I would do this only if everyone was vaccinated and my in laws were chill (which they are not). But the idea of having an event just so my in laws' friends can meet a 4mo baby is the sort of thing that drives me batty, so ymmv. Outdoors I would think the risk is pretty low.

Anonymous wrote:4 month old hasn’t met anyone other than us and grandparents. Grandparents want to “show her off” to some of their friends in a park during an outdoor event. Problem is, their friends won’t be wearing masks as it’s an outdoor event with eating. Is this too risky?

I think it is. I’m planning to take my newborn to an outside synagogue service where everyone will be wearing masks and keep 6ft distance. No masks and uncertain distancing - no way.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can’t believe people are still this afraid of the virus. It’s really shocking to me. How long will you stay afraid?

Taking sensible precautions against an illness my child can’t be vaccinated against? Probably forever. How long are you going to stay afraid of car accidents and do ridiculous things like “wear seatbelt”?

How long are people like you going to act like being vaccinated and socializing outdoors is an unimaginable burden?

Or that even if I don't get sick myself, I'm social distancing and getting the vaccine because I don't want to be a vector to make other people sick either.

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t believe people are still this afraid of the virus. It’s really shocking to me. How long will you stay afraid?

Taking sensible precautions against an illness my child can’t be vaccinated against? Probably forever. How long are you going to stay afraid of car accidents and do ridiculous things like “wear seatbelt”?

How long are people like you going to act like being vaccinated and socializing outdoors is an unimaginable burden?

I would not allow that.

Some older people are the worst about vaccine/infection safety. My 80 year old aunt has gone full tinfoil hat and refuses both the vaccine and to wear a mask. Since my kid is in daycare, I'm not taking him around her, if she wants to pick up COVID and risk her life, I'm at least not going to be the person who gives it to her.

If this was a family event outdoors that you really wanted to go to it would be different IMO, but why take the risk with an infant just to "show off the baby" to people you don't really know? The in-laws can share pics and videos.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I found it super annoying when my in-laws were laser-focused on showing off my baby like some kind of trophy so I would just say no because why should I have to worry about my baby's health for your vanity?

Because the baby belongs to them too? Because it isn’t a risk to anyone’s health?

Baby belongs to them? Seriously? Is this some toy you’re talking about?
Get a clue, entitled grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:I would do it, but make sure everyone stays six feet away from the baby.

If someone starts stepping towards you, put your hand up and say "please stay back." You have to be willing to do that.

I don’t think grandparents would be willing to do that sadly. I would but it would probably annoy them and maybe it’s better not to go to avoid the whole situation

PP here. Yes, you will have to do it, they will not. I would warn them ahead of time. "We could potentially come, but we're going to stay 6 ft away from people, and if they get to close, I'm going to actively tell them to back up. Are you okay with that?" If they say "well that's a bit rude I think as long as we're outside, it's okay..." then you don't go. If they say "we understand" then go and do it.

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t believe people are still this afraid of the virus. It’s really shocking to me. How long will you stay afraid?

Kindly tell this to my uncle who lost his wife of 50 years to Covid yesterday.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I found it super annoying when my in-laws were laser-focused on showing off my baby like some kind of trophy so I would just say no because why should I have to worry about my baby's health for your vanity?

Because the baby belongs to them too? Because it isn’t a risk to anyone’s health?

uhh, excuse me?

First PP here LOL. Grandparents that want to spend time with their grandchildren should have some respect for the children's parents who are the ones dealing with late night wakings and changing diapers. It doesn't matter what your own personal views about the risks of Covid are or any other parenting issue. What the parents say goes, because they are the ones who decide how much effort they will put in to give children time with their grandparents. For us, seeing our in-laws has meant driving 5 hours with a screaming baby who hates the car. We do it because we do love them despite their faults, but it is our choice in the end. If your priority is showing off a young baby to your friends in person during a pandemic, I'd say your priorities are off, even if it's theoretically "safe". How about focusing on actually spending time with your grandchild?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I found it super annoying when my in-laws were laser-focused on showing off my baby like some kind of trophy so I would just say no because why should I have to worry about my baby's health for your vanity?

Because the baby belongs to them too? Because it isn’t a risk to anyone’s health?

uhh, excuse me?

Anonymous wrote:Personally I found it super annoying when my in-laws were laser-focused on showing off my baby like some kind of trophy so I would just say no because why should I have to worry about my baby's health for your vanity?

Because the baby belongs to them too? Because it isn’t a risk to anyone’s health?

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Anonymous wrote:I just can’t believe people are still this afraid of the virus. It’s really shocking to me. How long will you stay afraid?

Sure. Just ignore the 500,000+ dead Americans (and others like my FIL who survived but have permanent lung and kidney damage).

Almost none of them were babies. Fear isn’t a good basis for policy or decisions - data are.

Personally I found it super annoying when my in-laws were laser-focused on showing off my baby like some kind of trophy so I would just say no because why should I have to worry about my baby's health for your vanity?