Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 08:05     Subject: Nanny resentful
It sounds like the nanny wasn't very professional.

But every time OP posts, it becomes more and more obvious why the nanny left in the first place, left two weeks early, and declined a face to face meeting when picking up her last check.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 07:47     Subject: Nanny resentful
Op, ignore mean comments.

Some people’s have poor work ethic and entitle.
Don’t sweat about it. Your nanny is young and will need more growing , life will teach her.

No need to write a letter or be any reference if you don’t want to. She does it value her relationship with you, why would you?

Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 03:31     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the PPs. Sounds like a cushy job and nanny was a brat. $20 an hour for a ten year old who was mostly in school online? Nice gig! And seriously, moving a few light things one day is not asking too much, plus she was compensated.



+1

It was a bad fit. Forget about her and move on.


I also ageee with these two PPs. So rude from the nanny. She had an attitude.


Very typical of the nanny’s generation. “What, me, lift a finger?” No work ethic at all. Laughable if it wasn’t so pathetic. You are better to be rid of her, OP.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 02:48     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry but not surprised the nanny disliked working for you, OP. You sound very entitled.


+1



+2 An entitled person assumes an employee should do work outside of their contract, so there you have it.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 01:46     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the PPs. Sounds like a cushy job and nanny was a brat. $20 an hour for a ten year old who was mostly in school online? Nice gig! And seriously, moving a few light things one day is not asking too much, plus she was compensated.



+1

It was a bad fit. Forget about her and move on.


I also ageee with these two PPs. So rude from the nanny. She had an attitude.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:39     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the PPs. Sounds like a cushy job and nanny was a brat. $20 an hour for a ten year old who was mostly in school online? Nice gig! And seriously, moving a few light things one day is not asking too much, plus she was compensated.



+1

It was a bad fit. Forget about her and move on.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:32     Subject: Re:Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?


+1 Many of the things you're citing as treating your nanny exceptionally well are standard practices. In fact, paying for gas to cart your kid around is not something extra, and I hope that if she used her own car, so I hope you paid her something extra for that, because often parents provide their own car for the nanny to drive., It's also not a bad thing for a 10 year old to make their own lunch. And allowing her time for doctor's appointments is also par for the course when you have a nanny. It's a person you're employing, not a daycare center, they'll need time off occasionally to go about their lives.


I paid her IRS mileage rates for her mileage/gas, totally standard. I said “adjustments” not “exceptional benefits.” “Accommodate” refers to her leaving an hour earlier than she was hired for and arriving an hour later, and letting her supervise in her own home instead of ours when she wanted to. I don’t think there are too many nanny jobs where you can do your own work 6 hours a day while a 10 year old is in remote school, and makes his own lunch, it’s a lot easier than watching a toddler or younger child.


True. Watching a 10 year old is a cushy gig by most nanny standards. But you didn't compensate her for use of her car,(depreciation) and the moving thing was definitely a bad ask to someone who considers themselves an education professional. "Letting" her supervise in her own home because she didn't like yours for some unexplained reason is also not a benefit, as it involves wear and tear and use of resources in her home.


I guess you don’t understand IRS mileage rates bc that is exactly what they compensate for. I’m not sure what kind of wear and tear you think happened in her home that didn’t occur in mine? I paid her for groceries am I supposed to pay his portion of the water bill?


OP, you sound mean and a bit clueless. Your nanny saved you a boatload of money with her ability to drive your kid around in her own car. She's doing work for you at her home, when the agreed upon place is your home, because your own home was unacceptable for some reason. If wear and tear occurs in your home from your kid, that's part of the job. Having that wear and tear occur in the nannies home is not part of the job. And yes, having your kid around all day could result in higher utility bills.


Sorry but this is absurd. She made a choice to work in her home, which she also liked to do without asking when we were in our original location that was a nice 4BR/2BA place that was objectively nicer than hers by a lot. There was no wear and tear in our home, so there wouldn’t be in hers. Not sure how you think she saved me money by driving. She was paid for the time and also for the down time during the lesson. We are talking about one lesson a week, not exactly grueling/professional driver level.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:29     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:The nannies found your thread, OP.


I'm not a nanny. I had the same nanny working for me for 7 years until my kids aged out, and respected her, and to me it sounds like the OP wouldn't be a good boss to work for.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:25     Subject: Nanny resentful
The nannies found your thread, OP.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:24     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:Sorry but not surprised the nanny disliked working for you, OP. You sound very entitled.


