Anonymous wrote:A three year old claim? Is that it? No witness, no corroborating texts like him apologizing or her asking him why he did it? No rape kit or police report? Just some girl coming out of the blue saying Timmy touched me without my permission?

I wouldn't do shit.

If she went to the police or filed a civil suit, I'd hire an attorney with experience pursuing libel and slander and rabidly go after her.

Unlikely a teenager has a money. You'd just be out a ton of money for the lawyers fees.

Anonymous wrote:A three year old claim? Is that it? No witness, no corroborating texts like him apologizing or her asking him why he did it? No rape kit or police report? Just some girl coming out of the blue saying Timmy touched me without my permission?

I wouldn't do shit.

If she went to the police or filed a civil suit, I'd hire an attorney with experience pursuing libel and slander and rabidly go after her.

Oh look. Justice Kavanaugh found the thread.

I would look into volunteer opportunities to help abused women and children. Regardless of his guilt or innocence, it will give him an experience that may help him empathize with his accuser and other women who have suffered physical or sexual assault.
If he is not guilty, then there is some issue going on in her life that is driving her make false accusations.

In either situation, you get an attorney for your son. If the evidence says he is guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, he will be convicted and justice will be served. However, as his parent, I will stand by his side and not abandon him because he will always be my son.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.

As the best friend of a rape survivor, go to hell.

So a boy who assaults someone once at 13 should die? You don’t think the parents have a responsibility to help him? What is appropriate?

np I don't think anyone is saying the kid should die but, you should get him therapy and he should pay for his crime in some capacity. Don't you think? Are you saying it is ok to rape or sexually assault someone?

No. Of course not. That's the question. What would you do? What is appropriate help and punishment for an assault that allegedly occurred 5 years ago before the child hit puberty? You're telling people to go to hell so you clearly have strong opinions. I'm interested in hearing them.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is shocking. I have three boys. I would want to know the truth. I would want my child to get therapy immediately. I would want my child to have accountability for his actions. Aren't these steps the only way the child has a chance at becoming a decent adult???

If the accusations are not true, that is a completely different question, and not a difficult one for anyone to answer, but OP never said they are not true.

This is OP. Actually, it is a hard question to answer. I'm wondering what you would do if you thought the child were guilty AND what you would do if you thought the child were innocent. Would you do things differently? If so, what would you do differently.

This thread is shocking. I have three boys. I would want to know the truth. I would want my child to get therapy immediately. I would want my child to have accountability for his actions. Aren't these steps the only way the child has a chance at becoming a decent adult???

If the accusations are not true, that is a completely different question, and not a difficult one for anyone to answer, but OP never said they are not true.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.

As the best friend of a rape survivor, go to hell.

So a boy who assaults someone once at 13 should die? You don’t think the parents have a responsibility to help him? What is appropriate?

np I don't think anyone is saying the kid should die but, you should get him therapy and he should pay for his crime in some capacity. Don't you think? Are you saying it is ok to rape or sexually assault someone?

I have public defenders and sex assault investigators in my family.

1. I would get my son a therapist.
2. I would consult a lawyer (my sex assault investigator family member always talked about lawyer who thought they could handle their own kids cases and they always blow it. If this is not you specialty you are a parent not a lawyer.)
3. I would find out exactly what happened. Your kid needs to tell exactly what happened so the lawyer can help you.
4. I would advise my son of his right. He should know not to talk to a cop ever. Just say ... am I being detained? If not leave. Am I under arrest? If not leave. If they won’t let him leave only say “ I can’t talk to you without my lawyer” if he’s a minor say “I can’t talk to you without my parent”

Everybody has the right to accost investigation.
Nibody should be compelled to provide evidence against the self.

Cops are Liars and generally really, really stupid so they will try a fake case and that is the sad reality.

I would move him to a private school if she is in his school.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.

As the best friend of a rape survivor, go to hell.

Who doesn’t have a friend that’s a rape survivor?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A three year old claim? Is that it? No witness, no corroborating texts like him apologizing or her asking him why he did it? No rape kit or police report? Just some girl coming out of the blue saying Timmy touched me without my permission?

I wouldn't do shit.

If she went to the police or filed a civil suit, I'd hire an attorney with experience pursuing libel and slander and rabidly go after her.

Thanks for this post. I just looked this up, and found that rapists and abusers of all kinds ARE in fact using defamation lawsuits to further victimize the people they raped and abused when those people came forward. Just made a donation to the Time's Up Legal Defense Fund (https://nwlc.org/times-up-legal-defense-fund/) for their work to defend survivors of sexual assault and "rabidly go after" the lowlife rapists and abusers.

Cheers!

Ok but what if you were sure your son had not done this and everyone at his school things he did something awful before he even hit puberty. Wouldn’t you want to put a stop to that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.

As the best friend of a rape survivor, go to hell.

So a boy who assaults someone once at 13 should die? You don’t think the parents have a responsibility to help him? What is appropriate?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.

As the best friend of a rape survivor, go to hell.

Anonymous wrote:A three year old claim? Is that it? No witness, no corroborating texts like him apologizing or her asking him why he did it? No rape kit or police report? Just some girl coming out of the blue saying Timmy touched me without my permission?

I wouldn't do shit.

If she went to the police or filed a civil suit, I'd hire an attorney with experience pursuing libel and slander and rabidly go after her.

Thanks for this post. I just looked this up, and found that rapists and abusers of all kinds ARE in fact using defamation lawsuits to further victimize the people they raped and abused when those people came forward. Just made a donation to the Time's Up Legal Defense Fund (https://nwlc.org/times-up-legal-defense-fund/) for their work to defend survivors of sexual assault and "rabidly go after" the lowlife rapists and abusers.

Cheers!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know first if he did it. This would be very important to me and I would be unable to think of anything else until I had established this. And it would influence how I proceeded.

And any admission to you of guilt would not be privileged.

If her son is a minor, yes it is privileged.

My son is 24 and I am not the OP. But I would not be able to bring myself to help him fight a charge if I knew it was true.

As the mom of a troubled kid, I can assure you that if you ever found yourself in this situation, you will be surprised by your thought process.