Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 12:17     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.


Of course, but that's not realistic for everyone. I can see it for your current club, but you can probably learn enough from talking to other parents or what your DC is hearing from other players to know who is staying or leaving or on the fence. But not for the 1-3 other clubs' offers you're evaluating. Get over it. You "evaluate" based on the information you have and then make an informed decision. You can't expect to always have all of the information.


Don’t get your panties in a twist. I am not upset about it and am obviously aware of the necessity of making decisions with imperfect information (probably a lot more familiar with this than you given my line of work). The whole question is whether this process couldn’t be better. Plenty of other team selections occur in a context where you know who else is on a team. High school sports. AAU. College athletics. Workplaces. Not knowing this information is the exception, not the rule, but given the modest stakes, I don’t really care too much at all.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 12:11     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.


Of course, but that's not realistic for everyone. I can see it for your current club, but you can probably learn enough from talking to other parents or what your DC is hearing from other players to know who is staying or leaving or on the fence. But not for the 1-3 other clubs' offers you're evaluating. Get over it. You "evaluate" based on the information you have and then make an informed decision. You can't expect to always have all of the information.


You directly ask the ones you hope to see. That's what we did. Texted the 5 families of the kids DC likes.


Agree
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 11:26     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.


Of course, but that's not realistic for everyone. I can see it for your current club, but you can probably learn enough from talking to other parents or what your DC is hearing from other players to know who is staying or leaving or on the fence. But not for the 1-3 other clubs' offers you're evaluating. Get over it. You "evaluate" based on the information you have and then make an informed decision. You can't expect to always have all of the information.


You directly ask the ones you hope to see. That's what we did. Texted the 5 families of the kids DC likes.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 11:25     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:Knowing who may or may not have accepted gives a lot of insight into what type of team, what roles/positions are available and what the coach is aiming to do with both. We’ve accepted and declined offers based on that information and without that info, we would have potentially spent a lot of money for development and/or competition expectations that didn’t line up and caused conflict/stress unnecessarily.

I unfortunately don’t know any coaches well enough to blindly trust. The more you’ve been around, the more you get the scoop on the things that affect the decisions coming from that coach.


Good post and same here but for social reasons.
One year DD was set on leaving after getting an offer from a better club on a higher team. She also thought her friends and players she has good chemistry with on the field were likely to move up or down so the team would break up but they were all put on the same team. She ended up staying and was happy about it.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 11:02     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.


Of course, but that's not realistic for everyone. I can see it for your current club, but you can probably learn enough from talking to other parents or what your DC is hearing from other players to know who is staying or leaving or on the fence. But not for the 1-3 other clubs' offers you're evaluating. Get over it. You "evaluate" based on the information you have and then make an informed decision. You can't expect to always have all of the information.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 10:52     Subject: Offer evaluation
Knowing who may or may not have accepted gives a lot of insight into what type of team, what roles/positions are available and what the coach is aiming to do with both. We’ve accepted and declined offers based on that information and without that info, we would have potentially spent a lot of money for development and/or competition expectations that didn’t line up and caused conflict/stress unnecessarily.

I unfortunately don’t know any coaches well enough to blindly trust. The more you’ve been around, the more you get the scoop on the things that affect the decisions coming from that coach.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2021 10:44     Subject: Offer evaluation
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.


The other parents probably feel the same about you.