OP: Why do you think women hate you?

In general, no. I have lots of friends (real and facebook) and people seem to like me. I make new friends easily and it's more typical for me to meet cool women at a bar or party than to meet cool men. But I do have a stronger personality, and that means that I can usually list one or two people - usually women - who I know don't like me. I can think of two right now. If I know the reason and feel like I need to clear something up, I will do so. Not because I can't stand to have someone dislike me- I'm totally fine with that - but because if I've offended someone, I would want to address that, either by apologizing or explaining myself further.

Chances are, if you've ever expressed an opinion that was even slightly controversial, or if you've ever done anything assertively or with confidence, someone probably doesn't like you.

For the record, I don't consider myself beautiful, but I do think I'm at least of average attractiveness. I have a good figure mainly because I work out all the time, but I don't have big boobs or a small butt or anything resembling a model figure, so women aren't likely to be jealous of me for anything looks-related.

There are a few women I actively dislike. I will be polite if I see them in public, but I will generally try to avoid spending any actual time with them. I have some super-hot friends, so that doesn't figure in for me. Most of my friends are smart and quite a few of them are more successful than me, and most have partners while I'm still single. None of those things bother me. For me, if a person is insecure and channels that into being nasty to or about other people, that is my "I don't like her" factor. If someone is constantly attention-seeking, that'll turn me off. If someone gets drunk and out-of-control every time they go out, I will probably hold that against them. I also don't like women who are 90% about the guy and 10% about their friends. Because they'll sell you out for the guy, even if the guy won't be around in 3 months.

A woman who held conferences next door to my lunch time class hates me with a passion. She used to come in with her hands on her hips and steam fuming out of her nose, giving me an evil glare in retaliation to my loud music. She hates me even more now that my students petitioned for her to move her meetings to a later time.

Is this a sock puppet thread? Or is OP a man?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are so Kelly Bensimone on the Housewives of NYC.

Anyone ever heard the Kelly vs. Bethany bit by Kathy Griffen? Hysterical-the Celine Dion part is the best.

Guess you can tell-I'm a laugher, not a hater. Don't care about them either. Life is too short. COEXIST!!!!

Anonymous wrote:OP you are so Kelly Bensimone on the Housewives of NYC.

Anyone ever heard the Kelly vs. Bethany bit by Kathy Griffen? Hysterical-the Celine Dion part is the best.

"40 years old and doing my first shoot for playboy is awesome."

Anonymous wrote:... I'm a pretty shy person around people I don't know. It takes me a while to warm up and not feel awkward around people. People interpret my resulting aloofness as me being stuck-up or bitchy or whatever. My sister has run into the same problem and been told the same thing. If there's one thing this taught me it's that first impressions really aren't the best thing on which to base your feelings about a person. Unfortunately, I think a lot of people do this. ...... I will say though that anyone who thinks people hate them because they are beautiful, smart, talented, etc. is probably really conceited and full of themselves, and that's why people don't like them. There's a difference between confident and cocky, and being cocky definitely doesn't make people like a person.

I sort of agree with this. My college roommate was stunning. Tall, incredible figure, porcelein skin, black hair/eyes - when she walked into a room, every eye turned her way. She, too, was somewhat shy but she kept her head up instead of looking all meek and she had fantastic posture (she was also a dancer). Most men made fools of themselves falling over her and she was very uncomfortable with that kind of attention. I can't tell you how many men were extra-friendly with me hoping that I would give them an in with her. Many women never gave her a chance because their initial impression of her was haughty bitch. She's not at all. In fact, although she and I are pretty much physical opposites, we're very much alike personality wise, except I'm more comfortable in unfamiliar groups.

I know, at first meeting, my college roommate (still stunning at age 44) was intensely disliked by other women and often didn't get a second chance to change that initial impression.

lol see? you don't even know me and you already call me a bitch! your name is going to the list of women who are jealous of my beauty, intelligence and bubbly personality

OP you are so Kelly Bensimone on the Housewives of NYC.

I think that I'm too boring to hate! Seriously, I'm laid back enough that I really don't even register on the radar for people who are looking for people to hate. I'm just not an argumentative person, and I refuse to bite when people do try to bait me for an argument. I also don't give people ammo to use to justify hating me. I also think that there is something to the theory that if you're a positive person, then the negative people tend to not be a part of your life. I try to stay pretty positive. I like it much better that way!

I find that some of the women I used to date hate me. Does that count?

13:48, thanks, I'm the PP you're agreeing with. Yep, it's that attitude of "I really am FANTASTIC!" that turns people off. Or if you go around assuming people are jealous of you, they pick up on that, and think you're just ridiculous.

When I wrote my post I particularly had in mind a stunning, smart, successful and incredibly friendly and personable woman with whom I used to work. Can't think of anyone who doesn't like her. And she's REALLY PRETTY with a great bod and has a hot husband and absurdly beautiful children. I'd use her name here but it's not common and would be recognizable. I'll just say "Hi RSW - you are awesome!"

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. I am tempted not to respond to this becaus I wonder if you are a troll or even THE troll (sock puppeteer) but OK I'll bite:

When I was younger I was very attractive. And smart too. I was kicking ass at work. And yes the women there HATED me. They were threatened and jealous. Even my former supervisor (a male) acknowledges that this was 90% of their problem.

I know I'm not perfect and not everybody is going to like me..... but yes, I have repeatedly found that women are threatened by me.

Now that I am getting older, heavier, and wrinkly, I am finding the problem is going away too.

You are wrong, it was not your looks it was because you came accross as an arrogant little bitch (kind of like in this post). Please stop kidding yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Okay...the posters who are claiming their gorgeous looks, amazing brains and fantastic success at work (or positive attitude) are why you're disliked...it's not. There is something else about you - whether it's a sense of cockiness, superiority, a really unpleasant odor, who knows. But I have known and worked with many gorgeous, brilliant, successful, friendly women who are universally liked, not universally hated. It's probably a lot more about your attitude than you care to admit.

And for the hot smart successful one whose MALE boss confirmed for her that all the other women were jealous...that's pretty funny. Where do you think he was trying to go with that?

I completely agree with this. They're not threatened by how awesome you are; they are probably just turned off by how awesome you THINK you are.