I am the pp who mentioned my in-laws casual racism....They still use the term "colored." I can think of ONE time when they had black people over and they called us before to tell us that they were having black people over, and they should warn us...for what, I don't know.

Anonymous wrote:Wow I am so jealous! Where can I meet people like these?

Alabama, South Carolina, Georgia.

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Anonymous wrote:Gucci is kind of tacky and Eurotrashy, no?

My DH is from a Virginia plantation family. We're one of the original families of this area. Their hobbies are Dog shows, horses, boats, that kind of thing.

Oh...and their other hobby is casual racism.

think of it as an homage to their history

Keep your racist BS to yourself.

How exactly do you think dynastic wealth centered around plantations was created?

Oh shut up. Accusing them of being racists without merit seems to be your typical agenda.

OP has already said they seem to be a very nice family, stop making things up.

I'm from Atlanta and sometimes these situations are too good to be true. I knew a guy like this in college and as it turned out the family was in serious debt and ended up declaring bankruptcy.

Atlanta is VERY showy. A lot of 'all hat no cattle' types. I'd be weary and make sure she sees how he handles every day life. I'd also make sure they have conversations around family life and her continuing to work after children. Some men like this assume the wife will give up her career.

Anonymous wrote:I have told my kids they can not get engaged before having dated for a full year. There's no reason to rush things.

Has she seen him deal with a death? Has she seen how he handles himself when he gets angry? How does he celebrate things? Is his idea of relaxing to drink? How does he treat waitstaff? Does he volunteer (or just donate money)? It takes time to see the answers to these things.

He sounds nice as does his family, but you can't tell adult kids how long they have to stay engaged!

Yes it's better to take the time to get to know each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Gucci is kind of tacky and Eurotrashy, no?

My DH is from a Virginia plantation family. We're one of the original families of this area. Their hobbies are Dog shows, horses, boats, that kind of thing.

Oh...and their other hobby is casual racism.

think of it as an homage to their history

Keep your racist BS to yourself.

How exactly do you think dynastic wealth centered around plantations was created?

Anonymous wrote:I have told my kids they can not get engaged before having dated for a full year. There's no reason to rush things.

Has she seen him deal with a death? Has she seen how he handles himself when he gets angry? How does he celebrate things? Is his idea of relaxing to drink? How does he treat waitstaff? Does he volunteer (or just donate money)? It takes time to see the answers to these things.

You told your kids who are or will be adults when they are allowed to get engaged?

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Anonymous wrote:Gucci is kind of tacky and Eurotrashy, no?

My DH is from a Virginia plantation family. We're one of the original families of this area. Their hobbies are Dog shows, horses, boats, that kind of thing.

Oh...and their other hobby is casual racism.

think of it as an homage to their history

Keep your racist BS to yourself.

I have told my kids they can not get engaged before having dated for a full year. There's no reason to rush things.

Has she seen him deal with a death? Has she seen how he handles himself when he gets angry? How does he celebrate things? Is his idea of relaxing to drink? How does he treat waitstaff? Does he volunteer (or just donate money)? It takes time to see the answers to these things.

Anonymous wrote:Gucci is kind of tacky and Eurotrashy, no?

My DH is from a Virginia plantation family. We're one of the original families of this area. Their hobbies are Dog shows, horses, boats, that kind of thing.

Oh...and their other hobby is casual racism.

think of it as an homage to their history

In my experience, these people come across as incredibly refined and stylish but are very exclusive and racist.

PP here. And yes, they have a summer house.

Gucci is kind of tacky and Eurotrashy, no?

My DH is from a Virginia plantation family. We're one of the original families of this area. Their hobbies are Dog shows, horses, boats, that kind of thing.

Oh...and their other hobby is casual racism.

Odd this is the second "rich Southern culture" thread. Did you not know people lived south of Richmond, VA, OP?

Wow I am so jealous! Where can I meet people like these?