Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

+1

Lesbian here. My wife and I have our issues but damn. Could not have made it with a dude even if I had wanted to.

Just as it’s ridiculous to generalize about all women, it’s ridiculous to generalize about all men.

- A woman who is happy in her marriage to a man

I'm not really generalizing.

https://www.them.us/story/gay-marriage-is-better

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/04/same-sex

https://www.advocate.com/people/2020/2/13/study-gay-people-have-happier-marriages-straight-people

Anecdotally speaking, we have tons of married friends - gay and straight. From those observations alone, I stand by what I said. Of course not every man is the same, and that's not what I said.

Not the first time straight ladies have gotten butt hurt over this observation on DCUM.

I’m not straight; I’m bi. I just happen to be married to a man.

Also, none of your links actually prove that heterosexual marriages are less stressful or last longer than same-sex marriages. One of them says it’s too early to tell, based on the data available, and the other two links show that men in hetero marriages and women in same-sex marriages show similar stress levels.

Anonymous wrote:I’m vibrating with resentment for my husband. I have to ask him to help with kids. He’s a checked out babysitter at best.

It's not him. Turn off the vibrator!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

+1

Lesbian here. My wife and I have our issues but damn. Could not have made it with a dude even if I had wanted to.

Just as it’s ridiculous to generalize about all women, it’s ridiculous to generalize about all men.

- A woman who is happy in her marriage to a man

I'm not really generalizing.

https://www.them.us/story/gay-marriage-is-better

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/04/same-sex

https://www.advocate.com/people/2020/2/13/study-gay-people-have-happier-marriages-straight-people

Anecdotally speaking, we have tons of married friends - gay and straight. From those observations alone, I stand by what I said. Of course not every man is the same, and that's not what I said.

Not the first time straight ladies have gotten butt hurt over this observation on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

+1

Lesbian here. My wife and I have our issues but damn. Could not have made it with a dude even if I had wanted to.

Just as it’s ridiculous to generalize about all women, it’s ridiculous to generalize about all men.

- A woman who is happy in her marriage to a man

OP, you must stick up for your son. If confronting your husband has proven unsuccessful, I would suggest writing a somewhat brief email where you acknowledge how much he cares and try and compliment him on something relating to parenting but then clearly and directly tell him that his behavior relating to sports is hurting your son. Don't say, "I think" or "I believe"....say "it is" and tell him that he must stop. I've done this. And honestly my husband typically responds well. Then again, I married a pretty nice guy who is quick to anger.

Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

+1

Lesbian here. My wife and I have our issues but damn. Could not have made it with a dude even if I had wanted to.

Anonymous wrote:Same. Can't even find a couples counselor - they're all booked up.

Most counselors are doing telehealth now so don’t limit yourself to the dc area. I got a recommendation from a friend who lives a couple states away for a counselor she loved and booked with her fir telehealth.

I’m vibrating with resentment for my husband. I have to ask him to help with kids. He’s a checked out babysitter at best.

Well, I'm sick of my wife so everyone's in some sort of boat. Deal with it. Life isn't perfect. Never suppose to be.

I had to check the date on this post to be sure that I didn’t write it. I don’t understand how DH doesn’t see how he acts like a stereotypical crazy sports dad. Our son is wonderful but he’s not a die hard athlete and he still tries his hardest. And now he’s starting to do it with our daughter too. If you want to talk more about it, let me know. Maybe we can email. This is the one thing we fight about and about once a quarter it explodes. I hate it.

Anonymous wrote:So just leave already!

Meanwhile women who stay in a sexless marriage means you accept he’s getting it elsewhere.

My goodness, what a brilliant solution. Just leave OP. Why didn't you think of that?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We just moved into a bigger house that I really didn’t want to, because I felt like I was trapping myself. I am mostly happier because I have more space to myself, but it’s also an albatross. Tomorrow he’ll act like everything’s back to normal. He can never apologize or grow from his mistakes.

Same here. DH never apologizes and will not address his issues. I married Mr. Perfect. It's never him, it's me. I'm the source of all problems. If I dare complain about something or ask him to address something, he lashes out and gets snide because how dare I.

Anonymous wrote:So just leave already!

Meanwhile women who stay in a sexless marriage means you accept he’s getting it elsewhere.

He’s the one with no drive. So perhaps not.

I witnessed a man bullying his son during a rec basketball game. The dad was a parent coach. Ugh! It was the saddest thing I ever saw. The son literally stared off into the distance while the A hole dad went off. Sorry to tell you that this kid’s life was troubled (either drugs or police). Don’t allow this in your son’s life.

So just leave already!

Meanwhile women who stay in a sexless marriage means you accept he’s getting it elsewhere.