Anonymous wrote:OP here. I forgot I posted this! We're still at odds on this decision - glad to read responses and thoughts from you all. My biggest concern, as many of you mentioned, is WFH with him in afternoons/all breaks/summer. It's a distraction that I think is worth the extra $$ (which actually equates to a little less than $4K/year once we accounted for meals and fees at the preschool). Plus, it's better for him to be playing with friends than being stuck in front of a TV while we try to work. DH wouldn't be an a**hole and would help with DS at home as he does now, but I work a very demanding job (not long hours) and I just rather have the peace of mind to finish work before DS comes home.
If what the dad would do counts as "helping," definitely do the preschool. You need backup!