If this is so, why are parents pressuring kids to get into top colleges when they can’t emotionally, mentally tolerate it? I recently heard of a college student suicide, I’m heart broken. This coupled with the worlds mess, childhood is now limited to toddler years. Sad.

Anonymous wrote:20+ year olds aren't teenagers.

Exactly. The wording of this article is problematic. A 25 year old brain is not a teen's brain.

A person is an adult at age 18.

The brain changes throughout life. For example, we start to see declines in working memory as early as age 30. Our cerebral cortex thins as we age and synapse connections drop - and not just when we are all grey haired seniors.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids, owned a home, was married and had two college degrees at age 25. I’m 43 now, and I think this gives older teens (young adults) a pass to not have their crap together, or an excuse for lousy decision making. I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination, and raising teens is difficult, but I expect them to use their heads and rise to the occasion.

Proof that people under the age of 25 should not be making decisions.

Your not a neurologist either.

*You are not*

Well I’m still happily married, and have gone on to have a wonderful life. Sometimes you meet the right person early. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids in your 20s.

You also have no sense of humor.

Lighten up Francis.

Getting married at 25 is not proof you made good decisions. Actually you probably made a shit ton of bad decisions just like every other 20-25 year old.

Being “happily married” is also not proof you never made bad decision. Also it’s not proof your H didn’t make bad decisions behind your back that you never found out about.

DP. It's actually you who needs to lighten up. You sound utterly miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had two kids, owned a home, was married and had two college degrees at age 25. I’m 43 now, and I think this gives older teens (young adults) a pass to not have their crap together, or an excuse for lousy decision making. I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination, and raising teens is difficult, but I expect them to use their heads and rise to the occasion.

Proof that people under the age of 25 should not be making decisions.

Your not a neurologist either.

*You are not*

Well I’m still happily married, and have gone on to have a wonderful life. Sometimes you meet the right person early. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids in your 20s.

You also have no sense of humor.

Lighten up Francis.

Getting married at 25 is not proof you made good decisions. Actually you probably made a shit ton of bad decisions just like every other 20-25 year old.

Being “happily married” is also not proof you never made bad decision. Also it’s not proof your H didn’t make bad decisions behind your back that you never found out about.

I never said I didn’t make one single bad decision, but no it certainly wasn’t a shit ton. Those were all good, responsible, adult decisions and you tried to portray them as negatives. The point is that 18-25 year olds are perfectly capable of responsible decision making. I do not think they should be off the hook because their brains are not fully developed. They are still adults.

+1.

“They aren’t fully developed” is just a bunch of psychobabble that the helicopter/snowplow set uses to make them feel better about themselves because they basically have their identity tied up in their kids and can’t bear the thought that the kid might not NEEEED them to come to the rescue for the rest of their adult lives.



It’s a sick and twisted cop out with really poor results.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had two kids, owned a home, was married and had two college degrees at age 25. I’m 43 now, and I think this gives older teens (young adults) a pass to not have their crap together, or an excuse for lousy decision making. I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination, and raising teens is difficult, but I expect them to use their heads and rise to the occasion.

Proof that people under the age of 25 should not be making decisions.

Your not a neurologist either.

*You are not*

Well I’m still happily married, and have gone on to have a wonderful life. Sometimes you meet the right person early. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids in your 20s.

You also have no sense of humor.

Lighten up Francis.

Getting married at 25 is not proof you made good decisions. Actually you probably made a shit ton of bad decisions just like every other 20-25 year old.

Being “happily married” is also not proof you never made bad decision. Also it’s not proof your H didn’t make bad decisions behind your back that you never found out about.

I never said I didn’t make one single bad decision, but no it certainly wasn’t a shit ton. Those were all good, responsible, adult decisions and you tried to portray them as negatives. The point is that 18-25 year olds are perfectly capable of responsible decision making. I do not think they should be off the hook because their brains are not fully developed. They are still adults.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had two kids, owned a home, was married and had two college degrees at age 25. I’m 43 now, and I think this gives older teens (young adults) a pass to not have their crap together, or an excuse for lousy decision making. I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination, and raising teens is difficult, but I expect them to use their heads and rise to the occasion.

Proof that people under the age of 25 should not be making decisions.

Your not a neurologist either.

*You are not*

Well I’m still happily married, and have gone on to have a wonderful life. Sometimes you meet the right person early. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids in your 20s.

You also have no sense of humor.

Lighten up Francis.

Getting married at 25 is not proof you made good decisions. Actually you probably made a shit ton of bad decisions just like every other 20-25 year old.

Being “happily married” is also not proof you never made bad decision. Also it’s not proof your H didn’t make bad decisions behind your back that you never found out about.

The best part of the fact that their frontal lobe is not fully formed is that they make mistakes... lots of mistakes. They learn to deal with mistakes and that life has ups and fines.

The worst adults are those that have their 1 “down” at 50, they never learned to cope and have a nervous breakdown.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids, owned a home, was married and had two college degrees at age 25. I’m 43 now, and I think this gives older teens (young adults) a pass to not have their crap together, or an excuse for lousy decision making. I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination, and raising teens is difficult, but I expect them to use their heads and rise to the occasion.

Proof that people under the age of 25 should not be making decisions.

Your not a neurologist either.

*You are not*

Well I’m still happily married, and have gone on to have a wonderful life. Sometimes you meet the right person early. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids in your 20s.

Anonymous wrote:No, it just reinforces why your job of parenting doesn't really end until age 25 or so.

^^ the no was to the 'are you off the hook' part, not the brain development part.