Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:27     Subject: Re:Resentful of rich kids
DH and I are children of poor immigrants. Not only did they not help us financially, we support both because they had very little savings for retirement.

Not getting a down payment and college tuition paid for is not the end of the world.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:23     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:Stop saving for college. Start getting your kids used to the idea that they won't go to a typical 4 year university. They may need to find other ways to fund college. It's ok, really.


+1. Kids without academic talent don't need to go to college and probably won't be happy there.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:23     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.

Tell that to your parents. Why haven't they done better by you?
There are plenty of poor people who lived frugally and made right job choices to be able to pay for their kids college.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:20     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


Welcome to America! (Actually the home part applies to the entire rich world from Australia to Sweden to South Korea.)


America is really the only rich country where the middle class can buy an affordable home in a decent mid-sized city.


That is completely untrue.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:20     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Stop saving for college. Start getting your kids used to the idea that they won't go to a typical 4 year university. They may need to find other ways to fund college. It's ok, really.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:19     Subject: Re:Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:DC is a tough area. I don't think I fully appreciated how the money and the competitiveness saturates you and your lifestyle until you left. We live in a rural area now and WOW do I feel like we have it good, whereas before I always felt like the poorest person in the room.


Same.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:16     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


How do you feel about people in other countries being resentful of you having all these opportunities that you have in the US, meanwhile they have to dig through trash piles to find empty bottles.


That is such a gross overstatement of other countries. Most "other countries" are not digging through piles of trash trying to find empty bottles. What you are referring to is the less than 10% now that is below poverty. That is a small percentage of the planet so let's not paint the rest of the world with that brush.

Though yes, the US population overall is greatly privileged.


No one said this is representative of people in other countries. But do you deny that there are people in other countries like this? Most people living in the US are not resentful of the rich like the OP. I was illustrating the fact that resentment like those felt by the OP exists only due to context, and that it's irrational to ascribe negative feelings towards people simply because of their greater access to resources and privilege (rich).
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:15     Subject: Re:Resentful of rich kids
DC is a tough area. I don't think I fully appreciated how the money and the competitiveness saturates you and your lifestyle until you left. We live in a rural area now and WOW do I feel like we have it good, whereas before I always felt like the poorest person in the room.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:11     Subject: Re:Resentful of rich kids
I have moments like this. And I know it’s a flag that I need to get out of my bubble. So I suggest that. I’m in that bubble as well and I am jealous of a lot of my friends who’ve had that financial help. But I know I’m fortunate. And whenever I forget that (and I dk sometimes), it means I need to do some volunteer work or make more of an effort to widen my social circle.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:05     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


Honestly, I feel the same way and have to check myself. My bias is that most folks living in DC proper likely had down payments, tuition, and everything else handed to them and are sitting on trust funds/inheritance. I immediately dislike these folks and assume that they're worthless lazies and hyper pretentious. Yes, that's my bias and I try not to hire or interact with these folks. Am I right all the time? No. Am I right a good chunk of the time? Yes. Does it change anything? Not really. All you can do is keep working, OP. Raise your kids to be hard workers and hopefully keep them from being the handout, trust fund kids that we see so much of in this area. Honestly, you're likely more pleasant to be around anyway


You think that most people in DC have trust funds?

As for being pleasent o be around . . yikes. Have you checked out a mirror lately?

- No trust fund here, just a hard worker.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:00     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


Tell that to your parents. Particularly about college savings thing.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 13:42     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


How do you feel about people in other countries being resentful of you having all these opportunities that you have in the US, meanwhile they have to dig through trash piles to find empty bottles.


That is such a gross overstatement of other countries. Most "other countries" are not digging through piles of trash trying to find empty bottles. What you are referring to is the less than 10% now that is below poverty. That is a small percentage of the planet so let's not paint the rest of the world with that brush.

Though yes, the US population overall is greatly privileged.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 13:41     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Hey some perspective. You have a bed, clean water, and plumbing. You're already a winner.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 13:39     Subject: Re:Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:
Rich people love to tell the less wealthy to be grateful that at least they're not totally destitute. It's a great deflection from their leading role in perpetuating inequality.


What should they say? "Of course you should be resentful. Everyone should be rich! No one should have to save for a downpayment for a nice house in a good school district in a close in neighborhood! Houses should be free! Everyone can go to an elite college!"



Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 13:28     Subject: Resentful of rich kids
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful of all the rich people who get down payments and college savings handed to them. Meanwhile here we are working like little bees getting nowhere.


How do you feel about people in other countries being resentful of you having all these opportunities that you have in the US, meanwhile they have to dig through trash piles to find empty bottles.