Anonymous wrote:I never could date an actual "short" guy - like the kind who would have a complex about it - because I'm 5'10. But by the same token I'm fine dating a guy shorter than me - my husband is. It's kind of funny to me hearing someone 5'5" explain that they can't date someone 5'7" because SHOES. Baby, you just don't like him (or are shallow about height in general); you're not tall.

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Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

Anonymous wrote:Happy with my shorter dh, I'm 5'10". He's really funny and loves me.

Anonymous wrote:Hard pass because I’m 5’2. My last boyfriend was 6’4.

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Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'4", so there aren't many men who are shorter, but I have dated men who are my height, and usually date men on the shorter side. I'd say 5'7"-8" is a perfect height for me. I wouldn't turn down an otherwise great guy, but I really dislike men over 5'10".

Theyre often dull. They have no idea how to pursue because women flock to them.

Anonymous wrote:Short men typo come with overcompensating and insecurity issues. Hard pass.

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'4", so there aren't many men who are shorter, but I have dated men who are my height, and usually date men on the shorter side. I'd say 5'7"-8" is a perfect height for me. I wouldn't turn down an otherwise great guy, but I really dislike men over 5'10".