Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
You shouldn't be figuring it out. If your children are interested, they can and should figure it out themselves. As tweens, this is well within their capacity. It does mean you will need to allow them internet access. But everything they need is online.
We have a rule in my household that I don't do tech support for my kids with games. I do it for school and required things, but games are something they have to figure out themselves. As a result, they are technically very adept. I'm not rigid about it -- they can ask my opinion of course -- but they have to drive it, not me.
OP here,
I need to figure out what to buy, if I'm giving my kid Minecraft as a gift (e.g. I had assumed they could play on the iPad but apparently I need to figure out whether I make a PC available to them). And I need to figure out what kind of limits I place, etc . . . .
Honestly, I think you should say "kids, I think it might be fun for you to play Minecraft with your cousins. It's my gift to you. Let me know if you need me to sign up for anything or to buy anything for you to set it up.".
Right, but then my kid will say "I need a PC" and I need to know if that's true (in which case I need this to be the "big birthday present"), or I can say "Nope, you can play on the Switch you already have". Just as an example.
So set a budget and say "sorry, thats too expensive. Surely there is another way." And they'll come up with a work around until they can explain to you why playing on the PC is so much better. And then you are pleased with their effort, and say "OK, you've convinced me." At least, that's the way it works in my house. They are in charge of their stuff, and put in the time/research. They learn to negotiate with you. You learn to trust them. All important things to figure out as they move into the teen years.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
You shouldn't be figuring it out. If your children are interested, they can and should figure it out themselves. As tweens, this is well within their capacity. It does mean you will need to allow them internet access. But everything they need is online.
We have a rule in my household that I don't do tech support for my kids with games. I do it for school and required things, but games are something they have to figure out themselves. As a result, they are technically very adept. I'm not rigid about it -- they can ask my opinion of course -- but they have to drive it, not me.
OP here,
I need to figure out what to buy, if I'm giving my kid Minecraft as a gift (e.g. I had assumed they could play on the iPad but apparently I need to figure out whether I make a PC available to them). And I need to figure out what kind of limits I place, etc . . . .
Honestly, I think you should say "kids, I think it might be fun for you to play Minecraft with your cousins. It's my gift to you. Let me know if you need me to sign up for anything or to buy anything for you to set it up.".
Right, but then my kid will say "I need a PC" and I need to know if that's true (in which case I need this to be the "big birthday present"), or I can say "Nope, you can play on the Switch you already have". Just as an example.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
You shouldn't be figuring it out. If your children are interested, they can and should figure it out themselves. As tweens, this is well within their capacity. It does mean you will need to allow them internet access. But everything they need is online.
We have a rule in my household that I don't do tech support for my kids with games. I do it for school and required things, but games are something they have to figure out themselves. As a result, they are technically very adept. I'm not rigid about it -- they can ask my opinion of course -- but they have to drive it, not me.
OP here,
I need to figure out what to buy, if I'm giving my kid Minecraft as a gift (e.g. I had assumed they could play on the iPad but apparently I need to figure out whether I make a PC available to them). And I need to figure out what kind of limits I place, etc . . . .
Honestly, I think you should say "kids, I think it might be fun for you to play Minecraft with your cousins. It's my gift to you. Let me know if you need me to sign up for anything or to buy anything for you to set it up.".
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
You shouldn't be figuring it out. If your children are interested, they can and should figure it out themselves. As tweens, this is well within their capacity. It does mean you will need to allow them internet access. But everything they need is online.
We have a rule in my household that I don't do tech support for my kids with games. I do it for school and required things, but games are something they have to figure out themselves. As a result, they are technically very adept. I'm not rigid about it -- they can ask my opinion of course -- but they have to drive it, not me.
OP here,
I need to figure out what to buy, if I'm giving my kid Minecraft as a gift (e.g. I had assumed they could play on the iPad but apparently I need to figure out whether I make a PC available to them). And I need to figure out what kind of limits I place, etc . . . .
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
Honestly, they should be figuring this out themselves. It is a great motivator.
Anonymous wrote:I am apparently the next to last parent to allow it and trying to figure it out now.
Why is it so effing complicated?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We bought my daughter a mac for xmas then discovered she can't use it to play minecraft with her friends. Instead she needs to use her ipad to connect with pals using/hosting on android/PCs. Java Bedrock vs. other one (I forget).
OP here,
You can't play on a mac at all?
Anonymous wrote:We bought my daughter a mac for xmas then discovered she can't use it to play minecraft with her friends. Instead she needs to use her ipad to connect with pals using/hosting on android/PCs. Java Bedrock vs. other one (I forget).
Anonymous wrote:The best device to play on is a PC, second best are the gaming consoles, and finally is the iPad. It's too bad, because most families have come to terms with allowing iPad time but a PC feels uncomfortable. Still, its the best way to play the game and you need one to set up the server.
If you don't want to set up your own server there are heavily moderated servers that cater to children and toss kids out for language, ruining other people's builds, etc. but they are not JUST your little pod - there are other kids. You can look for reviews of those servers online, and then you ask to join them and they approve your username. My kid did that with friends for years.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ladies! Minecraft is like a social LEGOs group for your kids. Really fun and creative. And can be collaborative.
Wow, sexist much?
I think everyone knows that.
DP, and apparently not, since OP has forbidden it. We don't let our kids play games online, but Minecraft isn't online in the way Roblox is.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ladies! Minecraft is like a social LEGOs group for your kids. Really fun and creative. And can be collaborative.
Wow, sexist much?
I think everyone knows that.