Anonymous
06/07/2021 10:35
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Male non-athlete here.
When I was younger, most athletic women looked right through me, but I come across as intelligent and have a good sense of humor, and a few athletic women were drawn to me for those reasons.
Being a good listener and having a good working knowledge of "the arts" helped too. But those things only help for the athletic women who spend long enough time with you to have a real conversation, and the latter skill is good for making them want to come back for more, but doesn't put you in a position to demonstrate your knowledge in the first place.
When I was younger, most athletic women looked right through me, but I come across as intelligent and have a good sense of humor, and a few athletic women were drawn to me for those reasons.
Being a good listener and having a good working knowledge of "the arts" helped too. But those things only help for the athletic women who spend long enough time with you to have a real conversation, and the latter skill is good for making them want to come back for more, but doesn't put you in a position to demonstrate your knowledge in the first place.
Anonymous
06/07/2021 08:27
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I'm married female who works out about 1.5-2 hours per day. If I was ever single again, then the guy would need to be at least moderately active. He wouldn't have to match my level of fitness, but he would at least need to do some moderate exercise and eat a somewhat healthy diet. I'm not a health zealot like I used to be, and now I splurge on higher calorie/fat meals too. I love good food and could never go back to totally clean eating all the time.
1.5 - 2 hours a day is a lot. Are you a triathlete? They seem to keep pretty heavy training schedules. People training for the IronMan will
peak at 18-20 hours per week.
Anonymous
06/07/2021 07:59
Subject: Re:Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married, but if i ever get divorced it's important for the women I date to be athletic, childless, very successful and prosperous, highly intelligent, unusually attractive and about 20 years my junior ... and somehow still interested in me.
..any woman like that will absolutely not be interested in a man 10 yrs older let alone 20 yrs than her as she has her pick of men her own age or younger. Keep dreaming grandpa!
Sorry, I just can't bend on my requirements or sacrifice my standards. It's about my happiness and fulfillment. She should also have very little debt, have an outgoing personality and make friends easily, and be willing to put up with - nay, enjoy - the presence of my quirky oddball extended family. For bonus points, she should be handy around the house and enjoy yardwork.
You need to live your truth. You go, brother!
Anonymous
06/07/2021 01:06
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I'm married female who works out about 1.5-2 hours per day. If I was ever single again, then the guy would need to be at least moderately active. He wouldn't have to match my level of fitness, but he would at least need to do some moderate exercise and eat a somewhat healthy diet. I'm not a health zealot like I used to be, and now I splurge on higher calorie/fat meals too. I love good food and could never go back to totally clean eating all the time.
If you workout 2 hours/day, you’re a “health zealot” by pretty much every metric.
No way in hell I can find 2 hours per day to workout between kids and work. You’re lucky.
Anonymous
06/06/2021 21:23
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
I'm an athletic daily exerciser. I really prefer to date an active guy. Not some super buff gym rat but a runner or cyclist or gym goer. Current guy and I run together. We also joke that we think the sex is better because we are both in really good shape. People who exercise and eat well are more likely to age well, a huge bonus.
Anonymous
06/06/2021 07:46
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:Recently I've met several lonely athletic women. I wonder whether there's an issue with them that's similar to the issue described by the high earning divorced woman who couldn't find anyone to date because she would only consider high earning men. Will athletic women date men who are slower, or weaker, or or fatter?
I also wonder how their sex lives compare to their non-athletic counterparts.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:46
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to an athletic woman. We’ve been together 20 years now. I was always a lifelong fitness advocate but I was never even on the same planet as her fitness wise. I’ve seen some of the people she dated before me and she dated the full spectrum from really built guys to heavy set guys.
Over the years I’ve quit racing bicycles (its a scrawny mans lifestyle) and split time between bikes and the weightroom. Now that I’ve put on a good amount of muscle and we’re in outlr late 40’s - I’d say we’re a little closer to fitness parity.
I think there are a few misnomers about fit women:
1. That they’re single dimensional and only care about their routine. In my experience she leads a pretty balanced life - solid career, built a solid side business, very engaged parent, etc.
2. That they’re overly strict about food.We don’t miss any fine, or even sometimes crappy dining. No one ever seems to say no to wine around here either.
