Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 17:39     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:DH and I did this with our nanny. We paid $200 for being on standby.

How different is that from her actual pay? If it’s close, I’d just pay her to come anyway, if she were willing.

Bu I don’t see why you assume neither of you would be up for taking care of your own kids. Tbh.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 17:34     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our wonderful nanny, who has never once called in sick in three years, was out for two days after her 2nd covid vaccine. DH and I are both scheduled to get our first and 2nd doses on Fridays and are worried we might have similar side-effects.

Would it be unfair to ask nanny to be on standby for those weekends, especially the 2nd shot weekend in case we need her? We’d pay time and a half if we do need her but what should we pay for stand-by?

I know our nanny and she will say “nothing” if we ask her.


Having to get up and travel to take care of children in someone else’s home where you feel compelled to be “on” for a job is completely different than being able to lay around in sweat pants and let your kids watch cartoons and order pizza if you do end up both feeling under the weather....especially since there are two of you and the chances of both of you being totally incapacitated by the vaccine are tiny!

Asking your nanny to be on call for this situation is completely different than her (reasonably) requesting to use her earned leave anticipating that she may be feeling rundown. I’m an essential worker whose whole office was vaccinated around the same time and about 50% took some paid leave following the vaccine. I don’t know if a single person who called in reinforcements to help parent their children.


And yes if you do still choose to do this of course you pay her to clear her calendar for you.


Agree to all of this.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 17:00     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our wonderful nanny, who has never once called in sick in three years, was out for two days after her 2nd covid vaccine. DH and I are both scheduled to get our first and 2nd doses on Fridays and are worried we might have similar side-effects.

Would it be unfair to ask nanny to be on standby for those weekends, especially the 2nd shot weekend in case we need her? We’d pay time and a half if we do need her but what should we pay for stand-by?

I know our nanny and she will say “nothing” if we ask her.


Having to get up and travel to take care of children in someone else’s home where you feel compelled to be “on” for a job is completely different than being able to lay around in sweat pants and let your kids watch cartoons and order pizza if you do end up both feeling under the weather....especially since there are two of you and the chances of both of you being totally incapacitated by the vaccine are tiny!

Asking your nanny to be on call for this situation is completely different than her (reasonably) requesting to use her earned leave anticipating that she may be feeling rundown. I’m an essential worker whose whole office was vaccinated around the same time and about 50% took some paid leave following the vaccine. I don’t know if a single person who called in reinforcements to help parent their children.


And yes if you do still choose to do this of course you pay her to clear her calendar for you.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 16:58     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:Our wonderful nanny, who has never once called in sick in three years, was out for two days after her 2nd covid vaccine. DH and I are both scheduled to get our first and 2nd doses on Fridays and are worried we might have similar side-effects.

Would it be unfair to ask nanny to be on standby for those weekends, especially the 2nd shot weekend in case we need her? We’d pay time and a half if we do need her but what should we pay for stand-by?

I know our nanny and she will say “nothing” if we ask her.


Having to get up and travel to take care of children in someone else’s home where you feel compelled to be “on” for a job is completely different than being able to lay around in sweat pants and let your kids watch cartoons and order pizza if you do end up both feeling under the weather....especially since there are two of you and the chances of both of you being totally incapacitated by the vaccine are tiny!

Asking your nanny to be on call for this situation is completely different than her (reasonably) requesting to use her earned leave anticipating that she may be feeling rundown. I’m an essential worker whose whole office was vaccinated around the same time and about 50% took some paid leave following the vaccine. I don’t know if a single person who called in reinforcements to help parent their children.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 16:39     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
So, OP, you've never had to care for your kids while sick before?

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking, provided that you're willing to pay an on-call fee, but I'm a little surprised you think it's worth doing.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 16:33     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
With two adults in the house, one of you will be able to care for the kids. Odds are good that you won’t both be taken out badly by the second dose. If you feel that you must ask nanny to be on standby, I would offer $100 or something for her inconvenience.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 16:29     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
DH and I did this with our nanny. We paid $200 for being on standby.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 16:23     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Not sure why OP is getting rude responses. Another nanny here. I've been on stand by before and wouldn't have a problem doing it if I were asked. I'd charge more than pps, probably $150 each day since I also do date night sitting on Fri/Sat evenings so would have to give those up.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:40     Subject: Re:Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:I remember your post. I would bet anything you’re still annoyed at your nanny for asking to use sick days. And you’re trying to subtly get back at her. You do not need a nanny if you and your husband are both home. You’re just being low key vindictive. If you truly want her to be on call, give her 100 bucks and then pay time and a half if you ask her to come in.


+1 sorry op but I remember your post and I’m glad you let the nanny take her days but it kind of seems like you feel like she owes you now, which she does not. Between the two of you I really think you should be ok. It’s unlikely both of you will have terrible reactions. My husband just had his second dose TJ is week and he was tired but he could definitely parent. Obviously everyone is different but it’s likely both of you won’t be bedridden. It’s probably ok if you want to pay her to be on standby but it just strikes me that you’re asking about this after your other post
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:39     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
You can plan ahead for a few low key days. Make meals up ahead or order food in. Hang out in bed for family movie marathon if needed.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:39     Subject: Re:Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
I wouldn’t have a problem with the request.

-nanny
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:34     Subject: Re:Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Your side effects will probably be mild flu like illness after shot 2 (aches, tiredness, low grade fevers, headaches). Nothing you and your husband can’t tag team for, with extra screen time for the kids. Different from planning ahead of time to use your accrued PTO from your job. Your family is different from your job.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:31     Subject: Re:Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
I remember your post. I would bet anything you’re still annoyed at your nanny for asking to use sick days. And you’re trying to subtly get back at her. You do not need a nanny if you and your husband are both home. You’re just being low key vindictive. If you truly want her to be on call, give her 100 bucks and then pay time and a half if you ask her to come in.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:28     Subject: Re:Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and of course I would standby for free. I’ve done it for two births already.

A thank you gift is always nice but not necessary.


FWIW when I nannied I would never have done this for free. I would be on call for 1/2 my hourly rate.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2021 13:25     Subject: Is it fair to ask our nanny to be on standby for one weekend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t get it. Just book her for the hours. If you end up feeling fine catch up on laundry.


Nanny here and I would hate to give up a weekend for no reason.

OP, I would be fine being on stand-by. These are unusual times. And I did it when my employer was nearing her due date with change #2 before.


+2. No way would I want to work 12 straight days for no reason!

Just ask your nanny, OP, and trust her answer.