Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 14:07     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Yep, my dad is leaving everything to his new wife/family. It breaks my heart that my deceased mom's family farm is going to her.

But it is common. When a man starts a new family, he really doesn't see the first family as family anymore. Tale as old as time.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 13:53     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:Yep this is the only way I've seen it happen in divorced families.

The worst in when the mom (who had died) was the breadwinner or had a lot of inheritance from her family. Her biological kids get nothing and the dad's new wife and child get all her money. At the time of mom's death, her will specified that everything went to her husband and then to kids after his death. But he remarried and had more kids who got everything. My mom didn't even get her mom's engagement ring or some other heirlooms from her grandparents that she knows her mom would have wanted her to have.


Skip the spouse and give to bio kids.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 13:51     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:Wealthy father has multiple wives (2 other wives + 3 kids, all very much in contact, visit often) but marries much younger wife (25+ years difference) and also has biological child. Wife inherits money because she is so much younger and needs to for her end of life + then her biological child is the only one to get an inheritance, skipping other 3 kids and grandkids from other marriages entirely. This happened on both sides of our family which is fine and we planned for it but I think it's much more common than people think. Stepmom + their biological kid + those grandkids get 100% of inheritance.


No. Usually the will covers all offspring, not just the latest one. Prenups also exist when “wealthy” men marry again, those can stipulate inheritances in five year chunks.
Of course if there are falling outs those may be left out.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 13:33     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
My dad remarried when I was in college. He and my stepmom have no bio kids together but we are a blended family (I have two stepbros). We all are beneficiaries of both my dad and my stepmom’s life insurance policies. I wasn’t expecting that or anything tbh because I don’t count other people’s money.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 13:20     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Yes this happened to friends of ours. The 2nd wife wasn't young, but she did get everything and her child will get it all. His other 3 children from his first marriage, who he had wonderful relationships with, got nothing. He seemed to be delusional enough to think his new wife would "take care of them" but considering none of them really had too much love for each other, I don't know why he wouldn't put that in writing.

It was awful for his other kids to find this out. He died very suddenly and it was already a shock. The step-mom is a horrible person.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 13:13     Subject: Re:This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Yes it happens with shitty men. I’m a child of divorce and my dad remarried a woman about 10 years his junior (when I was still a kid). Because he’s not an asshole they structured his estate so that when he does my brother and I will split half of the assets and the other half will go to her. The expectation is that when she dies she will pass the remaining to my brother and me but I don’t think that’s codified. She doesn’t have bio kids but does have a slew of free-loading siblings with kids and grandkids and I think they will likely come sniffing around if and when my dad pre-deceases my stepmom.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:52     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:I guess grown adults shouldn’t assume they’re entitled to inheritances and also should live like they’ll never get them.


(This hasn't happened to me) Why shouldn't adults think they're entitled to their parents inheritance? Why is it all going to 2nd wife, who might have only been married for a few years to the dad and didn't have kids?
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:46     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
It doesn’t just “happen” unless the man fails to do any planning. There is also no excuse for a much younger wife to not make her own life plans if she knows her DH has a prior family.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:42     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
I guess grown adults shouldn’t assume they’re entitled to inheritances and also should live like they’ll never get them.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:39     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
I figured it was common. Happened in my husband's family and mine as well.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:36     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:I've seen it happen a number of times. There don't even need to be children from that last marriage to a younger woman. All the new wife needs to do is out live the children of the first marriage (s) and spend inheritance from her late husband. I know people in their 60s and even 70s who still haven't seen money from there rich, long departed fathers for this reason.


Or the new wife is the same age as his children... they really aren't ever going to see any money.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:32     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
I've seen it happen a number of times. There don't even need to be children from that last marriage to a younger woman. All the new wife needs to do is out live the children of the first marriage (s) and spend inheritance from her late husband. I know people in their 60s and even 70s who still haven't seen money from there rich, long departed fathers for this reason.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:27     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is partly the reason broken families are horrible. It is always the kids from the previous marriage that get the short end of the stick while the "new family" doesn't suffer at all.

WTF??!!


WTF, really?
Have you not seen this often? That the kids from the previous marriage + any subsequent grandchildren, don't get any in way, shape or form get the kind of support from their father, emotionally + financially, that the child from the new marriage does? This is a very common theme to divorce. Obviously the current wife makes many decisions involving their time and finances and favors her own biological child + grandchildren to spend time and holidays with and to support in any way financially.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:24     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Yep this is the only way I've seen it happen in divorced families.

The worst in when the mom (who had died) was the breadwinner or had a lot of inheritance from her family. Her biological kids get nothing and the dad's new wife and child get all her money. At the time of mom's death, her will specified that everything went to her husband and then to kids after his death. But he remarried and had more kids who got everything. My mom didn't even get her mom's engagement ring or some other heirlooms from her grandparents that she knows her mom would have wanted her to have.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2021 12:18     Subject: This is super common right in inheritances....? Spinoff.
Anonymous wrote:extremely common. this is why women need to get the best divorce settlement they can including college tuition and life insurance to the extent possible.


It’s just not enforceable though. My ex is supposed to pay 1/3 of college costs. The only way that will happen is if a 4 year degree costs $3k a year. Even if I got a judgment against him, how would I collect? Make him sell his home?