Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 16:52     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
This varies by region and culture.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 16:10     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We are Indian and would do a bare minimum of $1000 for direct nieces and nephews. For other extended family (cousins, children), it varies between $250 and $500 based on relationship (and whether they paid for our hotel room stay for attending their wedding - if they paid, we would do a $500 gift).


We're jewish and it's the same for us. Though usually the bride and groom don't pay for the hotel rooms - they reserve a block of them which gets us a discounted room.


NP here.
Among Indians it was customary for the brides family to pay for the room and board of the groom's family. Usually because the groom's family/friends would come to the bride's house where the marriage ceremony would happen. Nowadays, I am seeing several options - 1) bride's family pays for the room and board of the groom's party, 2) brides family pay for their side and groom family pays for groom's side, room gets reserved for a discount and individuals pay, 3) bride's family will pay for 10-15 rooms for the grooms but the rest of the guests pay for their rooms 4) discounted hotel rooms where everyone pays for their rooms.

To the Indian poster. We also follow pretty much the same. Another Indian poster.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 15:44     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Catholic from NYC/NJ. My dad gave my cousin 1k, but it was "from the family".
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 15:39     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Placesetting of their good silver or the equivalent price.


Um today..., no.

I hear this is not what they value. I’m 45 and I asked for China 20 years ago and have used it (maybe)10 times.

“These kids today” like being minimalists, IKEA, DIY, travel (non COVID time), being environmentally mindful, etc.

It’s easier to just give cash!


We don't value IKEA unless on the lower end of SES. It's a PIA and low quality in our experience. PP also said "or equivalent price"

I am young, recently married and did ask for china and crystal. We use them quite often but that is common with my UMC/UC upbringing. I would've asked for silver but have inherited multiple sets. It just really depends on them, their personality and background + lifestyle. We like to travel, entertain and are environmentally mindful sure. In contrast, BIL and his wife are delighted with their same Corelle melamine from college despite making $250k.

Cash is easiest of course but I do think lovingly of the people who gifted us our nice set of knives, EH bakeware, etc. every time we use them.


You are such a snob.

Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 15:35     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Placesetting of their good silver or the equivalent price.


Um today..., no.

I hear this is not what they value. I’m 45 and I asked for China 20 years ago and have used it (maybe)10 times.

“These kids today” like being minimalists, IKEA, DIY, travel (non COVID time), being environmentally mindful, etc.

It’s easier to just give cash!


We don't value IKEA unless on the lower end of SES. It's a PIA and low quality in our experience. PP also said "or equivalent price"

I am young, recently married and did ask for china and crystal. We use them quite often but that is common with my UMC/UC upbringing. I would've asked for silver but have inherited multiple sets. It just really depends on them, their personality and background + lifestyle. We like to travel, entertain and are environmentally mindful sure. In contrast, BIL and his wife are delighted with their same Corelle melamine from college despite making $250k.

Cash is easiest of course but I do think lovingly of the people who gifted us our nice set of knives, EH bakeware, etc. every time we use them.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 12:36     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:We are Indian and would do a bare minimum of $1000 for direct nieces and nephews. For other extended family (cousins, children), it varies between $250 and $500 based on relationship (and whether they paid for our hotel room stay for attending their wedding - if they paid, we would do a $500 gift).


We're jewish and it's the same for us. Though usually the bride and groom don't pay for the hotel rooms - they reserve a block of them which gets us a discounted room.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 10:24     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
I can’t I’m imagine $1000 is the norm and no, I’m not from the Midwest. Geez. I think it all depends on what you can afford. $100 is just fine...we’d probably do $250. I remember when we got married my dad’s partners each gave us $500, which I guess was the custom in their firm, but that felt like a huge amount.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 08:30     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
We are Indian and would do a bare minimum of $1000 for direct nieces and nephews. For other extended family (cousins, children), it varies between $250 and $500 based on relationship (and whether they paid for our hotel room stay for attending their wedding - if they paid, we would do a $500 gift).
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 07:56     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
How close are you to the niece? We would give $250 to close relations, $150 to ones we never see or really have a relationship with at all.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 06:55     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
$250 we just gave to a nephew who got married.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 06:43     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:Placesetting of their good silver or the equivalent price.


Um today..., no.

I hear this is not what they value. I’m 45 and I asked for China 20 years ago and have used it (maybe)10 times.

“These kids today” like being minimalists, IKEA, DIY, travel (non COVID time), being environmentally mindful, etc.

It’s easier to just give cash!
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 06:12     Subject: Re:Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:$250


+1
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 00:07     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:It depends what ethnicity and religion and class you are.


+1
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 00:05     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
$100.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2021 23:57     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Placesetting of their good silver or the equivalent price.