I would be offended too but I would also realize that objectively speaking, there wasn’t anything offensive about what he said.

I do think that if somebody is cooking for you you shouldn’t complain about it, even if it’s your spouse. If the chef solicit feedback, the eater should be honest but still find something good to say about it and be grateful. Especially if the cook is proud of it and worked hard on it.

But still, try not to take offense. It is true that technically it was a comment on the food and not you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would right down on a recipe card instructions for DH to go F*CK himself.

You’d probably mid-spell it

Mis-spell lol

Anonymous wrote:I would right down on a recipe card instructions for DH to go F*CK himself.

You’d probably mid-spell it

Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

Anonymous wrote:It’s the recipe, not you. Sometimes I spend a lot of time and a recipe doesn’t turn out. That’s ok. I makes note to fix it or not make it again.

Also are your spices old?

Yep. Sometimes it is a hit, sometimes not. It isn’t personal.

I’m guessing you don’t have kids.

Big effin deal. He didn’t like it move on. Would you prefer he lie to you? What do you want here?

If your biggest complaint of the day is that your husband pointed out a recipe was bland (and you agree), you have an easy life. Ask yourself if you’re being overly sensitive.

If this is the biggest of your problems, you are damn lucky.
He expressed his opinion. Don't make it again. Easy peasy.

Anonymous wrote:I took quite a bit of time last night cooking lamb meatballs from a cookbook I recently bought. The result was pretty good. A little bland. I amazed my husband what he thought an he said it was bland and he missed it not having spices.

I was a little hurt after all the effort I put in. I told him so. He said he was commenting on my cooking abilities but the recipe itself.

So did he or did he not say he didn't like it??? I don't see that.

I get feeling bad - you put in effort to make somethng new and it wasn't easy. But that doesn't really mean that what he said was hurtful. Thoughtless, maybe. But not hurtful. I don't like my cooking insulted - but this wasn't about your cooking. He prefers a spicier meatball (ha!).

If I spent a long time making a recipe and it turned out to be bland, I'd be disappointed - but not at my husband for telling me what I already knew. Like somehow he was supposed to think they were amazing when you didn't even really like them? You have misplaced your feelings.

I do know what you mean about disappointment when you take a long time making something. I tried to make a lamb dish right near the beginning of Covid. Took me the better part of the afternoon and it too was bland. It was so much work and not that good.

Anonymous wrote:So he agreed with you, but you are upset.

+1. Let it go, op. He was stating a fact, not insulting your cooking.

Ooooooh Lucy! Ricky will make it up to you.

Don’t take it personally.

Anonymous wrote:He forgot to do the positivity sandwich:

Positive: I think it's wonderful that you're trying to stretch our palettes by trying out a new cookbook.

Negative: It was good, but maybe we can add some more spices next time?

Positive: Thank you for taking so much time and effort to make delicious meals. I really know how much you love me through your cooking.

Just be honest, and teach him about the sandwich. He'll do better next time.

Palates.