Anonymous
Post 03/23/2021 11:24     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:We clearly travel in different circles. Some of my friends were also Ivy people, some not. No one projects our experiences onto the next generation.

Find better friends.


OP here. This is actually where I was going with my question. If I said “no, she visited and is not interested” (which is true), shouldn’t that be enough? I actually have no idea whether she would be admitted IF she applied. She is a strong student, but she is not applying. I feel like it is somehow more important to the “friend” than me - or even DC! I suspected it might have been malicious, in a not so passive aggressive manner.

Who keeps asking such a question and why? Weird.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 23:11     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:We clearly travel in different circles. Some of my friends were also Ivy people, some not. No one projects our experiences onto the next generation.

Find better friends.


Yeah the bit#%y smug reply circle.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 22:21     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
We clearly travel in different circles. Some of my friends were also Ivy people, some not. No one projects our experiences onto the next generation.

Find better friends.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 17:40     Subject: Re:If you went to an Ivy
Sadly, our kids have no chance of attending my husband's and my alma mater since it is pretty much completely impossible to get in from the DMV. I would also mention that it isn't the same down to earth, friendly place it was for us in the 1990's.

It has been a really positive thing for our kids to find their own colleges and make their own way.

I will add that my oldest confessed to feeling a ton of pressure for having two ivy league parents. Apparently, his fellow students were making the same assumptions that OP's friends were making. Sad for him but we set him straight and told him we wanted him to go to a school where he would be happy.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 17:34     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tangent comment. One thing I had to discover and convey to my child is that my SAT score from the late 1980s is on a different scale than now. My original SAT score is well below what my college has as its average SAT now.

Child thought that my SAT, which was really pretty good for the 1980s, was sort of mediocre. As a result, child kept suggesting I did not study hard, and so child need not study hard either. Child also used it as excuse to suggest that college was completely different then, so my opinions are meritless. Once I found a few webpages showing the conversion factor, child gained a little more respect for my score and my opinions.

Teens like to think we know nothing, but that’s not quite right.


Ha! Btdt! My DD’s MD and PhD parents (is, DH and me) are morons, if you ask them!


Lol I meant DH and I ...
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 17:32     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tangent comment. One thing I had to discover and convey to my child is that my SAT score from the late 1980s is on a different scale than now. My original SAT score is well below what my college has as its average SAT now.

Child thought that my SAT, which was really pretty good for the 1980s, was sort of mediocre. As a result, child kept suggesting I did not study hard, and so child need not study hard either. Child also used it as excuse to suggest that college was completely different then, so my opinions are meritless. Once I found a few webpages showing the conversion factor, child gained a little more respect for my score and my opinions.

Teens like to think we know nothing, but that’s not quite right.


Its weird that you told your kid your SAT score. Are in competing with your child?

I don't even remember mine.

Kid asked; I answered. I think they were trying to suss out whether I’d get into my college today. I dunno if it’s weird that I remember my score. My partner remembers theirs. So all I have to go on is a sample of two.


Yeah, sorry, you are right. It is probably more weird that I can't remember! I wonder if my mom knows?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 17:12     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:Tangent comment. One thing I had to discover and convey to my child is that my SAT score from the late 1980s is on a different scale than now. My original SAT score is well below what my college has as its average SAT now.

Child thought that my SAT, which was really pretty good for the 1980s, was sort of mediocre. As a result, child kept suggesting I did not study hard, and so child need not study hard either. Child also used it as excuse to suggest that college was completely different then, so my opinions are meritless. Once I found a few webpages showing the conversion factor, child gained a little more respect for my score and my opinions.

Teens like to think we know nothing, but that’s not quite right.


Ha! Btdt! My DD’s MD and PhD parents (is, DH and me) are morons, if you ask them!
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 16:53     Subject: Re:If you went to an Ivy
Spouse and I went to same ivy (met after!), and only 1 of our respective friends has a child who is going there - several have kids who were rejected, and most didn't apply. Of our friends in DC, most attended ivy or similar caliber colleges and I'd say same for their kids - a few attend but most don't. So I'd say most of my friends know how competitive it is to be accepted at these colleges nowadays and like PPs have said, we joke that we probably wouldn't get in today.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 15:30     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
My wife and I both attended the same Ivy. Our children did not apply. It would have been a far reach, even with the legacy hook. Based on my own experience, I have no regrets that they did not apply or attend.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 14:52     Subject: Re:If you went to an Ivy
As other posters have said, college admissions was different 30 years ago. My kid faces way more competition applying from Northern VA compared to my hometown in Ohio. Also, my parents didn’t have much income or wealth, do I attended for less than my in-state options. Today, my child would get no financial aid. We’re happy with his admission to UVA.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 14:39     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
I have had conversations with friends down to how much of a donation is required to have an application seriously considered from a donation perspective. We all laugh about it....no one I know of actually went down that route, but lots of alumni do.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 14:32     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
I don't remember mine but my spouse remembers.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 14:01     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tangent comment. One thing I had to discover and convey to my child is that my SAT score from the late 1980s is on a different scale than now. My original SAT score is well below what my college has as its average SAT now.

Child thought that my SAT, which was really pretty good for the 1980s, was sort of mediocre. As a result, child kept suggesting I did not study hard, and so child need not study hard either. Child also used it as excuse to suggest that college was completely different then, so my opinions are meritless. Once I found a few webpages showing the conversion factor, child gained a little more respect for my score and my opinions.

Teens like to think we know nothing, but that’s not quite right.


Its weird that you told your kid your SAT score. Are in competing with your child?

I don't even remember mine.

Kid asked; I answered. I think they were trying to suss out whether I’d get into my college today. I dunno if it’s weird that I remember my score. My partner remembers theirs. So all I have to go on is a sample of two.


It's not weird, both my spouse and I remember ours and our child asked as well, what are we going to do, say none of your business?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 13:56     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tangent comment. One thing I had to discover and convey to my child is that my SAT score from the late 1980s is on a different scale than now. My original SAT score is well below what my college has as its average SAT now.

Child thought that my SAT, which was really pretty good for the 1980s, was sort of mediocre. As a result, child kept suggesting I did not study hard, and so child need not study hard either. Child also used it as excuse to suggest that college was completely different then, so my opinions are meritless. Once I found a few webpages showing the conversion factor, child gained a little more respect for my score and my opinions.

Teens like to think we know nothing, but that’s not quite right.


Its weird that you told your kid your SAT score. Are in competing with your child?

I don't even remember mine.

Kid asked; I answered. I think they were trying to suss out whether I’d get into my college today. I dunno if it’s weird that I remember my score. My partner remembers theirs. So all I have to go on is a sample of two.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2021 13:50     Subject: If you went to an Ivy
Anonymous wrote:Do your friends with same age DC (seniors) assume that your DC will attend that school? Are they persistent about it? If so, do you find it rude (ie: assuming you have already answered no several times)?


My friends barely ask, and I would never be friends with people who were "persistent" about assuming my kid would attend the college I went to. My kids are not me. They are their own people with their own desires and goals in life. Why would anyone be friends with people who were like that?