Anonymous wrote:Update: well, this was on my mind and I mentioned it to my MIL when we saw her, and she said nursing babies are fine with the bride. I’m still going to work towards being able to leave him home, but it’s a relief to have this settled.

You are relying on the groom's aunt for this information? I would definitely get confirmation of that. This could end very poorly.

Number 2, with a conversation.

"Hey, cousin, I'm sorry but it looks like we'll have to change the RSVP to just me (DH). Here's what's going on. Obviously Larla would love to come, but we wanted to make sure she didn't have to bail t the last minute."

They may suggest some alternative - bringing the baby, waiting until the actual drop-dead date for RSVPs, or somethign else. But its important when your DH has this conversation that he isn't looking for a special accommodation. If they offer one, that's on them, but he should phrase it in such a way that it's obvious that you aren't expecting one, and won't be upset if none is offered.

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

That is truly terrible.

Update: well, this was on my mind and I mentioned it to my MIL when we saw her, and she said nursing babies are fine with the bride. I’m still going to work towards being able to leave him home, but it’s a relief to have this settled.

Both my babies stopped taking a bottle at two weeks old and NEVER took one again, no matter how much we tried. However, by 6 months the baby can eat some solids, you could spoon feed thin cereal made with breast milk, or you could even syringe milk into his mouth. Babies will sometimes take sippy cups by that age, too. If you want to go, then you should go. Your baby will have multiple ways of getting nourishment and not being hungry for 6 hours, even if he still refuses a bottle.

I’d mention the issue to whoever is hosting (aunt/uncle) and ask when they really need the true count by. Catering headcounts are usually due 4-6 weeks in advance. Don’t members of your husband’s family talk?

Can someone watch the baby close to the event? Otherwise I would plan to attend briefly...probably the ceremony since the timing is easier to plan.

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Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

People care, they are just to polite to say anything.

Agreed. Family did this at my sister wedding. He did not sleep as expected and interrupted the ceremony before they ended up leaving. We all love the little kid but no one was pleased with their choice.

2 is your only option right now.

Don’t bring the baby. They said not to. Wait and see how it goes. If it’s still an issue say the baby is sick and stay home and let DH go. Don’t talk about the bottle issue for 2 months and bore everyone in the family to tears in advance.

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Just skip the wedding yourself and let your DH catch up with his cousins. Don’t bring the baby.

If it’s local you could get a babysitter and go for a short period and leave before your husband.

My son's daycare used an open cup (think a small two oz cup) for him at 6 months because he refused to take a bottle. Pay the babysitter a little extra if you think it's going to be a terribly unpleasant experience, but honestly, 6 hours is ok and they can supplement with other foods/cereals, etc. Make a fortified cereal with breastmilk and spoonfeed.

It makes me sad that so many people think it's the woman's responsibility to miss out on a family event because she's breastfeeding than think creatively about possible solutions.

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

People care, they are just to polite to say anything.

I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

Let husband go and you stay home. You are not the first person in the world to face this issue.