Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 20:57     Subject: Living a double life
Read the book “duped” by Abby Ellin. It’s about the psychology of dupers.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 20:00     Subject: Re:Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:I lived a double life growing up. At home, life was ruled by a tyrannical, abusive alcoholic father who made our lives miserable. We were always on eggshells, waiting for the next rage to start. Outside the home, I was completely different. No one knew how horrific my home life was. I was well liked, funny, smart, involved in school - a real wholesome girl. I was very careful to keep my two lives separate and when they did come into contact with each other, I lied like the devil to preserve the facade. It all came to an end when my father killed himself. I suffered from PTSD for years and even now, in my 50s, someone walking into my bedroom unannounced will put me in fight/flight mode.

Is that the double life you're talking about?


Ugh. I guess it's not shocking to hear I'm not alone, but at the same time it is. So sorry, pp, and you're not alone. The PTSD is unreal.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 19:43     Subject: Living a double life
Charles Kuralt, CBS News reporter, had a double life. Exposed only after he died.

Charles Lindberg had a triple life-- three wives at the same time.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:39     Subject: Re:Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:[

Is that the double life you're talking about?


No it’s not, because it’s not all about you.


So sorry you had to grow up that way. Thanks for sharing your story of living a double life! Hope you are able to provide a loving way of life for your own family.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:27     Subject: Living a double life
No, hard enough living this one, and I have it pretty good!
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:21     Subject: Living a double life
^^ PP again- I’ve had enough of people thinking because I’m single I don’t have a life of my own or should be doing other peoples work. We get the same pay, we should do the same work. So happy I invented my partner and kids before covid!
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:20     Subject: Living a double life
I’m currently living a double life. I’m single and live alone, but I tell people at work I have a partner and young step kids. Works great when people try to slide work onto me (especially during pandemic!!) because you know I have a family of my own. Right??
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:17     Subject: Re:Living a double life
We got one life. No double life, check your visio bro!
There is double trouble, and doubllly bad!
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:11     Subject: Re:Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:I lived a double life growing up. At home, life was ruled by a tyrannical, abusive alcoholic father who made our lives miserable. We were always on eggshells, waiting for the next rage to start. Outside the home, I was completely different. No one knew how horrific my home life was. I was well liked, funny, smart, involved in school - a real wholesome girl. I was very careful to keep my two lives separate and when they did come into contact with each other, I lied like the devil to preserve the facade. It all came to an end when my father killed himself. I suffered from PTSD for years and even now, in my 50s, someone walking into my bedroom unannounced will put me in fight/flight mode.

Is that the double life you're talking about?


No it’s not, because it’s not all about you.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:06     Subject: Re:Living a double life
One life is quite enough- and sometimes too much- for me. I really don’t get how people manage this either logistically or emotionally.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 17:02     Subject: Re:Living a double life
I lived a double life growing up. At home, life was ruled by a tyrannical, abusive alcoholic father who made our lives miserable. We were always on eggshells, waiting for the next rage to start. Outside the home, I was completely different. No one knew how horrific my home life was. I was well liked, funny, smart, involved in school - a real wholesome girl. I was very careful to keep my two lives separate and when they did come into contact with each other, I lied like the devil to preserve the facade. It all came to an end when my father killed himself. I suffered from PTSD for years and even now, in my 50s, someone walking into my bedroom unannounced will put me in fight/flight mode.

Is that the double life you're talking about?
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 16:52     Subject: Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like something criminal?

Or like my dad who secretly started a second family while still married to my mom?


My uncle did this as well. It lasted for 16 years, too.


Whoa. How did he pass it off? Did his wife know and then get tired of it? Or was his wife oblivious? Was he that good at hiding everything? Was there anything could be found on line about the situation? Did everyone know the truth, IRL? Was your uncle a cocky guy (trying to cover up, so drew more attention)? Such a fascinating mind set (or lack thereof).
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 16:33     Subject: Re:Living a double life
Like being a spy?
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 16:29     Subject: Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:Like something criminal?

Or like my dad who secretly started a second family while still married to my mom?


My uncle did this as well. It lasted for 16 years, too.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2021 16:17     Subject: Living a double life
Anonymous wrote:OP, it seems obvious you have a gripe with a specific person so just say what they did.



+1. Out with it.