Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP, and it sends a REALLY bad message to our young children that we don't want to be with them. We would not be mothers if it wasn't for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and share joint physical custody. When we wrote the settlement agreement, we made sure that it explicitly stated that the children would be with mom on Mothers Day, and with dad on Fathers Day. Neither lawyer, the mediators, nor the judge raised questions about the desire of the parents to be in the presence of their children on those special days. The assumption seems to be that being with one's children on a special occasion or holiday is a positive experience that a parent would claim the right to, not a negative thing to be avoided. In fact, I wish now that we'd included language about each parent having the children for the parents' birthdays so that it were clear that I'd have my loved ones around on my special day. This isn't about martyrdom. It's about who you want at your side when you celebrate.

My husband and I both claim every day with our kids as a positive experience to claim a right to, and not something to be avoided. So you go ahead and judge me for celebrating one day where I only see them for brunch before having a spa day. I see my kids every day. I’m a full-time parent. I’m with my loved ones every day.

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and share joint physical custody. When we wrote the settlement agreement, we made sure that it explicitly stated that the children would be with mom on Mothers Day, and with dad on Fathers Day. Neither lawyer, the mediators, nor the judge raised questions about the desire of the parents to be in the presence of their children on those special days. The assumption seems to be that being with one's children on a special occasion or holiday is a positive experience that a parent would claim the right to, not a negative thing to be avoided. In fact, I wish now that we'd included language about each parent having the children for the parents' birthdays so that it were clear that I'd have my loved ones around on my special day. This isn't about martyrdom. It's about who you want at your side when you celebrate.

Anonymous wrote:I understand being lazy, lounging in the bed and taking a long soak in the bath tub...but can't understand being away from the kids. Don't mind if they get in the bed with me and snuggle and nap. I am all for takeout and letting things slide as far as chores are concerned. Plus, the breakfast in tray is toooooo darn cute to pass up on any day, let alone mother's day. Are your kids not cute? Are they unlovable and hideous? I can't understand the idea of not Mothering. Being with your children and lazing together is Mothering.

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and share joint physical custody. When we wrote the settlement agreement, we made sure that it explicitly stated that the children would be with mom on Mothers Day, and with dad on Fathers Day. Neither lawyer, the mediators, nor the judge raised questions about the desire of the parents to be in the presence of their children on those special days. The assumption seems to be that being with one's children on a special occasion or holiday is a positive experience that a parent would claim the right to, not a negative thing to be avoided. In fact, I wish now that we'd included language about each parent having the children for the parents' birthdays so that it were clear that I'd have my loved ones around on my special day. This isn't about martyrdom. It's about who you want at your side when you celebrate.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are 2, 5, and 7. We will do something all together in the morning and then I will do something by myself in the afternoon. Little kids don’t think in terms of whole days. They will be excited to make me a poorly cooked breakfast with dad and then play a game. Then they will get distracted by their own plans and ideas and kind of forget it’s Mother’s Day. That is how little kids are. Their attention spans are short.

This. Little kids do not Mark time in such a way that they will notice if you spend part of the day getting a manicure.

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 2, 5, and 7. We will do something all together in the morning and then I will do something by myself in the afternoon. Little kids don’t think in terms of whole days. They will be excited to make me a poorly cooked breakfast with dad and then play a game. Then they will get distracted by their own plans and ideas and kind of forget it’s Mother’s Day. That is how little kids are. Their attention spans are short.

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. No one can be that dense.

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I was taken aback when I saw that other moms of young kids were planning to celebrate the day by not being with their kids. Sure, we all need a break now and then. But specifically asking to not have your kids around as the way to celebrate being a mother seems really odd to me.

How do the little children feel about this? I imagine this would have hurt my feelings when I was a child.

There is nothing odd about it just because you do things differently! How about staying in your lane and stop judging others. Btw, I celebrate with my kids and have my own time too! It is possible.

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and share joint physical custody. When we wrote the settlement agreement, we made sure that it explicitly stated that the children would be with mom on Mothers Day, and with dad on Fathers Day. Neither lawyer, the mediators, nor the judge raised questions about the desire of the parents to be in the presence of their children on those special days. The assumption seems to be that being with one's children on a special occasion or holiday is a positive experience that a parent would claim the right to, not a negative thing to be avoided. In fact, I wish now that we'd included language about each parent having the children for the parents' birthdays so that it were clear that I'd have my loved ones around on my special day. This isn't about martyrdom. It's about who you want at your side when you celebrate.