omg OP even without a pandemic and another child this would be too much. 1 mont h before the delivery i just wanted to rest outside of work. not entertain. not for 2 WEEKS, not even for a day. no you are not being unreasonable at all.

Even if they were vaccinated or if covid wasn't a thing, I would also say absolutely not. You are not being unreasonable OP, I hope your DH can understand.

PP here -- don't usually advocate lying but if you're the only one going to MFM and OB appts, just tell your husband the Dr said No regardless of what they actually say. He doesn't deserve any better.

Agree with all the PPs that this is insanity. I had a baby recently during Covid, and have another DC as well. No reasonable person would want to introduce extra Covid risks right around your due date! Plus I'm sure your exhausted. And honestly I viewed it as a special time for our family as it was about to change, especially as a big change for our toddler. No way I would have wanted all of that upended by some adults who aren't even in an emergency situation but rather a foreseeable situation they created themselves and need to figure out without this massive imposition. I'm appalled at them and your DH.

Need a place to stay = Hotel

He can see them. Outside w/caution

What kind of man puts his friends over his heavily pregnant wife?

I would have said no to this pre-pandemic as well. Completely unreasonable.

Why can't they cancel or postpone this rental arrangement? Why did they rent out their home if they have no where to stay?

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Pregnant women are at much higher risk of covid complications. Not to mention if you’re test positive at the hospital. No no hell no.

You could also end up delivering early and need to bring the baby home. Are they still keeping mom and baby separate if mom tests positive?

Yeah this is a hard no. Are these friends childless because NO ONE I know would intrude, even during non-COVID times, during the last month of pregnancy while that person is working FT, has another kid, etc.

WTF

Absolutely not. Pregnant women are at much higher risk of covid complications. Not to mention if you’re test positive at the hospital. No no hell no.

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Anonymous wrote:100% absolutely NOT. You would be putting your unborn child in danger. This is divorce level stuff.

Agree. The fact she had preeclampsia last time puts it way over the edge and I am never the person to throw out the D word.

No it’s not divorce level stuff. Not every problem is resolved by divorce. OP I get where you are coming from. I would feel the same way and you are definitely not being unreasonable. But if you do end up accommodating your husbands request tell him from the get go that you will need to establish some house rules and that you will be doing zero when it comes to being a good host. I was out in the same situation by DH where is college aged nephew came to stay with us for three weeks. I relented because he was dealing with some family issues but man it was exhausting. I basically kept to myself which was difficult since we live in a townhouse. But in the end those weeks ended.

Stand your ground. Too bad your DH is being unreasonable.

Anonymous wrote:100% absolutely NOT. You would be putting your unborn child in danger. This is divorce level stuff.

Agree. The fact she had preeclampsia last time puts it way over the edge and I am never the person to throw out the D word.

No you're not being unreasonable. I was on hard core lockdown when I was that pregnant because I did not want to be sick with covid while pushing out an 8lb baby. Even outside of covid alot of women are wrapping up projects, cleaning, organizing baby gear, bulk cooking and trying to rest before baby.