibility of anyone else to know your own personal schedule.


That’s OK. I don’t like maintaining friendships with people who feel the need to chatter all the time. No one cares that you went on vacation and OMG there’s a picture of your pina colada.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:33     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
I’m a physician who has to be available 24/7. I can’t always predict who will contact me, so I can’t use DND. I give people two polite requests to not text after 10pm (I have to get up at 5am). After that, they are silenced 24/7, but I check my texts frequently enough that it’s not an issue. I’ve only had to silence two people. But one is my mother!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:10     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:I don’t send late night/early morning texts out of courtesy. I don’t need a reply at 5am, so I don’t need to send it at 5am.

I also know people who need to keep their phone on 24/7 (physicians, LEO, etc) and don’t want to disturb them.

I personally use DND because I have friends who text me late at night. I wish I didn’t have to, in case there’s an emergency.

I think it’s very selfish to feel entitled to text 24/7 and put the burden on the recipient to use DND. Not everyone can or wants to.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:08     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.


My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.



Also fyi, you can create exceptions for certain contexts. It's not hard.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:07     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.


My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 10:06     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.


I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.


DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.


My phone is on silent. If you’re the type who thinks I need to know that I need to see a photo of Janie’s ballet recital at 7 a.m. on a Sunday, I’m fine if we fall out of touch.


No, at 5:30am I'm responding to the text you sent me at 9pm when I was in bed. If your phone is on silent, what's the big deal?

If you have a phone, know how to use it and silence it when you don't want to be bothered. It isn't the responsibility of anyone else to know your own personal schedule.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:36     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
My phone is DND from 10-7 so I don’t mind when ppl text. I can’t say I’ve found myself texting much at off hours except maybe to tell a co worker I’m sick and won’t come in (I’m a teacher) so that coverage can happen.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:34     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Since I have the luxury of not needing to actually reach them, I do not text at inconvenient times. That also means I try not to text my adult children during their working hours, or weekend evenings when they probably have social plans. Knowing a glance down to their phone, because I texted, is a tiny distraction. But that's just me. I wouldn't assume others would know the schedule of their family/friends and do that.

Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:33     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:33     Subject: Re:Poll: Texting etiquette
For texts I write between 11pm-8am, I schedule it to send after 8am. Also use scheduled send for something like asking husband to pick up something on way home. I realize we need milk at 10am but know he may forget the request 8 hours later, so schedule it to send about 5pm.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:28     Subject: Re:Poll: Texting etiquette
Not usually. There are a few people that i know I can text at any hour, but for the vast majority of people I only text between 8 am-8 pm.

I have a brother on the west coast and he'll send texts to our family group chat at 1 in the morning (because it's 10 pm where he is.) So I don't feel bad about texting him at 3 am his time (6 am our time.) He started it!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 08:26     Subject: Poll: Texting etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.


I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.


DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.


My phone is on silent. If you’re the type who thinks I need to know that I need to see a photo of Janie’s ballet recital at 7 a.m. on a Sunday, I’m fine if we fall out of touch.


Same here. Although the texting outside hours is probably just one aspect in which we would conflict.

I view texting in the same vein as calling. 8am - 9pm unless someone is in the hospital. I don’t use DND because my family and friends follow this same timeframe - if anyone tries to contact you from 9pm - 8am, it’s an emergency.