Anonymous
05/29/2021 07:10
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Don't bring her, do something else. Or do a very quick stop by to say hi, but don't stay long. Your girlfriend deserves better.
Anonymous
05/29/2021 07:04
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Why subject her to that?
Anonymous
05/29/2021 07:01
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.
Agreed. Who are they to judge? There’s only one person who can judge and I’ll meet him when I’m six feet under.
Anonymous
05/29/2021 06:29
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?
Sounds like misogyny to me.
I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.
+1. People underestimate just how jealous and catty women can be.
No what people do is underestimate how catty and shallow men can be about these things. It's just a coincidence that all OP's friends married such shallow and snobby women? I don't think so. Op's friends are snobs too.
Anonymous
05/29/2021 01:02
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?
Sounds like misogyny to me.
I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.
+1. People underestimate just how jealous and catty women can be.
Anonymous
05/29/2021 01:00
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Honestly dude, if they’re rude to her, you’re going to have to call them out to their face. Who’s more important to you, your girlfriend or a bunch of wives you don’t even care about.
Anonymous
05/29/2021 00:25
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?
Sounds like misogyny to me.
+1
All these great guys, and not one of them married a nice woman? OP, either your friends aren't as great as you like to think, or you're an asshole. Possibly both.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 23:35
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:I am a female lawyer and I would think that someone who managed to make 60,000 a year being a medical tech without going hundreds of thousands into school debt in a growing, safe field like health care is pretty smart.
Being a receptionist is a bit different. But I still wouldn’t be snobby to the person’s face. I wonder if the receptionist was like 24 and incredibly hot. That I admit my friends and I might make snarky comments about. But just to each other, never to the girls face. Or even to the boyfriend unless she was like 20 years younger than us and him.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just focus on making your girl friend feel comfortable.
So just behind her back, eh? If you think you're making yourself sound good here, you're not.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 21:28
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?
Sounds like misogyny to me.
I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:46
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?
Sounds like misogyny to me.
Sounds like misogyny to me.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:28
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter what they think. If they're snobs, your girlfriend won't want to hang out with them anyway. If she senses they're not nice, she'll keep her distance. If she says anything to you about them, just tell her you agree they're not nice people and make sure your actions show that you're not expecting her to be buddy buddy with them. (For example, make her feel welcome to hang out with the guys if the girls are all off doing their own thing).
And interrupt the guy time? No. He just shouldn't make a big deal out of it period and be eternally grateful if she shows up to the couple events. But honestly, 1 of 2 things will happen: a) girlfriend will break up with OP because she finds his friends terrible and snobby b) Op realizes he has outgrown the friendship and phases them out.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:27
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Lawyer here with a big cushion but no need to advertise it ... your friends sound like a bunch of petty snobs.... warn her appropriately.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:21
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
It doesn't matter what they think. If they're snobs, your girlfriend won't want to hang out with them anyway. If she senses they're not nice, she'll keep her distance. If she says anything to you about them, just tell her you agree they're not nice people and make sure your actions show that you're not expecting her to be buddy buddy with them. (For example, make her feel welcome to hang out with the guys if the girls are all off doing their own thing).
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:14
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
Anonymous wrote:I am a female lawyer and I would think that someone who managed to make 60,000 a year being a medical tech without going hundreds of thousands into school debt in a growing, safe field like health care is pretty smart.
Being a receptionist is a bit different. But I still wouldn’t be snobby to the person’s face. I wonder if the receptionist was like 24 and incredibly hot. That I admit my friends and I might make snarky comments about. But just to each other, never to the girls face. Or even to the boyfriend unless she was like 20 years younger than us and him.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just focus on making your girl friend feel comfortable.
Also, I meant to say that it is very good that you are aware that they are critical. I do think sometimes “female friends” of a guy can sometimes be critical of their girl friends. I think it’s kind of a jealousy issue. Like even if they don’t want to date the guy themselves, they still prefer he be single. So just don’t take their opinion about her seriously.
Anonymous
05/28/2021 20:13
Subject: Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends
I am a female lawyer and I would think that someone who managed to make 60,000 a year being a medical tech without going hundreds of thousands into school debt in a growing, safe field like health care is pretty smart.
Being a receptionist is a bit different. But I still wouldn’t be snobby to the person’s face. I wonder if the receptionist was like 24 and incredibly hot. That I admit my friends and I might make snarky comments about. But just to each other, never to the girls face. Or even to the boyfriend unless she was like 20 years younger than us and him.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just focus on making your girl friend feel comfortable.
Being a receptionist is a bit different. But I still wouldn’t be snobby to the person’s face. I wonder if the receptionist was like 24 and incredibly hot. That I admit my friends and I might make snarky comments about. But just to each other, never to the girls face. Or even to the boyfriend unless she was like 20 years younger than us and him.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just focus on making your girl friend feel comfortable.