+1
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:17     Subject: Re:Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?


+1 Many of the things you're citing as treating your nanny exceptionally well are standard practices. In fact, paying for gas to cart your kid around is not something extra, and I hope that if she used her own car, so I hope you paid her something extra for that, because often parents provide their own car for the nanny to drive., It's also not a bad thing for a 10 year old to make their own lunch. And allowing her time for doctor's appointments is also par for the course when you have a nanny. It's a person you're employing, not a daycare center, they'll need time off occasionally to go about their lives.


I paid her IRS mileage rates for her mileage/gas, totally standard. I said “adjustments” not “exceptional benefits.” “Accommodate” refers to her leaving an hour earlier than she was hired for and arriving an hour later, and letting her supervise in her own home instead of ours when she wanted to. I don’t think there are too many nanny jobs where you can do your own work 6 hours a day while a 10 year old is in remote school, and makes his own lunch, it’s a lot easier than watching a toddler or younger child.


True. Watching a 10 year old is a cushy gig by most nanny standards. But you didn't compensate her for use of her car,(depreciation) and the moving thing was definitely a bad ask to someone who considers themselves an education professional. "Letting" her supervise in her own home because she didn't like yours for some unexplained reason is also not a benefit, as it involves wear and tear and use of resources in her home.


I guess you don’t understand IRS mileage rates bc that is exactly what they compensate for. I’m not sure what kind of wear and tear you think happened in her home that didn’t occur in mine? I paid her for groceries am I supposed to pay his portion of the water bill?


OP, you sound mean and a bit clueless. Your nanny saved you a boatload of money with her ability to drive your kid around in her own car. She's doing work for you at her home, when the agreed upon place is your home, because your own home was unacceptable for some reason. If wear and tear occurs in your home from your kid, that's part of the job. Having that wear and tear occur in the nannies home is not part of the job. And yes, having your kid around all day could result in higher utility bills.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:10     Subject: Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the PPs. Sounds like a cushy job and nanny was a brat. $20 an hour for a ten year old who was mostly in school online? Nice gig! And seriously, moving a few light things one day is not asking too much, plus she was compensated.



Thank you! And two days a week he had also had online after school starting at 4:30. Somehow I still wound up being the one who supervised the science project.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2021 00:08     Subject: Re:Nanny resentful
I should add that, in the last weeks of her employment, she needed me to spend over an hour on the phone with her bank and mine spread out over two weeks to straighten out a problem she caused when she deposited her paycheck twice by mixing it up with the check I had given her to pay for a lesson.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2021 23:58     Subject: Nanny resentful
I disagree with most of the PPs. Sounds like a cushy job and nanny was a brat. $20 an hour for a ten year old who was mostly in school online? Nice gig! And seriously, moving a few light things one day is not asking too much, plus she was compensated.

Anonymous
Post 06/15/2021 23:51     Subject: Re:Nanny resentful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?


+1 Many of the things you're citing as treating your nanny exceptionally well are standard practices. In fact, paying for gas to cart your kid around is not something extra, and I hope that if she used her own car, so I hope you paid her something extra for that, because often parents provide their own car for the nanny to drive., It's also not a bad thing for a 10 year old to make their own lunch. And allowing her time for doctor's appointments is also par for the course when you have a nanny. It's a person you're employing, not a daycare center, they'll need time off occasionally to go about their lives.


I paid her IRS mileage rates for her mileage/gas, totally standard. I said “adjustments” not “exceptional benefits.” “Accommodate” refers to her leaving an hour earlier than she was hired for and arriving an hour later, and letting her supervise in her own home instead of ours when she wanted to. I don’t think there are too many nanny jobs where you can do your own work 6 hours a day while a 10 year old is in remote school, and makes his own lunch, it’s a lot easier than watching a toddler or younger child.


True. Watching a 10 year old is a cushy gig by most nanny standards. But you didn't compensate her for use of her car,(depreciation) and the moving thing was definitely a bad ask to someone who considers themselves an education professional. "Letting" her supervise in her own home because she didn't like yours for some unexplained reason is also not a benefit, as it involves wear and tear and use of resources in her home.


I guess you don’t understand IRS mileage rates bc that is exactly what they compensate for. I’m not sure what kind of wear and tear you think happened in her home that didn’t occur in mine? I paid her for groceries am I supposed to pay his portion of the water bill?