3. That they require their spouse or kids to be strict about what they eat. We both allow each other the space (time and financial) to pursue anything that keeps us healthy. We both work out and mostly eat well. This has rubbed of on our 15 year old who also lifts and plays sports at his school.
2.
Pp here. I’m not sure how that extra 2 got there!
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:46
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
I’m married to an athletic woman. We’ve been together 20 years now. I was always a lifelong fitness advocate but I was never even on the same planet as her fitness wise. I’ve seen some of the people she dated before me and she dated the full spectrum from really built guys to heavy set guys.
Over the years I’ve quit racing bicycles (its a scrawny mans lifestyle) and split time between bikes and the weightroom. Now that I’ve put on a good amount of muscle and we’re in outlr late 40’s - I’d say we’re a little closer to fitness parity.
I think there are a few misnomers about fit women:
1. That they’re single dimensional and only care about their routine. In my experience she leads a pretty balanced life - solid career, built a solid side business, very engaged parent, etc.
2. That they’re overly strict about food.We don’t miss any fine, or even sometimes crappy dining. No one ever seems to say no to wine around here either.
3. That they require their spouse or kids to be strict about what they eat. We both allow each other the space (time and financial) to pursue anything that keeps us healthy. We both work out and mostly eat well. This has rubbed of on our 15 year old who also lifts and plays sports at his school.
2.
Over the years I’ve quit racing bicycles (its a scrawny mans lifestyle) and split time between bikes and the weightroom. Now that I’ve put on a good amount of muscle and we’re in outlr late 40’s - I’d say we’re a little closer to fitness parity.
I think there are a few misnomers about fit women:
1. That they’re single dimensional and only care about their routine. In my experience she leads a pretty balanced life - solid career, built a solid side business, very engaged parent, etc.
2. That they’re overly strict about food.We don’t miss any fine, or even sometimes crappy dining. No one ever seems to say no to wine around here either.
3. That they require their spouse or kids to be strict about what they eat. We both allow each other the space (time and financial) to pursue anything that keeps us healthy. We both work out and mostly eat well. This has rubbed of on our 15 year old who also lifts and plays sports at his school.
2.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:33
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:32
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
I’m carrying an extra 30 and my wife is a yoga instructor, you can break bricks on her ass; we are nearly polar opposites, she likes vegetarian meals most of the time and I like steaks and martinis, we compromise well but I make a ton of money and I think that has a whole lot to do with it.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:27
Subject: Re:Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married, but if i ever get divorced it's important for the women I date to be athletic, childless, very successful and prosperous, highly intelligent, unusually attractive and about 20 years my junior ... and somehow still interested in me.
Sorry, I just can't bend on my requirements or sacrifice my standards. It's about my happiness and fulfillment. She should also have very little debt, have an outgoing personality and make friends easily, and be willing to put up with - nay, enjoy - the presence of my quirky oddball extended family. For bonus points, she should be handy around the house and enjoy yardwork.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:23
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I know some athletes with extremely rigid workout schedules and diets that would make dating hard.
I like that my partner is also active, and we can be active together, but I also value dating someone who is flexible, so I wouldn't want to date some of the people I've described.
You sound like the fatter half.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:22
Subject: Re:Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married, but if i ever get divorced it's important for the women I date to be athletic, childless, very successful and prosperous, highly intelligent, unusually attractive and about 20 years my junior ... and somehow still interested in me.
..any woman like that will absolutely not be interested in a man 10 yrs older let alone 20 yrs than her as she has her pick of men her own age or younger. Keep dreaming grandpa!
Anonymous
06/05/2021 18:17
Subject: Re:Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
Anonymous wrote:I’m an athletic woman, although married. I would not be attracted to an out of shape guy even if he was a high earner. I’d like someone to enjoy the great outdoors with me and stay healthy so we can have a long, active life.
Same here.DH and I are both very athletic and into fitness. I would never be attractive a man who is not athletic. Friends would be okay of course.
Anonymous
06/05/2021 17:18
Subject: Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?
I know some athletes with extremely rigid workout schedules and diets that would make dating hard.
I like that my partner is also active, and we can be active together, but I also value dating someone who is flexible, so I wouldn't want to date some of the people I've described.
I like that my partner is also active, and we can be active together, but I also value dating someone who is flexible, so I wouldn't want to date some of the people I've described.