My 8 yo also wanted to go to overnight camp but was still wearing pull ups at night. He went and it really was a non-issue. We talked to him about how to be discreet (if he wanted to be) in putting them on and taking them off and we included the issue in our notes to camp and the counselors. But it’s not something he feels embarrassed about. Camps are very used to this issue and aren’t going to tolerate kids bullying each other in this day and age. I hope he has a great time!

We waited till DS was dry at night (9). I think it might be no big deal or it could be a huge deal depending on the kids he is with. Not a risk I wanted to take. If there us something that really looks like underwear and could be washed ...not a pull up or goodnight...I might consider it.

I had a late bedwetter to OP. I would not do an overnight camp yet. She did do sleepovers with good friends and there was never any judgement.

I do not understand why you all are so unnecessarily viscous to this woman who is stepping up for her nephew. Geez. Get a grip.

OP - ask the camp and see what they say. Talk to your nephew and make sure he is on board with the plan and can take care of it while he’s gone. Practice with him before he goes. Good luck! You’re an awesome aunt.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was a bedwetter until she was 11 and we sent her to overnight camp starting at 9. I packed extra sheets and would have a discreet conversation with her counselor and it was fine. She never said anything about anyone noticing or making fun of her. They did have to wash her linens a couple of times (over the years, not a couple of times per camp) and it was NBD.

You have no idea if it was a big deal or not. My mother was also the kind of mother who’d set me up
For failure, and no way would I have told her about kids making fun of me for something like this.

I do, actually, because my daughter is very much an open book with me and would've told me in a heartbeat. I'm sorry you felt that way about your mother but that doesn't mean I have the same relationship with my daughter.

Sure, keep telling yourself that.

Love all the parents packing off their overnight wetters so they can get a break for the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was a bedwetter until she was 11 and we sent her to overnight camp starting at 9. I packed extra sheets and would have a discreet conversation with her counselor and it was fine. She never said anything about anyone noticing or making fun of her. They did have to wash her linens a couple of times (over the years, not a couple of times per camp) and it was NBD.

You have no idea if it was a big deal or not. My mother was also the kind of mother who’d set me up
For failure, and no way would I have told her about kids making fun of me for something like this.

I do, actually, because my daughter is very much an open book with me and would've told me in a heartbeat. I'm sorry you felt that way about your mother but that doesn't mean I have the same relationship with my daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not send him to day camp?

This is just needlessly creating a problem.

+1. Do you not like this child or something? Why would you put him in that situation of needing to wear diapers in front of other 8 year olds?

I love this child dearly. He's been through a lot, in the past few months, and I (gladly) adjusted my entire life to be there for him.

The idea of going to an overnight camp was *his* idea, and something he's been asking about non-stop for a while now. He's very confident, and independent for his age, and it well aware of what this would mean. We're not asking him to wear 'diapers' in front of kids, they're pull-ups. And, once again--this was/is something he is completely on board with.

We do not have experience with using disposable pull-ups at home while he with us. He wears something called 'Super Undies' while here, which are similar nighttime washable cloth training pants.

All I was asking with this thread is how discreet the disposable 'big kid' nighttime pull-ups (Good nights, a PP called them?) are, and if they'd be an OK option for him to wear around other kids. Are they comfortable? Do they hold a lot of pee?

This child is not the type to fall to pieces over other kids finding out he's wearing something at night. To be blunt, he's dealt with enough hardship in the past year that I doubt that would be a major deal to him at all--however it is something we'd like to avoid, if possible.

Appreciate everyone's input once again!

How are pull-ups not diapers? You’re insane.

Anonymous wrote:My DD was a bedwetter until she was 11 and we sent her to overnight camp starting at 9. I packed extra sheets and would have a discreet conversation with her counselor and it was fine. She never said anything about anyone noticing or making fun of her. They did have to wash her linens a couple of times (over the years, not a couple of times per camp) and it was NBD.

You have no idea if it was a big deal or not. My mother was also the kind of mother who’d set me up
For failure, and no way would I have told her about kids making fun of me for something like this.

Yes counselors are used to it but would much prefer to not have to wash additional linens!

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Anonymous wrote:Can't help with the camp question specifically, but it's tough. I have two boys who night trained at 10 and 8-ish (still waiting on the second).

Consider GoodNites Tru-Fit underwear. Get it on Amazon. Basically looks like real cotton underwear with essentially a maxi-pad inside for the pee. It is what it is, but the "diaper" won't be sticking out.

Also, contact the camp. I suspect you'll find that this is not an uncommon issue.

OP here. Thank you!! Will look into these right now. Small question, but does the pad inside allow the actual 'underwear' to get at all wet? He'd likely need to re-wear the 'underwear' part for a night or two, if we go this route.

In theory, the pads are supposed to absorb the way a pull up would, so that he could rewear the underwear. But my kids would have leaks because they peed a lot. So, I think it would definitely be worth experimenting before camp.

OP, I just wanted to say that you sound like a lovely person. Don't let the bitter weirdos here get you down.

Our daughter, like her father before her, had accidents very late and at 9 was still nervous for overnight camp, which she desperately wanted to attend. Her accidents were maybe once a month, if that, by that point, so we got her some “Speax” underwear in the extra small size. It’s related to period underwear but is for bladder leakage. Because of the look, this is more of a solution for girls than boys, and it’s not for full on accidents. But if you are at the tail end of the issue and just need something discreet so a kid doesn’t worry, it’s a great solution.

I think some people don’t get both how normal late bed wetting can be and how important sleep away camp is to some kids. Like others have said, this is extremely common and counselors should be able to handle
It.

Anonymous wrote:Can't help with the camp question specifically, but it's tough. I have two boys who night trained at 10 and 8-ish (still waiting on the second).

Consider GoodNites Tru-Fit underwear. Get it on Amazon. Basically looks like real cotton underwear with essentially a maxi-pad inside for the pee. It is what it is, but the "diaper" won't be sticking out.

Also, contact the camp. I suspect you'll find that this is not an uncommon issue.

OP here. Thank you!! Will look into these right now. Small question, but does the pad inside allow the actual 'underwear' to get at all wet? He'd likely need to re-wear the 'underwear' part for a night or two, if we go this route.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not send him to day camp?

This is just needlessly creating a problem.

+1. Do you not like this child or something? Why would you put him in that situation of needing to wear diapers in front of other 8 year olds?

I love this child dearly. He's been through a lot, in the past few months, and I (gladly) adjusted my entire life to be there for him.

The idea of going to an overnight camp was *his* idea, and something he's been asking about non-stop for a while now. He's very confident, and independent for his age, and it well aware of what this would mean. We're not asking him to wear 'diapers' in front of kids, they're pull-ups. And, once again--this was/is something he is completely on board with.

We do not have experience with using disposable pull-ups at home while he with us. He wears something called 'Super Undies' while here, which are similar nighttime washable cloth training pants.

All I was asking with this thread is how discreet the disposable 'big kid' nighttime pull-ups (Good nights, a PP called them?) are, and if they'd be an OK option for him to wear around other kids. Are they comfortable? Do they hold a lot of pee?

This child is not the type to fall to pieces over other kids finding out he's wearing something at night. To be blunt, he's dealt with enough hardship in the past year that I doubt that would be a major deal to him at all--however it is something we'd like to avoid, if possible.

Appreciate everyone's input once again!

Anonymous wrote:Why not send him to day camp?

This is just needlessly creating a problem.

+1. Do you not like this child or something? Why would you put him in that situation of needing to wear diapers in front of other 8 year olds?