Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abuse via tech is a thing now. If you’re using things like this to track your spouse or a Nest cam etc to see who enters your house, it can be abusive to your spouse.

Everyone deserves privacy.

Nope. Security cameras don’t turn off when someone is sneaking around.

Difference between having a nest cam for security, and having it to spy on your significant other.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abuse via tech is a thing now. If you’re using things like this to track your spouse or a Nest cam etc to see who enters your house, it can be abusive to your spouse.

Everyone deserves privacy.

Nope. Security cameras don’t turn off when someone is sneaking around.

Personal privacy is not the same as public safety. Please don’t conflate the two.

You’re the one conflating household nanny cams or Ring doorbell cams YOU installed in YOUR own home with “personal privacy.”
Nothing to do with red herring public safety whatsoever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I ever got to the point that I thought DH was cheating on me and then felt the need to spy on him, I would just divorce instead. Even if he wasn't cheating, obviously there are major major issues in our marriage for me to get to that point.

Yup. Don't understand all the people who don't trust their spouses not to cheat, yet want to stay with them.

Ask Hillary Clinton what the best revenge is on that.

Yeah. Nothing like blaming the nestcam you’re fully aware of as “privacy invasion” during your lunchtime shag w your AP. Deflect much?

If I am so sure that my spouse is cheating, or so insecure about the possibility that I have the desire to track him, I’ll just hire a private investigator to gather evidence while I consult with my divorce attorney and/or therapist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I ever got to the point that I thought DH was cheating on me and then felt the need to spy on him, I would just divorce instead. Even if he wasn't cheating, obviously there are major major issues in our marriage for me to get to that point.

Yup. Don't understand all the people who don't trust their spouses not to cheat, yet want to stay with them.

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Anonymous wrote:If I ever got to the point that I thought DH was cheating on me and then felt the need to spy on him, I would just divorce instead. Even if he wasn't cheating, obviously there are major major issues in our marriage for me to get to that point.

Yup. Don't understand all the people who don't trust their spouses not to cheat, yet want to stay with them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abuse via tech is a thing now. If you’re using things like this to track your spouse or a Nest cam etc to see who enters your house, it can be abusive to your spouse.

Everyone deserves privacy.

Nope. Security cameras don’t turn off when someone is sneaking around.

Personal privacy is not the same as public safety. Please don’t conflate the two.

If I ever got to the point that I thought DH was cheating on me and then felt the need to spy on him, I would just divorce instead. Even if he wasn't cheating, obviously there are major major issues in our marriage for me to get to that point.

Anonymous wrote:Abuse via tech is a thing now. If you’re using things like this to track your spouse or a Nest cam etc to see who enters your house, it can be abusive to your spouse.

Everyone deserves privacy.

Nope. Security cameras don’t turn off when someone is sneaking around.

This would never occur to me and I can imagine it would be hell to be in a relationship where it would be top of mind.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abuse via tech is a thing now. If you’re using things like this to track your spouse or a Nest cam etc to see who enters your house, it can be abusive to your spouse.

Everyone deserves privacy.

Cheating via tech is abuse.

So report it to the police. See what they do.

Anonymous wrote:I’d rather just track my child. If I feel like have to track my SO, we are already done.

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Anonymous wrote:We already both track each other with "Find My" on our phones. It's super handy to know when they will arrive for getting meals ready or to make sure a schedule change is remembered (so DH DID leave to pickup Larla, I see his dot moving). I guess unlike a Tag they can turn it off, but the principle of tracking is kind of there anyways.

I mean, my DH can't remember his iCloud password, that falls to me, so I know where his phone is regardless.

Our whole family uses “Find My”

If my spouse suddenly turned his off, yes I’d be suspicious.

I found out my ex was cheating through find my phone, but it was a blessing as the relationship was long over and it just made it easier for us to discuss it. I never would have thought of it before then and it certainly doesn’t occur to me to do it with my current significant other, as I know he isn’t cheating, and I knew my ex wasn’t prior to then. If you feel the need to do this, that urge is the indicator, not the actual result. Sorry, your relationship is over.