If you are already divorcing, and you want to respond, then respond.

He's just trolling to get some. Don't.

Anonymous wrote:You are divorcing! That changes everything. When I had a major separation in my late twenties, so many men from my past sent those types of emails.

It’s so wild. How did they know? It’s such weird timing.

You are divorcing! That changes everything. When I had a major separation in my late twenties, so many men from my past sent those types of emails.

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Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

He and his wife are having troubles, he's looking to cheat. It happens more than you think. WALK AWAY.

He wouldn’t be contacting OP unless he was divorced, separated, or looking to leave his marriage.

OP is separated.

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Anonymous wrote:If you were both single it would be different answer

OP: I am married but divorcing actually but he couldn’t know that. Last I heard he was married but it’s been years of no contact so it’s my assumption that he still is married. But I don’t know for certain.

My advice still mostly stands don't jump into anything with this guy. He'll always have to deal with being thought of as the person who broke up your marriage even if that' not the case.

Figuring out if he's available would be a start.

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Anonymous wrote:If you were both single it would be different answer

OP: I am married but divorcing actually but he couldn’t know that. Last I heard he was married but it’s been years of no contact so it’s my assumption that he still is married. But I don’t know for certain.

My advice still mostly stands don't jump into anything with this guy. He'll always have to deal with being thought of as the person who broke up your marriage even if that' not the case.

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Anonymous wrote:If you were both single it would be different answer

OP: I am married but divorcing actually but he couldn’t know that. Last I heard he was married but it’s been years of no contact so it’s my assumption that he still is married. But I don’t know for certain.

Well now. That changes everything.

If you are separated, then go ahead and respond.

Maybe this will end happily with another “blended family.”

If he’s still married, maybe you could get him to divorce her. Or at lease you could have some “rebound fun.”

WTF is wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:If you were both single it would be different answer

OP: I am married but divorcing actually but he couldn’t know that. Last I heard he was married but it’s been years of no contact so it’s my assumption that he still is married. But I don’t know for certain.

Well now. That changes everything.

If you are separated, then go ahead and respond.

Maybe this will end happily with another “blended family.”

If he’s still married, maybe you could get him to divorce her. Or at lease you could have some “rebound fun.”

Anonymous wrote:If you were both single it would be different answer

OP: I am married but divorcing actually but he couldn’t know that. Last I heard he was married but it’s been years of no contact so it’s my assumption that he still is married. But I don’t know for certain.

Check out the ex on Facebook to see if he/she is still hot. Duh.

looking to cheat; also typical for someone contemplating leaving their spouse and wanting to test the waters.

Testing the waters for how far you'll go towards meeting up and doing err... other things

Responding to her email will only create problems, OP.

Block her out completely.