I'd like to think I'd step in but once when one of my kids was 18 months I had her in the community baby pool. They called for adult swim and four kids came barreling into the baby pool and one jumped right onto my toddler, knocking her down. These kids were between 6-8 and no adults followed them. I told the one who knocked into her to watch it and that if she couldn't be careful she should stay out of the baby pool.

The mom eventually got word and followed me out to the parking lot trying to shame me. She later got my email from someone she saw me chatting with that she also happened to know. She sent me this crazy email accusing me of giving nasty looks to one of her other kids and making threats about ruining my reputation and getting me kicked out of the pool.

So now I mostly just observe because I don't want to deal with any psycho parents.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Don’t bring your sons to the pool if you aren’t prepared to stop them from harassing little kids. Maybe sign them up fir a social skills class since you’re unwilling to parent?

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Anonymous wrote:So dramatic. It wasn't "kids" it was one kid. If your daughter isn't successful getting the toys back then you just ask the boy for them. Almost all of the time he will hand them over. Does your daughter have no siblings? If she did you wouldn't be so "disgusted". Get over it.

She’s asking for advice, GTFOY.

Are you new here?

No, are you, b:tch? Don’t start your cahunty “get over it” when you’re so delicate that being told to get over yourself is a problem.

OP, step in next time. No prob.

Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Anonymous wrote:My kid would've beat his ass lol

I have a niece who would have kneed him and been done with it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So dramatic. It wasn't "kids" it was one kid. If your daughter isn't successful getting the toys back then you just ask the boy for them. Almost all of the time he will hand them over. Does your daughter have no siblings? If she did you wouldn't be so "disgusted". Get over it.

She’s asking for advice, GTFOY.

Are you new here?

She tried, he didn't care. She started crying, he didn't care.

You and her dad watched and did nothing. One of you should have been over there to help her out.

My kid would've beat his ass lol

Omg you all sound fragile.

Don't let your kid see how much it made you sweat. Gosh. Sounds like typical day with A-hole kids.

She tried and wasn’t successful. You step in if a kid is being a bully to your kid like this. I can’t believe the parent didn’t say anything? Were they watching?

NP here. What’s up with pools and 10 year old boys? Does chlorine cause some kind of feral reaction?

We belong to two pools this summer (because we got off the waitlist at one after committing to membership at the first), and so we have a huge sample of n=2, and the boys that age at both pools are absolute jerks. The lifeguards regularly pull boys this age from the pool for hitting kids with noodles, doing illegal dives off the board, yanking on lanelines, intentionally splashing adults or little kids, etc.

The stuff that doesn’t get policed by lifeguards is just as annoying: stealing little kids’ diving toys, wresting floaties away from smaller kids, causing total havoc in the locker room, and throwing wrappers all over the parking lot. I can’t tell if it’s a normal developmental stage or if parents of boys this age just give up or if they mistakenly think their kids are old enough to be unsupervised. Either way, I think it’s my new least favorite boy age.

I would have stepped in with the age difference. I have a 10 year old and would be pissed if he was bullying a 6 year old. What the hell!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you intervene on this one. A simple "these belong to us, you need to give them back to us now," would work.

+1

At the second toy, when he didn't care what dd had to say, was the time for dh to intervene (or you).

Yes, you or DH should have intervened, especially at the second toy. Now your dd knows you don't have her back.