Anonymous wrote:If op was a DH you would all be eating him alive for skipping out on family time to train for a race and do work

Since I'm not sexist I'll go ahead and rip OP a new one. Press pause on your life for 2 weeks and go on the trip.

+1000. If my spouse told me that his “race” or tomato plants took priority over a family vacation I would be pissed. It’s two weeks ffs.

Anonymous wrote:A week alone sounds great, but your DH probably doesn’t want to handle the kids for a week without you. Why don’t you schedule two separate weeks of vacation so your time gone in one stretch as long.

Sorry to interrupt your projection but what about the kids? They are asking mom to stay for 2 weeks as well, is that just a conspiracy to trap op too?

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Anonymous wrote:If op was a DH you would all be eating him alive for skipping out on family time to train for a race and do work

Since I'm not sexist I'll go ahead and rip OP a new one. Press pause on your life for 2 weeks and go on the trip.

I think that's because most people view their husband, and other husbands as not pulling their weight or lazy when nit comes to kid and household duties. I see it over and over again, post after post. Not saying it' right or that I agree with this, I'm just commenting that this is why some people would change their tune if the roles were reversed.

This board is just incredibly sexist.

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Anonymous wrote:When the kids are gone, which will be sooner than you think, you’ll regret not taking more time to be with them.

Not OP, but I would rather be home with my kids. Not on vacation. I hate vacations. I find them too stressful. A week is more than enough. I would only a go a week, maximum. I prefer no vacations at all.

I, I, I... how are you so focused on what YOU like and want. You choose to be a mom, no? Sure, take time to do what you like and want, but come on, you and op are just self-centered people.
If you have anxiety and vacations are stressful, that is not bcs vacations are stressful that is bcs you are that type of person. Think about how you are in everyday situations. Be honest now, are you the cause of stress on vacations and not the activity itself? I grew up with a mom like you, the simplest activity turned into a nightmare stress fest bcs she created the stress.

A week alone sounds great, but your DH probably doesn’t want to handle the kids for a week without you. Why don’t you schedule two separate weeks of vacation so your time gone in one stretch as long.

Anonymous wrote:If op was a DH you would all be eating him alive for skipping out on family time to train for a race and do work

Since I'm not sexist I'll go ahead and rip OP a new one. Press pause on your life for 2 weeks and go on the trip.

I think that's because most people view their husband, and other husbands as not pulling their weight or lazy when nit comes to kid and household duties. I see it over and over again, post after post. Not saying it' right or that I agree with this, I'm just commenting that this is why some people would change their tune if the roles were reversed.

I understand your DH and kids, especially if it is a beach vacation.
I understand you too. You will probably be the one to do most of the work on vacation.

But I used to take beach vacations with my parents every summer, DH did not, and he is like you. He hates the beach, hates vacations in general, but he realized that our kids treasure them so much, so he goes. I also often go without him with the kids.
I hate to tell you this, but your kids (depending on their ages, but all the way up to the early 20s) might be hearing, mom likes the dog better, mom likes her work more than us, mom hates us.
They will say they understand, but they don't.

You really need to book the dog accommodations as soon as you book your own.

If there’s no good option for the dog, I’m not sure what the debate is. You can’t just take off without accounting for your pet.

I am jealous, I would love it if my DH wanted a 2 week vacation!

What's the destination? Is it a place you've been to before?

My advice, if you really want to stick to just one week, is that you go for the second week. I've been on the other end where I stay somewhere longer and people join for a shorter time and there is something really sad about someone leaving early. But it's so much more enjoyable and exciting when you have someone who will join you for the last leg.
This gives you time at home home to recharge and be on your own before you join the rest of the family.

Do you have a job? You don't mention being restricted by time off.

Yeah, tell your DH (and kids depending on their ages) to just knock it off, you're happy for them to go as long as they like and here's what you'll be doing. I've been through this in the reverse to some extent; I often like to take trips my DH has no interest in going on. In our case I never actually minded him staying at home but he used to give me a lot of grief about wanting to go and for a long time I gave in. Then one day I thought, "this isn't how I want to live my life" and told him I was going, he was welcome to come or to enjoy some downtime at home, and after grumbling for awhile he saw it wasn't getting him anywhere and stopped. Sometimes you just have to power through the whining and grey rock it out for awhile - it'll be worth it.

If op was a DH you would all be eating him alive for skipping out on family time to train for a race and do work

Since I'm not sexist I'll go ahead and rip OP a new one. Press pause on your life for 2 weeks and go on the trip.

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Anonymous wrote:DH (and kids!) really want to go on a 2 week vacation in August and I just don't want to. I don't like being gone from home that long; I don't like how my work piles up. I'm training for a race and I've got a garden to tend. We also have a dog and no good options on where to keep him for that long. Maybe I'm just a homebody. One week at a time seems sufficient for a vacation. I want to just come home early but I'm getting a lot of grief for suggesting that.

Count your blessings and be thankful you can afford to spend the money on a vacation.

Not helpful.

And if OP’s husband is like mine, he wants to take the vacation even if it’s not in the budget.

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Anonymous wrote:DH (and kids!) really want to go on a 2 week vacation in August and I just don't want to. I don't like being gone from home that long; I don't like how my work piles up. I'm training for a race and I've got a garden to tend. We also have a dog and no good options on where to keep him for that long. Maybe I'm just a homebody. One week at a time seems sufficient for a vacation. I want to just come home early but I'm getting a lot of grief for suggesting that.

Count your blessings and be thankful you can afford to spend the money on a vacation.

This sounds like the kind of advice my great-grandmother would've given to my grandmother as a young adult. Thank god women know today that it's okay to also prioritize our own wishes and needs, and that they are equally as important as anyone else's.

Anonymous wrote:When the kids are gone, which will be sooner than you think, you’ll regret not taking more time to be with them.

Not OP, but I would rather be home with my kids. Not on vacation. I hate vacations. I find them too stressful. A week is more than enough. I would only a go a week, maximum. I prefer no vacations at all.